How many ex redpill users are currently under ~25? I believe those who fall outside this age have a distorted view of modern dating for young people

GoghGirl · 2018-01-17T17:12:26+00:00

You say you have to be the best 'man'. But you are not what all women are looking for. That's simply not possible since everyone has difference types they are into. You are only attractive to women who are into red pill. Is that the type of women that you want to date?

Personally I would probably swipe on you if you clearly had red pill tendencies.

Do you believe that the only part of the relationship is getting your dick wet? Do you not want someone who you can be emotionally comfortable with longer term?

FlipModeEngaged · 2018-01-18T07:59:56+00:00

I agree to some extent. I think though that the problem that most people have these days is that there is just a lot of noise. These dating techniques you described are built for party people and people that have a very distorted view of themselves. Someone that has to prove himself online and goes for shallow human interactions just has never experienced what a real deep relationship looks like.

I honestly don't really give a crap about most 'social' interactions anymore really as there is no substance to it. I would rather have a real friend a real girlfriend then some social media followers.

KyinWonderland · 2018-01-18T23:38:20+00:00

I’m just trying to show you everyone has really different preferences. 27% of women don’t care about height. That’s a good amount. If anyone was doing this much research and statistics on who found them attractive Im sure they could come up with something really negative or really positive depending what you focus on. There are just too many factors.

FlipModeEngaged · 2018-01-17T17:01:21+00:00

As someone much older than 25 it was hard for me to accept online dating in 2016, but my female friends encouraged me to try it out and see. It was...scary. The whole idea of meeting strange men who might murder me kept me from communicating for months. I got matches and ignored them. Validation was not my goal. Finally I worked up the courage to talk to the strangers on Match and now I have a boyfriend, but it was very strange for a Gen X like me to meet people this way. If what you are saying is true, young people have no problem meeting strangers for sex. Gross.

Prester_Jane · 2018-01-20T22:51:24+00:00

The problem OP is that you are not actually trying to become a better version of yourself- you are trying to become a better version of what you think other people will perceive as you.

Back in the mid 90's until the early 00's I was a gothy Otherkin who was trying very hard to be an alpha male and generally repelled women- me and none of my friends could get a woman to spend more than a minute or two talking to us on a good day. Now I'm a non-passing (early transition) transwoman and I don't have any problems meeting potential intimate partners.

Once I stopped trying to become a false version of myself and instead spent a few years just figuring out who I actually was and working on becoming that the amount of attention I got from the fairer gender did a 180. Believe it or not many (perhaps most) women are much more attracted to authenticity and confidence than physical appearance. I've got little to offer in the ways of physical appearance (and intimacy with me requires an unusual amount of explanations and preparation) but that doesn't really prevent me from meeting women. (Granted, the majority of my partners have been bi or at the very least interested in experimenting.)

What gets women interested in talking/flirting with me is my confidence (I don't care that I don't pass, I'm just being me) as well as my cultivated wit, 1,000 hilarious stories (I've got a ton of life cool life experiences that have resulted from chasing my wild-ass dreams with my whole heart), and a cultured mind that I have treated like a private garden that must be constantly trimmed and fertilized with new knowledge.

Physical appearance sure doesn't hurt for getting attention, but its not the only thing people (especially many women) are looking for. I would strongly ecnourage you OP to spend some time doing self-discovery and working on projects that have nothing to do with trying to get laid. Your energies are being spent trying to become someone that isn't actually you, and I feel that is why your efforts have been so unsuccessful.

TomeofBlood · 2018-02-14T18:12:04+00:00

Do you want a family structure?

A strong one?

You cannot eat your cake and have it. Since 1960, the divorce rate for a ten year marriage is 93.4%. People view dating in a "distorted" way from your idealistic viewpoint not from the point of view of adaptability for the socio-cultural-psychological dating environment.

Feel free to run into the illusory oasis with open arms into the pit of despair that is the reality of your goals. Something has got to give before the problem is fixed.

Besides, even in the later times you speak off the 80%+ adultery rate was merely underreported according to Victorian era documentation and folklore.

Even in 1980, profile of the Cosmopolitan Woman. The virgin queen Victoria understanding that a shroud must hang over humanity's true nature for society for function properly. Still despite her laws, adultery, debauchery still went on rampantly.

LeftoverFarm · 2018-02-16T17:45:19+00:00

don’t be so hard on yourself (being the best man). just try to enjoy this short strange life and try to see the good in people it doesn’t have to be any more complicated than that.

also nice work on the self improvement

WOHBuckeye · 2018-04-03T07:28:15+00:00

Dating changed more with the automobile than it did with social media and Tinder.

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