Stay stoic in the worst of situations always pays off.

2015-03-01T05:15:41+00:00

Sorry about your daughter.

This really demonstrates how far women will go for attention. A man's daughter has fucking cancer and she tries to make it about her by offering bullshit "emotional support". Her response shows that women want to be dominated more than anything else -- when you saw through her tactic to divert your attention to herself and didn't put up with it, it turned her on because she didn't really want the attention -- she wanted an alpha to put her in her place.

unknowncitzen · 2015-03-01T08:41:42+00:00

Yeah, my GF tried this same shit when my aunt died (my aunt raised me for a few years, probably closer to me than my mother). Going through the process of grief and acceptance is important, and it's doubly important that I go through the process alone. Accepting loss and tragedy and ugliness is important. You can have a healthy emotional process like grief or anger and work through it internally, while externally being the same, disciplined man.

I have a few experiences with good friends / family getting cancer. They do not want you to cry and complain and sob with them. They want you to be normal around them, to treat like you used to. They do not want you to be weak with them, they want you to be strong for them. Some of the ways my mutual friends have acted around my friend who got stomach cancer makes me sick - constantly shoveling their emotional support and "everything will be OK think positive!" and "let it out, c'mon CRY, it's not healthy to bottle up..." down the poor bastard's throat. It's selfish as fuck, not to mention not effective at all.

NeoreactionSafe · 2015-03-01T13:34:52+00:00

My father died of cancer after a long period of battling it using treatments they had in the 1970's. He was hit by more radiation that would kill a victim in Hiroshima. He never complained.

After my father died my mother wrote a "book" about how SHE was a great caretaker for him.

My dad basically was stoic and never drew attention to himself.

Recently (this is 40 years after the fact) she wants to actually publish this "book" online to assure "her legacy".

Yeah... I know very, very well how batshit crazy women are.

skyw4lk3r · 2015-03-01T02:26:36+00:00

Good work. I want to point out something that you have done well that you may or may not be conscious of. The "I am here to support you" gambit is a shit-test. If you would have taken her up on that offer of support she would have quickly rescinded it and then detached herself from you. You can never rely on a woman. She will find it disgusting. I speak from experience. But good job. I learned from your post and hope to implement the these things into my own life.

GreenPiller · 2015-03-01T04:31:29+00:00

Wow... and here I am thinking how "alpha and stoic" I am and then I find posts like these... you sir are admirable. A true unshakeable alpha, prayers to your daughter... good luck.

2015-03-01T05:08:29+00:00

Great lesson, best wishes to you and your family. This sounds like the way my dad would behave actually, as little credit as I give him. The more I digest the pill, the more I realize how much damage my 7 feminist aunts and mom did to me (actually just feminism to our family, they mean well). Dad was never around, fucking weak but I at least somewhat sympathize now. I've been weak my whole life, and before the pill and lessons like this I would have continued to embrace the weakness and never been any good as a man. I knew I was broken but didn't know how/why. Lessons like these help drive home the importance of being a man and will help me and hopefully others here be the man in the lives of women in our futures. From this unfortunate diagnosis comes that positive; thanks for sharing.

meet_me_at_high_noon · 2015-03-01T13:38:29+00:00

I am sorry for your daughter's struggle. I hope she draws strength from you. The fight against cancer is never over until its over.

I remember a few years ago a friend lost his mom. She was a drug addict and a deadbeat. Terrible mother. So we're at the wake and they're playing "I Hope You Dance" and all her sisters and relatives are crying.

I looked around and started laughing. My friend who lost his mom glared at me and asked what was so funny. So I said "your aunt just stood up there and lied to everyone, saying your mom was a saint. We know that's not true dude. They're Playing I hope you dance."

He stared for a moment and started laughing too. Women always find a way to make everything about them. His aunts just wanted people to pat them on the shoulder and say youre so brave for speaking.

SpaceCrunch · 2015-03-01T02:58:06+00:00

Thanks for the lesson. But for real, I'm sorry about your daughter. Cancer fucking blows.

2015-03-01T16:00:58+00:00

First of all, I'm sorry to hear of your daughter's diagnosis. I don't have children, and so I won't even pretend to understand how difficult this might be for you.

Furthermore, your sentiments about stoicism are dead on accurate. Could not agree more.

