Here is a collection of behaviours/attributes that most TRPers will agree is a red flag when screening for an LTR, I made it years ago.

*RED FLAGS:*

alcohol / tobacco / drug addiction

marijuana usage

binge shopping / debt / declining credit cards

talking to ex’s all the time / friend zoning lots of random guys to keep as orbiters

Tattoos / abnormal-piercings / short-hair (like a boy’s) /colored-neon-hair

being blatantly manipulative

high-doses of entitlement or grandiosity

high-doses of self entitlement

criminal record that isn’t minor crimes

narcissistic or bipolar disorder

STDs or terminal illnesses

trivial things enrage her / drama queen

brain incapacity to distinguish between intentional and unintentional actions

likes to go out all the time without you, not with friends but to get attention/validation from strangers

doesn’t care if you orgasm, only cares for her own

depressive, problem-creator, gas-lighter

impulsiveness

passive-agressiveness or avoiding conflict to the point where they lie and hide things from you

neglectful / abusive parents

childhood abuse

seeing a psychiatrist

having only guys friends / having a lack of female friends

using powerful words in the wrong context (exaggerated) ‘molest’, ‘oppress’, ‘torture’, ‘rape’, ‘genocide’, ‘abuse’, ‘illegal’

doesn’t do you any sexual favours/desires except for the position she wants

inability to hold down a job or laziness

control freak / health freak / highly OCD (gets pissed that you left a glass somewhere or you didn’t clean something small and trivial)

highly emotional

she engages in gossip

she never views problems as her fault

her promises are flexible

her explanations don’t add up

she doesn’t show appreciation

she isn’t humble

she speaks ill of exes

she doesn’t know how to cook

she isn’t religious

she remembers offences and uses it as ammunition

constantly bored and always wants something new

big difference between how she treats you in public vs in private?

alpha widowed

rape claims in the past

at any points admits to destroying an exes belongings

bad/nonexistent relationship with father

lying to others, especially during phone calls

frequent clubbing, getting wasted

plastic surgery

makeup

cheating / non faithful in the past

single mom

divorcee

has ever used tinder / online dating

fucked her within the first few months (6 month grace period)

any type of sex worker

slutty friends, high amount of male friends or surrounds herself with gay bffs

she was in a sorority

self described feminist

she gives an amazing blowjob like a pro

her mother is a whale

she physically strikes you in any manner that is not playful

high partner count

she’s ever had a one night stand, even if ‘it was just one drunken night in college'

victim mentality

black, or green nail polish

house/bedroom isn’t clean

her family have disowned her

her ex boyfriends are always hanging around

she came out of a long term abusive relationship with some asshole

giving ultimatums ‘if you loved me, you would ’. I respond with ‘if you loved me, you wouldn’t be giving me ultimatums. We’re done. Bye.’

She is mean to random people

She boasts that she can’t “get along” with other girls, or claims that other girls ‘hate’ her

She constantly talks shit about her best friends

She has no friends

She posts how she “hates guys”

feminism or extreme left-wings views

overly protective of her phone

you met her at work

she asks “how much do you make”

she takes pride in ‘being one of the guys’

travelled solo around the world after college

irresponsibility / avoiding duties

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*BONUS: GREEN FLAGS:*

Responsible. Financially, doing chores, alcohol responsible behaviour

Empathetic

Facebook pictures are of her and female friends and family

previous partner count of 1 or 2.

Educated, strong conservative family, has a career

Any type of volunteer work

Virgin, especially if she is waiting until marriage

When you first gov over to her house she introduces you to all of her roommates

No cancelled dates, if she can’t go then she lets you know ahead of time and gives a counter offer

home cooked food not takeout

too young to have ridden the CC

Hard-work ethics

Sports/gym routines

Goes out of her way to do you favours in the bedroom

Slightly moderate/conservative. Likes tradition and traditional male-female roles.

Generous

Self-discipline, controls her behaviours

Clingyness to you

Happy/positive/optimistic attitude

Doesn’t get easily mad or irritated

Can talk rationality like a mature adult without getting mad at anything

Accepts your ideas and is submissive to your suggestions and proposals

When you challenge her, she acknowledges your views and/or changes her mind about an issue frequently when challenged

Does things that are done because she is anxious or fearful that you might get angry/irritated with her. So her does it out of respect for you

Nuturing/kind behaviour to others, even animals

Enjoys it when you make decisions for her

Hobbies, interests, reading non-fiction (indicates intelligence)

Cool hobbies: Ice skating, horse riding, knitting, sewing, cooking, decorating for christmas, playing with kids, painting, violin, piano, musical instruments, books, jane austin’s works, animals

*note: many green flags don't excuse red flags*