A basic way to become a better person is to learn from other peoples mistakes. I made a mistake and I want to share so others can learn.

I lost frame. Although I realized it while it was happening, it was too late and lost the moment forever. There are some situations where you can dig yourself into a hole, but are competent enough to get out easily. Some situations are fucked from the moment you lose frame.

Here's what happened. At a mutual friends dorm, drinking, and playing truth or dare. Yadda yadda yadda. Blah blah blah. Tits. Ass. More tits. You get the gist. I catch the attention of a 6/10, desperate, learned through out the night she hasn't been fucked in awhile. Who the fuck cares, you're looking for a beta bitch to settle down with. But that's another conversation.

Its getting late so I mention to my buddy, "lets go smoke at your place". Girl hears me, does the puppy dog look, and mentions she hasn't smoked in a while.

I'm still in the process of swallowing the pill, so I hesitate. Right there, lost frame.

I looked at my bro and was about to invite her over, and thought "WTF, its not my place to invite her over to HIS place" That thought snapped me out of it and realized I was caving.

"No, bros only. We're gonna brodown" Maybe not the best recovery, but at least it wasn't a total BP cave.

Back at his place. Drunk, high, fucked up. Yea, another mistake, know your limit guys. Anyway, having a grand ol' time with my buddy.

Then she called him. She asks if she can come over. "hold on" My bro turns and whispers "want her to come over?"

At this point I'm smashed and cant process things correctly. The very fact he was whispering to me, got me to whisper as I try to get a grasp on the situation. who what to do what who again oh shit, uhhhh My friend gets back on the phone and says "yea, hold on" all because I wasn't able to make a decision.

Indecisiveness is NOT an attractive trait.

My friend turns to me again and asks the same goddamn question that I shouldn't even be entertaining in the first place. I finally realize, "fuck, you_dont_even_no, get your shit together man"

I'm thinking to myself: * Yes, she comes over. Which means that I gave in, I was weak * No, she doesn't come over. I come off as a scared little pussy that took a 30 sec whispered conversation to consult if I wanted her to come over

I go for aloof as a poor effort to keep frame and again FUCKING WHISPER "fuck it, I dont care bro, whatever"

He ends up saying "we are about to go to bed soon, were too fucked up" So she doesn't come over, whatever that's not the point.

TL;DR The point is Don't do what I did. I lost frame a few times that night. I moderately recovered the first time. Second time I cornered myself into a situation that no matter what I chose to do, I would have come off as a little bitch.

This isn't for you redpillers that could have easily handled the situation. This is a story for the betas that aren't even close, but still want to be more alpha.

Don't let women hop on and change your plans. Don't get so fucked up you cant handle reality. (thats not just TRP advise, but life advise) Don't let woman change your mind once you have made a decision.