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Great work.
/r/RPChristians12/02/25 06:55 PM
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Nope. I start my day with groggily drinking coffee from my automatic espresso machine. I do need to develop a quiet time routine. Tbh during lifting is probably my easiest adjustment
/r/RPChristians05/02/25 06:53 PM
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I’d elaborate more on the positives - maybe it’ll begin to reflect back into your internal mindset more. Elaborate more on the things you’re doing within your control and other goals you’re after as well. You’re right that’s an untenable long term situation. You’re physically reasonably attractive, working on the mentality. Either your wife will get on board or she won’t. What will you do if she hasn’t at oys 52?
/r/RPChristians05/02/25 06:50 PM
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It still feels like your OYS is mostly a preamble to talking about/speculating about your wife.
/r/RPChristians04/02/25 03:44 AM
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Mission: glorify God, make disciples through leadership, parenting, relationships. Physical 5’11”., 168lbs. - no loss AGAIN. - CICO doesn’t lie but lifts are trending up first time in a while. Current lifts - squat 275lbs—> 285lb. deadlift 335lbs, bench 160lbs-> 165, pullups for 9 bw > 10xBW. goals- finish cut to full-on abs over next 5 weeks then transition to slow bulk. Goal: Lift 4x/wk, cardio 2X/wk. Last wk- 2 lifts. 1 cardio. 1 circuit training (mostly cardio). - really want to hammer 4x st…
/r/RPChristians04/02/25 03:23 AM
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You sound like fun. Get to work bro.
/r/RPChristians04/02/25 03:16 AM
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Mission: glorify God, make disciples through leadership, parenting, relationships. Physical 5’11”., 168lbs. - no loss again - CICO doesn’t lie- more food prep discipline to ensure filling foods, and lower cals still required. Current lifts - squat 275lbs , deadlift 335lbs, bench 160lbs, pullups for 8s —> 9 BW. goals- finish cut to full-on abs over next 5 weeks then transition to slow bulk. Goal: Lift 4x/wk, cardio 2X/wk. Last wk- 3 lifts. 2 cardio. In spring begin to Train for half marathon in f…
/r/RPChristians22/01/25 03:29 AM
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“ I was doing in basement featured a woman in pretty standard gym clothes” Sounds like you thought it was fine - why DEER on this? Just laugh and carry on or ignore it. If you thought she had a good point then just accept the feedback gracefully and change the program. A)“I don’t like that workout dvd” - “ha ha yeah that’s on brand for you” - continue workout B) “I don’t like that workout dvd” - “that’s a fair point - I’ll change it to p90x” Whining at her about it is the worst of both worlds. U…
/r/RPChristians18/01/25 02:13 AM
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Mission: glorify God, make disciples through leadership, parenting, relationships. Physical 5’11”., 168lbs. - no loss - need more diet discipline still for this home stretch. Current lifts - squat 265lbs —> 275lbs , deadlift 335lbs, bench 155lbs—> 160lbs, pullups for 8s BW. goals- finish cut to full-on abs over next 6 weeks then transition to slow bulk. Can see abs when flexed or pumped - thinking 6-8 lbs should do it. Using rx drugs to complete cut-there’s no prizes for doing it without em. Goa…
/r/RPChristians15/01/25 08:28 PM
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Sex- anytime I initiate. Quality is usually meh. A no is usually a no to variety. Followed by me taking off to do my own thing. My comment about a “prize “ is the inverse of the idea that nobody cares how hard you work- people care about your results. It works and makes my goals more attainable. I am, rather confident, that I’m no monkey at this point. I want to read 4 nights per week actually whenever I handle bedtime.
/r/RPChristians08/01/25 04:02 AM
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I’ve spun my wheels at 185-200 for several years. I life-styled myself down from 265 from lifetime fatness. I can’t sleep well in a deficit, I can’t workout more hours than I do. No side effects, just no more night waking and intrusive cravings 24/7- working quite excellently. Can put my mental energy into better things now.
/r/RPChristians08/01/25 03:58 AM
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Glad the MRP Bans created some activity here. Mission: glorify God, make disciples through leadership, parenting, relationships. Physical 5’11”., 168lbs. Lighter than I’ve ever been still not as lean is I thought I’d be in getting here. Current lifts - squat 265lbs, deadlift 335lbs, bench 155lbs, pullups for 8s BW. goals- finish cut to full-on abs over next 6 weeks then transition to slow bulk. Can see abs when flexed or pumped - thinking 6-8 lbs should do it. Using rx drugs to complete cut-ther…
/r/RPChristians07/01/25 03:24 AM
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Currently friendly but distant. I’ve lost interest in gaming her much in the last few weeks after consistent mix of starfishing / hard no’s.