To get to my point, she goes with you to visit your seriously ill daughter, she breaks down, and then when you get home she demands that you fuck her? I get that emotional strength turns women on, but if I had a potentially terminally ill child, and immediately after visiting my child my SO demanded that I bang her, I'd tell the tactless bitch to go fuck herself.

furtardo · 2015-03-01T17:43:46+00:00

You may have learned a wrong lesson from this.. I have a different take - while I agree with maintaining a rock solid stoic attitude and be the source of strength for your daughter, I don't agree with rejecting your LTR's emotional-support-offer (what ever that means..) is the proper move.

Women express their femininity by doing certain things for us and our job is to recognize those and encourage and reward that behaviour. Your LTR was trying to do something nice for you in her feminine way, rejecting that will discourage her from doing similar in future.

youcanpleaseme · 2015-03-01T17:41:20+00:00

This isn't about stoicism. Her arousal was based on facing death, seeing that in your daughter, and realizing how short a life we all live.

She wanted to live.

Being stoic works wonders, but this post is misattributing the cause of her actions

tits_out_forTheBoys · 2015-03-02T16:29:57+00:00

I have found that accepting the inevitable death of all things in nature is the first and most important step of adopting stoicism.

My condolences to your family.

TekkomanKingz · 2015-03-01T15:29:35+00:00

Fellas, this is why I posted the article about the cry baby bitch who was bawling in tears from being "fired". This guy's daughter has cancer and remains resolute. We should all aspire to be like this. Not just because a Woman will respect us more or jump on our dick but because it helps others cope as well.

It's hilarious how she wants to make it all about her as usual. A woman will easily push problems with her children onto a Man, but you don't see Men doing the same thing. And OP has the right idea dating a single mother because he already has children and I'm guessing doesn't want or need any more.

On another note it seems your family has pretty heavy cancer genes. Have you looked into the Gerson therapy? It's often used as a last resort and is only available outside of the United States (home office ran by Americans in Mexico) but I hear it has a pretty high success rate vs. conventional chemo and radiation. Plus it reduces tumor size to make the surgery easier and cheaper with less complications.

I highly advise looking into mushrooms as well. Get the highest grade Reishi mushroom you can afford. It can cost hundreds of dollars but compared to chemo and other conventional treatments it's pennies.

2015-03-01T06:25:50+00:00

the only easy day was yesterday

Lowkeylibio · 2015-03-01T06:55:40+00:00

Sorry for your daughter op

let_terror_reign · 2015-03-01T15:28:38+00:00

I found this very inspiring. Thanks for posting this.

2015-03-01T16:02:46+00:00

This is a great example of the strength I want for myself. The ability to handle things by myself. The woman in the anecdote is just there to emphasize the point, which is to have the inner strength to handle the crisis of life. At the end of the day, crying on a woman's lap helps far far less than having the strength to be stoic in the face of calamity. In fact, I think it only weakens your resolve to push further and harder through the trials of life.

Thank you for this great example.

PeteMullersKeyboard · 2015-03-01T21:37:04+00:00

The classic "I'm here to support you" ...few things are a larger annoyance. Women don't seem to understand that as males, we don't feel the need to get irrationally upset about every little thing that happens in life.

Also, very sorry to hear about your daughter.

CrimsonDeep · 2015-03-01T22:57:43+00:00

Massive props to your achievements in stoicism. I don't know how you can refrain from getting emotional in the face of something like this. While it is easy to understand, intellectually, that all life is fragile and fleeting, whenever I contemplate a loved one passing, or getting old and ill, I feel emotional. And having been through a period where I felt no emotions because of medication, I actually somewhat enjoy the process. It feels cathartic to me. Like, when my dog died, I felt a wave of grief, and I cried hard. I would get sad about it, and I still feel a bit sad if I think about it, but I think I would feel worse if I couldn't expel the sadness in the form of tears. It's like tears are taking an emotional shit, and holding them in but feeling bad is emotional constipation that causes other problems.

It seems like you have preempted these emotions from ever forming in the first place . . . are so it seems. Maybe they'll find a way to manifest though. That's something that always concerns me about this stuff.

Sorry about your daughter.

Title	Stay stoic in the worst of situations always pays off.
Author	unknowncitzen
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Date	March 1, 2015 2:11 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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