I need to help my friend out of this blue pilled thinking

serynada · 2019-11-29T18:30:52+00:00

don’t bother trying to red pill your friend. the best you can do is treat him how you would a woman: whenever he goes full blue pill, withdraw attention, change the topic and apply negative reinforcement. don’t humor his delusion. promise me you will be firm on this.

the truth is he needs to be destroyed so he can be reborn.

let him get destroyed, and offer him a hand when he asks for it. but only when he asks for it.

take your mind off this and focus on yourself.

TRedman88 · 2019-11-29T18:32:52+00:00

You can only help those that want to help themselves. Do you value his friendship?! If so, STFU... You'll become public enemy number one if you try to give him something he's not ready for. You give a monkey a shovel, then what's he gonna do with it?! Build you a castle?! No, he's still gonna eat bananas and fling shit at things. Guide him if he asks, give your input if warranted and be cautious yet honest with your approach. It's a fine balance but I repeat. Do not give him something he's not equipped to handle. Give a teenager a porsche and it will be in a ditch in a day.

JimmyHILFIGER · 2019-11-29T18:32:40+00:00

You are doing what women do, engage in being a motivating emotional pillow for someones shitty life.

Your friend is his own person and if he doesn't wanna fix his shit, let him be a beta, the ship has sailed and it is not stopping for anyone or anything.

I bother with peoples issues if it is beneficial to me, i doubt your friend is making your life any easier and i doubt without him your life changes

IXseed · 2019-11-29T18:53:55+00:00

You can't unplug someone who isn't ready. Best thing you can do is trickle in TRP but put a BP spin on it (aka taking out anything that sounds too misogynist).

muricanwerewolf1 · 2019-11-29T19:08:40+00:00

“He doesn’t want to gym” is the key phrase here. You can’t force anybody to change. If he doesn’t want to put in the work, nothing you do will change him. You can hit him with all the red pill theory in the world and it won’t matter. He might nod, say “yeah, that makes sense, oh yeah I should do that” but without committing to radical change he’ll stay a blue pill.

Similarly, many men like your friend are love addicted, and without putting in the work to build an abundance mindset, cure that oneitis and leave outcome dependence behind he will continue to chase the dragon the only way he knows how, by relentless pursuit and love bombing every hole that gives him attention. If he can’t muster the dedication to change his body he’ll never be able to change his brain.

Red_Raze · 2019-11-29T19:48:06+00:00

It's thankless work. People who don't want your advice will 1. Not listen to you and 2. Resent you for giving it. Just let go man.

frognads · 2019-11-29T22:47:52+00:00

No you don't. Leave him alone.

kclanton80 · 2019-11-30T02:05:44+00:00

No....you don't.

Title	I need to help my friend out of this blue pilled thinking
Author	newplayer28
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	November 29, 2019 6:23 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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