Need help categorizing this one. Wife is upset about a great many things. Talking about how she doesn't feel valued because she didn't get her way about going to church at 930 vs 11. In this conversation, she says something about eating last all the time which is patently absurd. She eats last 25% of the time at most. I pointed out that in the last 24hrs even, I held our sleeping son while she ate her whole meal at a restaurant yesterday and cooked breakfast for everyone this morning and everyone was half done eating before I was even done cooking mine. Is this Deflecting or just shutting someone down when they're saying the sky is purple and the moon is made of cheese?

I think STFU wouldn't work here because it implies that I can't disagree with her because she's right. Then not addressing it just reinforces her feelings about how she's so neglected and "always" has to eat last?