/r/askRPC31/07/24 11:54 PM
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Could be - still shredding the fat- that’s definitely my last big goal on physical attractiveness. If I suddenly get full on horny slutty sex when my abs pop I’m not sure how I’ll process that. My hairs aight maybe I need that broccoli cut the kids at the gym have now. I doubt going from $500K to $5M will do much but you never know. Back to the grind. 🤷‍♂️
/r/askRPC31/07/24 02:49 AM
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32 y/o 5'11" 187lbs. Wife, 1 kid - wife 8 weeks into expecting PBs Bench - 195, Squat - 315, Deadlift - 385 Chins - 5 BW + 10lbs. Current: Bench - 175. Squat - 285, Deads - 355. Chins BW X 7. Mission: Serve God and make disciples by: giving faithfully to church and ministries I believe in, evangelizing those around me, raising kids that will bless the world. Exercise Goal: 4 workouts per week, 2 cardio sessions per week. Try to minimize strength losses as I cut. Last week - MISS. 3 workouts (rea…
/r/RPChristians15/07/24 11:58 PM
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Yeah for sure some piece of me is still trying to figure out how to play her. It’s not my identity but I still want to conjure good sex somehow (with her).
/r/RPChristians11/07/24 01:42 AM
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32 y/o 5'11" 187lbs. Wife, 1 kid - wife 8 weeks into expecting Bench - 195, Squat - 315, Deadlift - 385 Chins - 5 BW + 10lbs. Mission: Serve God and make disciples by: giving faithfully to church and ministries I believe in, evangelizing those around me, raising kids that will bless the world. Physical: MISS Goal this week 4 workout, 2 cardio session - prepping for a cardio heavy event in 2 weeks. MISSED - 2 workouts, 2 dedicated cardio session. *PR'd my 10km time so that was cool. *Made special…
/r/RPChristians09/07/24 07:53 PM
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I'm not sure if you are at the point your life is so great sex can come and go. What do you think? If not how will you get there? Great question - once I can get the sex I actually want reliably, I will be more okay with it "coming and going" - I am less and less confident that I will get there with my wife, ever tbh. Why did you miss your physical goals? Doing this often leads my nice guy to come out. I let a mix of other social activities and priorities edge out my physical goals - getting 4 w…
/r/RPChristians09/07/24 07:47 PM
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"When she ordered me what to do with a bad tone in a social setting," Wives love trying this, especially if modeled for them by a poor family dynamic as kids. I have had to strongly enforce boundaries here too - fortunately only takes a few jarring social interactions to get a behavior change out of them usually.
/r/RPChristians08/07/24 07:59 PM
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32 y/o 5'11" 187lbs. Wife, 1 kid - wife 6 weeks into expecting Bench - 195, Squat - 315, Deadlift - 385 Chins - 5 BW + 10lbs. Mission: Serve God and make disciples by: giving faithfully to church and ministries I believe in, evangelizing those around me, raising kids that will bless the world. Physical: MISS Goal this week 4 workout, 2 cardio session - prepping for an cardio heavy event in 3 weeks. MISSED - 2 workouts, 1 dedicated cardio session. HIT Goal: Continue weight loss and/or waist loss …
/r/RPChristians03/07/24 11:09 PM
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I recently opened up to the idea of healthy masturbation as an acceptable activity for a Christian. The focus for me is on understanding the sensations and muscle tightness leading me to ability to delay ejaculation. No lust involved. Not compulsive. I’m just talking about practice.
/r/RPChristians26/06/24 02:57 PM
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Yeah, end of the day, I’m OI with any given session but I’m not OI with the overall picture of my sex life.
/r/RPChristians26/06/24 02:54 PM
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32 y/o 5'11" 190lbs. Wife, 1 kid - wife 6 weeks into expecting Bench - 195, Squat - 315, Deadlift - 385 Chins - 5 BW + 10lbs. Mission: Serve God and make disciples by: giving faithfully to church and ministries I believe in, evangelizing those around me, raising kids that will bless the world. Physical: MISS Goal: 4 workouts, 1 long run -- 3 workouts, no dedicated cardio completed. Goal this week 4 workout, 2 cardio session - prepping for an cardio heavy event in 1 month. HIT Goal: Continue weig…
/r/RPChristians24/06/24 08:07 PM
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No. She sees it as a gift. I see it as her meeting her minimum wife prerequisites. Because mutually enjoyable sex is more fun, more variety, just hotter. Better connection. I used see it as a signal of my desirability and feel insecure but that’s no longer a driver or concern.
