How to start living?

ExoticPanther · 2019-10-26T02:39:19+00:00

You don't sound in a good place at all. Your 'lower back pain' is probably soreness. You sound depressed and without direction. TRP can help you get yourself out of it, but nobody can do it for you. I'd genuinely go talk to someone to see if they think you might have depression too.

There are some things you can fix now. Don't complain about being without energy if your diet is shit. Eat like shit and you'll feel like shit. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and understand that you're going to need to get yourself out of it. Any exercise is better than none, if you actually can't do Squat or Deadlift then you still have a lot more exercises to do, personally it sounds like soreness from your routine that everyone will get at the beginning, but if not identify the cause and fix it.

Start eating right, do the exercises on a structured program with good form. Train hard, you'll be sore for your first few weeks but you'll eventually get used to it. I'd consider myself to be one of the nicer guys here, if someone else in the comments has harsher words take them on board. Right now you're a waster, but you can pull yourself out of it if you stop feeling sorry for yourself and take some charge in your life.

FieldLine · 2019-10-26T02:50:12+00:00

There is nothing anyone can say to you that will make you not a bitch.

You just rattled off a whole list of problems that you know are problems. You know what you need to do. It's time to grow up and take action, not find the right person to talk to.

CSauceHockey · 2019-10-26T02:37:14+00:00

Don’t feel sorry for yourself, start forcing yourself to do things you fucking retarded lazy sheep

iphone5000 · 2019-10-26T03:10:42+00:00

Brother, you need to have a list of things you stop doing and a list of things you start doing. First off relax, you're relatively young so don't feel like there's no hope.

First thing is grow a pair and start lifting and eating right. Maybe lay off squat and deadlifting for a bit but just go. I promise you if you go to the gym and work out hard 5-6 days a week you will start to feel better and it will improve your overall life.

2nd thing is go get a side job serving at a restaurant where there are a lot of people your age. You need a social scene where you can naturally make friends.

What productive hobbies do you have? You need to get out and be social, can't sit around wasting your time and life.

I know how you feel i've been in that place so many times, but you need to push through and realize you only get out of life what you put into it.

Start listening to a lot of EDM/Kayne's new album, you need those positive vibes to infiltrate your being.

Also try going to church, praying and getting in touch with your spiritual side.

You need to take account of your entire life from top to bottom and decide you want to turn it around.

You can do it!

wawakaka · 2019-10-26T03:08:46+00:00

first get out of bed and get out of the house.

you need to fast. see if you can fast for a whole day and just drink some clean spring water. go sit out in the sun light and get some fresh air.

junk food and sugar and raise your serotonin levels and kill your dopamine and adrenaline. sun light helps make dopamine by halting serotonin. its linked to your circadian rhythms.

start walking a few miles everyday.

Haytch1234 · 2019-10-26T04:06:18+00:00

Firstly. Own the fact you live at home . Its nothing to be ashamed of mate. Fuck what people and society say. But dont take it for granted.

The issue is comfort. When life becomes too comfortable you stop trying. Its comfortable eatinf shit food. Your bed is comfortable. Living at home and not needing a full time job is comfortable.

You need discomfort to grow and to bring the best out of you.

Clean up your diet. Fix up your sleep routine. Clean your room and do your bed and maintain a tidy room. This wont be done by itself it requires pro active effort.

You need to be more pro active. You need to take responsibility. If you didnt have your parents tou would be fucked. You would be a bum. A no body. And will fall deeper into a spiral of helplessness.

Go apply for a job. Any job will do. You need to develop the work ethic and earn income to give you some taste of independence. Explore what you like in the mean time. If you want to work more or go study etc.

As for the gym, its worth investing in a coach to teach you thr correct patterns to deadlift and squat. You will only need it for a few months before you can do it on your own.

Stop fucking around with your life and make something of yourself. Go achieve things. Your future self will thank you.

YourPapaLarry · 2019-10-26T03:48:15+00:00

Lots of “cants” in your post but no one here gives a shit about what you can’t do. What can you do ?

Looks to me like you can pinpoint what’s wrong with you and if you can figure out what’s wrong you can figure out ways to fix it.

