I wanted to share a few things on how toughness comes across as the final form of an Alpha. Note that these viewpoints come from my own personal perspective and experiences in life.

Having been through some difficult times and struggling with social activities from a kid, not being toughened up by my parents and people in my social circle, I would come off as submissive and beta and in social groups I wasn't that capable.

  1. FRAME Building a frame, or let's better say remolding your frame from scratch since frame is a natural instinct which was manipulated and formed by society conditioning for purposes, is very difficult until you realize that NOBODY gives a fuck about you or how you see the world anyway. What works inside your head is either helping you get through or make you submissive and complacent. Reshaping your frame means take a deep look at your values and what you truly want in life. Do you want to be a beta bitch that gets used for the rest of your life or are you actually willing to go through the process of working mentally through introspection/meditation and realize your true potential? Read books, read the sidebar, go LIFT and get a grip on the slow progress. Check a few of the older posts on frame here and you're set. Read and repeat.

  2. LIFTING Go lift motherfucker. Get off that couch and start a gym membership, develop discipline and a plan and eat healthy. Lifting is a solid one on frame and physical, but also mental toughening. When I feel soft and lazy I go lift till I'm swollen. Fuck, every time I leave the gym I feel super confident and dare do look even the toughest dude in the eye, I won't hesitate walking straight my way without making room for them to pass, because they will make enough space for me to go on. Don't get me wrong and get into fights with it though. I'm not saying that you need to act like an angry idiot walking around bragging. Just lift and thank yourself later for the reward.

3.DRESS LIKE A SERIOUS MAN WOULD. Here, you can go and find the best fitting clothes near your taste, but I suggest you always have a pair of black and khaki muscle fit t-shirts to match with some black slim fit jeans with cuts. I combine this look with a pair of leather Chelsea boots and a classic watch. Simple, stylish and tough look. Black colors make you look tough. I also have a few Italian dress shirts and other jeans and trousers, for formal occasions. It is a true saying that whatever you wear makes you feel a certain way, wear clothes that make you feel confident and powerful. Also stand out.

All in all these are a few tips that might help some of you who are having trouble overcoming mental softness, in the end it comes down to a lot of things too like experience and willpower.