I finally approached direct when solo.... Few questions for when I go back out tomorrow

Zoidberg22 · 2018-05-17T22:31:19+00:00

and she told me she could give me her number but she has a boyfriend, so I left it.

This is a good thing. Most of the times in this scenario where they say stuff like that, they find you attractive, like you but are taken.

IslanderWolf · 2018-05-18T00:26:33+00:00

How should I have played the bf thing? Just take the number? She seemed down for giving it me?

Nowadays I only do IG close, it is a lot better cause you have

The quick access to the girl, will still have a kind of connection, even if you dont msg her directly she will sometimes see your pictures and stories
If you have a fun lifestyle show it on IG and it will help, if you have a passion, show it in your IG and it will help. Atm I have no money cause I'm paying bills from a retrofit I had at my hostel, however I share my IG with my dogs and I always have awesome feed to post about them. The account doesnt have to be showing pics of you, it might be a passionate account about saomething that you are the guy behind it. And she will now it is you when she looks at her stories and see that you looked at what she posted
And it is also a lot easier to give it away than you phone number, she is already putting stuff out there so people can look at it, so why wont she want another follower ? She has a boyfriend ? Well, it is a lot easier to give you her instagram, even if she digs you that wont be that easy for her to be exchanging msgs at whatsapp with you having a boyfriend. But seems pretty harmless for her to be liking your pictures and watching your stories. When she dumps that boring guy you will still have a connection with her and than you can proceed (if you are the type that prefer not to hit on girls with BFs)

billiam632 · 2018-05-17T22:05:11+00:00

Not bad dude. Hardest part is approaching. After that it's mostly about practice. We could give you lines but if you don't know how to deliver, it won't matter. Just keep putting yourself out there and get creative. Test some shit out just to see if it works. Don't get worried about the end result, just try to entertain yourself and she will be entertained.

WIA20XX · 2018-05-17T21:45:54+00:00

1) BF - ignore it, if it doesn't bother you.
2) possibly bored her with your getting to know you questions. Unless she just told she was old.

A good pull looks boring, but the conversation/interaction should be great. You probably need a structure for your chat.

kundalini1111 · 2018-05-18T04:37:18+00:00

This was a good topic, i identify with this: " i don't want to rely on getting lucky with girls who take the lead."

and i give you a tip: when you notice they are the type that takes the lead you imediately say something like "so, can i have your number so we can talk more later?"

if she says no, thats great because you left the situation nicely... if she says yes, you choose, but you can ignore her.

SuperNova31 · 2018-05-18T05:35:00+00:00

Here is my general advice: when I was dating and trying to pick up girls, I always offered them MY number. I did this because I might get overly excited and text them too soon, or they might ignore me and I might text them a couple times before I got the message, or they may have just given me their number/ a fake number because when you reject someone that may spur a negative confrontation which people give generally avoid. Offer your number, if they text you they like you, if they don’t no harm done. Especially if they have a BF, maybe they’ll hold onto your number and text you when their relationship ends or something.

For the second one conversations can be hard and they die. I studied journalism in college and have bartender for way too long, but I’ve learned that my interview skills have made me a better conversationalist. Listen intently to what someone says, so that you can ask more questions about it and when you find common ground use that as a launching point for a more give-take type of conversation.

Title	I finally approached direct when solo.... Few questions for when I go back out tomorrow
Author	FlipModeEngaged
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Date	May 17, 2018 8:49 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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