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Girlfriend going out

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September 28, 2019
8 upvotes

Thought I’d make a quick post here. I’m mid twenties, girlfriend a couple years younger. Been together 4 years, have a baby together, unplanned.

I’ll jump straight to it, my gf is at a job party, I’m home with the sick child, no problems there. She said she’s probably gonna be a couple hours, then come home. Almost 4 hours later she calls and say the girls there wanted her so much to join them to city centre hitting either clubs or bars, not sure. I say I’m her bf not her boss and to do what she likes, so she’s going.

Thing is this gives me an unsettling feeling in my gut as in the 4 years we’ve been together she’s not gone out without me, we barely drink at all. My ex cheated on me on a night out so obviously this is assosiation anxiety, I see that.

So basically if she cheats I’ll probably never know, what can I best do to try and get that info without sounding like an insecure bitch? (which I am in this situation btw)


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Title Girlfriend going out
Author IATAsshole
Upvotes 8
Comments 22
Date 28 September 2019 08:43 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/287264
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/dall41/girlfriend_going_out/
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[–]RisingUpAgain24 points25 points  (3 children) | Copy

You are right, you will never really know. And if the kids yours (you’re sure it’s yours, right?) than what’s it really fucking matter. All it is is your brain throwing up a giant billboard that says “you’re not good enough faggot,”

Focus more on getting good enough that your brain no longer speaks to you like that.

[–]RoccoPinkman7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are right, you will never really know. And if the kids yours (you’re sure it’s yours, right?) than what’s it really fucking matter. All it is is your brain throwing up a giant billboard that says “you’re not good enough faggot,”

Focus more on getting good enough that your brain no longer speaks to you like that

Nice, I’ll take that too.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret9 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy

This is one of the toughest RP hurdles- getting to a place of DNGAF, abundance.

Where are you on the sidebar, lifts?

Sounds like you are being a great baby mama while she sees what’s out there. Don’t expect her home any time soon

[–]simbarlionRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

You fear an outcome you can't control.

Use the stoic trick

[–]dingleburry_joe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's a fucking good read. Reframing your problems into something you control. I like that.

[–]JCX_Pulse4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Personally, I feel like this isn’t a situation of a woman needing a “break out” night, where she feels she is still attractive even though she’s a “kept” woman with a kid. Doesn’t mean she’s gonna fuck a dude, but she needs to be reminded that she’s more than just a mom with a kid.

Let her do her. Show confidence. If she wants to fuck another guy and ruin what she has with you, her fucking loss. She won’t ever find someone as good as you. She gets to be a single mom searching for a dude who will support her and her kid. There are beta bitches out there more than happy to help you with child support. Good. You get to show your kid how to be a man (if it’s your kid is male?) and you get to fuck all the you poon you want with no fear.

Summary: she fucks, She loses.

[–]redditguy611 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sure, except for the child support he has to pay for 18 years.

[–]AdorableHyena2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

We need an update of course. Did she come home with the hot chick you requested?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy

You shouldn't try and get info, that's gay. My wife is going into the city with her hot friend to go to a concert. They will be getting a hotel and staying the night. Do I trust her? Sure. She wouldn't dare ruin the relationship she has with me. I have nothing to worry about and no reason to hamster because I know the value I bring to the table.

She mate guards herself. Tons of dudes try and fuck her even when we are in the same bar or party. She could cheat on you at the grocery store or in the back of her car. You can't stop cheating you can only mitigate the risk by being valuable. Are you valuable? If not fix that shit so you don't have to worry and hamster ways of sneaking info about her night.

If she cheats, it's your fault and you lost your turn.

[–]hack3geRed Beret4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Do I trust her? Sure. She wouldn't dare ruin the relationship she has with me. I have nothing to worry about and no reason to hamster because I know the value I bring to the table.

Damn man - really? You still have some work to do in this area.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Listen, I don't trust anyone. However, I am willing to bet she isn't going to fuck a dude at a concert. I have been 1/8th of the man I am today and she hasn't cheated. Last night she said she would be ok with sharing me if I told her she had to or I was out. For a woman, this bitch is dedicated and I haven't always been kind or good.

[–]hack3geRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I wasn’t concern with the trust part just the fact you didn’t think she would “dare” risk the relationship. She could have had chad balls deep in her in a bathroom stall when she went out just because she felt like it that night. You have the wrong attitude here - you should not care because she is replaceable. I honestly sometimes wish my wife would give me a reason to walk away now.

Last night she said she would be ok with sharing me if I told her she had to or I was out.

Was this before or after she went out?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Before. She goes out occasionally and is constantly hit on. It's nothing new here.

I wish I was given a reason too.

[–]juliusstreicher0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You are missing the whole point of getting info. It isn't to stop cheating, it is to learn the state of the relationship, so he can bail, if needed.

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You really won’t ever change how you feel. Even after you swallow the red pill you will still be insecure about this shit. Behavior out of the ordinary is usually at least a yellow flag. The goal is not let you feelings about this shit effect your behavior or what you know about the nature of cold hard truth. And Not being scared of losing her.



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