How do I be more witty

MattyAnon · 2019-10-09T22:21:08+00:00

I am not that funny- and I order to be funny I end up doing dumb shit which often results in me losing respect than being funny. People insult me, but I lack a good response and often say back something stupid which bites me back.

Ok.

Stop trying to be funny - it's just not important.

What you want is to be emotionally relevant. Say things that trigger emotions (literally any emotion except disgust). Talk in a way that appeals to the emotions. Talk ABOUT emotions. Talk about things that make people FEEL something.

This will make people say you're funny even when you're not making jokes, and it will make you more attractive and higher status.

And it's a LOT easier than trying to be funny. And the problem with trying to be funny: as soon as people detect the "trying" part, it doesn't work. And that's because humour is very, very connected with social dominance and status. Trying = low status.

and trying to roast other people

While it's fun to cut people down and a great part of banter - again it's not necessary and mostly it's ego battles anyway.

Protocol_Apollo · 2019-10-09T19:02:13+00:00

You need to read up on frame and shit tests (yes guys shit test too).

Averr0e5 · 2019-10-09T19:09:31+00:00

Having wit isn't just about having a good comeback or roasting people. It's the ability to make clever remarks/observations when faced with any given situation. I tend to be put in the same situations and conversations with all the different women I know and have developed lines for almost any occasions. For example, I get told "fuck you" a lot to which I usually respond "Maybe later I'm tired." which some might call witty. So you can think of what to say in imaginary scenarios and try them out in real life situations. However, wit is closely tied with intelligence and the ability to make humorous observations which means you should study people like comedians who make a career off the practice.

Wit definitely helps you make guy friends but you want to tone it down when initially meeting women as they're easily offended by things that were never meant to offend or often times just don't get what you mean and all the wit in the world is lost on them.

wtfoshizzle · 2019-10-09T22:44:19+00:00

watch alot of standup comedy. There is a fine line between being funny and being an annoying asshole. Study the delivery of people like Bill Burr in specific.

Deraileur · 2019-10-09T19:05:31+00:00

Stop dancing, Monkey.

mr4kino · 2019-10-09T19:37:13+00:00

Be yourself. Who cares about this wittiness. You want to have confidence not acting like a clown mate. Focus on yourself and you will see later on you will meet interesting people.

[deleted] · 2019-10-09T20:01:46+00:00

Confidence and self belief is key. You can say some dumb cringy shit back as long as you say it with conviction/no insecurity

Vermillion_Rx · 2019-10-09T20:59:07+00:00

Practice making associations and word-play. Do analogy practice problems. Being able to play existing conversations off of metaphors and analogies is one way. If you are good at correlating one topic to another you can make a quick-witted remark that people aren't expecting.

Double meaning is another one. Basically if you can improve on just your ability to work with words and connecting them to other things you will be wittier. This requires you to be good with knowing more words than just basic overused words.

I don't know if I'm explaining this right but it's the best I've got

TigerTamingSword · 2019-10-10T03:59:24+00:00

There's a youtube channel called the Art of Verbal War. It has some decent videos on the subject.

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-10-10T06:52:06+00:00

Are your friends funny?

frognads · 2019-10-10T07:54:43+00:00

Go live in scotland for a while.

Title	How do I be more witty
Author	throaway69404
Upvotes	14
Comments	16
Date	October 9, 2019 6:47 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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