Start small, get over this victim mentality bullshit. You're pandering to the wrong crowd

fix your sleeping habits.

There are alternative lifts....

Talinor09 · 2019-10-26T05:08:08+00:00

You get 84,600 seconds per day like everybody else, stop fucking wasting them.

Listen we all look back and most of us were fuck-ups or didn’t have their shit sorted back in their early 20’s, but I can guarantee you the one thing everybody on here wishes is that they put in more work back then.

Wake up and stop blaming others and fix your life because nobodies coming to save you. Living at your parents probably wouldn’t be so bad if you got a part-time job, earned some dollars and met some people.

And stop worrying about deadlift and squats. Start with bench if you have to and build out your routine over time. Small things snowball.

subbbw · 2019-10-26T05:09:39+00:00

Sit upright somewhere in silence.Breathe.Do this long enough and the answer will come to you.

fartt123 · 2019-10-26T06:41:43+00:00

lower back pain is from tight hip flexors(or related). you wanna follow a stretching routine after your back days. foam roll legs and upper back. as you grow more muscle things will stabilize themselves. start every exercise with laughably low weight to get the target muscles right then start adding up.

EDIT: I had back pain since i was 12. Went to doctors for it, but they didn't know. they wanted to just give me test shot in my back for the pain. Turns out it was because I had tight hips and weak back. Try stretching routine train your glutes. stretch at least once a week.

subbbw · 2019-10-26T08:26:19+00:00

Stop crying like a bitch for starters

Johndingus111 · 2019-10-26T03:17:01+00:00

Join a retard minstrel show

wkndatbernardus · 2019-10-26T03:54:59+00:00

Complain you stay the same.

Faggot.

MR_SKINNYPENIS69 · 2019-10-26T04:05:24+00:00

What do you want us to do about it? You literally know exactly what your problems are. We can't turn up at your house and make you get out of bed and force you to the gym.

rockyp32 · 2019-10-26T04:34:03+00:00

LISTEN GET KINOBODY PERFECT WORKIUT PLAN FOR YOU I was in the same position I couldn’t squat so I was like damn it’s pointless but his workouts you don’t need to you do different lifts instead

subbbw · 2019-10-26T07:30:45+00:00

If you can't fix your problems, how can I?

lukesterboi1 · 2019-10-26T08:33:18+00:00

You can get a degree so your job doesn't suck (unless you're a freelance programmer or whatever in which case just keep your certs current). Do community college first, shit's cheap. It's a start and you can use their gym too. You could use a major life change man

wkndatbernardus · 2019-10-26T11:26:10+00:00

Will you be a victim or a victor? This is completely your choice.

Kannonn · 2019-10-26T16:31:08+00:00

Take it one day at a time.

Everything stems from a good sleep cycle-- think of it as refilling your mental resources.

Disrupted sleep makes discipline and sticking to a rountine much harder.

Commit to going to bed and waking up at a consistent time every day. That's your number one priority. Use your new routine and commit to going to the gym 5 days a week.

As with most things in life, more than half the battle is just showing up. Get moving. The longer you slide into your lazy, depressed, self-imposed pit the harder it is to get out.

Decide for yourself you won't accept life like this and get moving. One step at a time.

Time's wasting.

clickherebaby · 2019-10-26T17:35:03+00:00

Life goes in one of 2 directions and in your rotting, sugar infested gut you know which one you're going in. Your intuition has told you everything you need to know.

stillah · 2019-10-28T14:16:20+00:00

clean up your diet man. replace the energy drinks with coffee and start eating as much beef, butter and high quality eggs as you can. you'll feel great in a couple weeks.

furyrp · 2019-10-26T03:33:32+00:00

I dunno what to tell you other than you also work at a fkn excuse factory. Tell you what, do these 4 things every day for 1 week before any of the other shit: * Go to bed bed before midnight * Wake up before 8 * Eat some healthier food and cut as much sugar out as you can * Go for a walk each day

If you can't even do this stuff for a week literally nothing else anyone says will matter.

Title	How to start living?
Author	subbbw
Upvotes	23
Comments	60
Date	October 26, 2019 2:28 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/dn7tle/how_to_start_living/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/how-to-start-living.292781 https://theredarchive.com/post/292781

Comments