/r/RPChristians24/06/24 07:50 PM
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I’ve been at it about 5 years. Any initiation gets a yes-goofy, serious, kino/buildup, etc. The responsiveness in bed is the same regardless of any factors inside my control- ovulation is the only time there’s mutual interest. I would characterize it as “gift sex“ from her. Attitude is good as long as I stay in my little box. but no deep kissing, no breathing on her neck, don’t touch erogenous zones, refuse any changes of position, etc. like she doesn’t even want to be allowed to get in the mood…
/r/RPChristians24/06/24 04:00 PM
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Have you considered you found time for porn 4 times, but struggled to find time for bible reading and exercise? Have you reached out to any support groups/programs/read any books on quitting porn?
/r/RPChristians24/06/24 03:53 PM
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32 y/o 5'11" 190lbs. Wife, 1 kid - wife 6 weeks into expecting Bench - 195, Squat - 315, Deadlift - 385 Chins - 5 BW + 10lbs. Mission: Serve God and make disciples by: giving faithfully to church and ministries I believe in, evangelizing those around me, raising kids that will bless the world. Physical: HIT Goal: 4 workouts, 1 long run -- 4 workouts, did bike instead of run outside due to rain HIT Goal: Continue weight loss until abs. Dropped roughly 2 lbs over last week. Social: HIT goal: atten…
/r/RPChristians19/06/24 08:35 PM
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All message have been saved That'll help a lot, but how do I know that was all the messages and none are deleted? Float you a scenario--14y/o girlie with the crush on you finds out you've got a girlfriend. She's crushed and angry and immature. Suddenly you're being accused of leading on a teenage girl by an angry father, out of a job, and SOL as far as working in a church setting again. ​ big group chats don’t work Fair enough. Focus on the dudes and encourage the church to bring on a female to …
/r/RPChristians05/03/20 11:16 PM
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I do, but I'm leaving it back-burner right now. Any recommended podcasts on business? Yeah BW (185lbs) + weight added (only 15lbs) -- based on an 8 or 10 RM to get a E1RM
/r/RPChristians05/03/20 11:09 PM
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It's good that your church has clarified your policies and procedures here. Having private (especially snapchat) conversations with teen girls is a bad idea buddy. If you want to have regular social media communication, have it with the dudes and maybe create a larger "group chat" that is for all group members.
/r/RPChristians04/03/20 09:16 PM
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Stats: 19 Male, Weight: 126 lb Height: 5'8 I would like to hit 150 or so in a few years. You're the same height as my little brother. He doesn't lift at all but carries good natural muscle, has probably 13% BF and still looks a bit scrawny at 150lbs. If you're just starting out, you can probably safely add 20 lbs in a year without throwing on a ton of fat. Don't go nuts, but up your eating until you're gaining 1-2 lbs per month and seeing your lifts increasing. As a naturally very slight guy, "n…
/r/RPChristians04/03/20 08:55 PM
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​ Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. From 265lbs to --> 184.6lbs. BF~19.5% (navy), 5'11". MISSION: Be fruitful and multiply. 1 - Raise children that love and glorify God 2 - Support the mission through the local church with my time, finances and talents 3 - Personally evangelize those around me ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) Short term: Lose weigh every week (Maintain roughly 2200 cals on average) HIT - Last week - 184.6 Current - 185 Minimal change her…
/r/RPChristians04/03/20 08:38 PM
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Definitely right, I don't have the genetics to get any leaner while also getting stronger at this point. The focus is on getting leaner, and hopefully not getting weaker. I've been hitting my PRs using lower weights and higher reps, rather than going for new 3-5RMs, I'm getting new 8-10RM that translate into a higher 1RM. I'm going to keep tweaking things to try and reduce my injuries, may have to cut out bent rows... all heavily hip hinged movements seem to put my SI joints at risk and then I'm…
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 11:56 PM
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MMSLP suggests that you need to be extremely wary when your wife suddenly comes home and does a 180 in the bedroom. This is because it can mean that she has cheated on you, is worried about getting pregnant by the other guy and is hysterically having sex with you to erase the guilt and to possibly fool you into caring for another man's child. Or she got warmed up by flirting with a dude at work. Or she's just getting more attracted to you. Or it is from stopping the birth control. Who knows. Kee…
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 08:49 PM
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Checked my body fat, it's down to 23%. Average calories last week was 2524 TDEE is 3200. I'm not sure why my weight is staying the same, however I've lost quantifiable inches this month. Could be: -gain of muscle -your TDEE actually isn't actually 3200 anymore (as you lose weight your tdee drops too) -your tracking is off by a good chunk (25% off would be enough to lose your deficit) -maybe some water retention if you are very sore.
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 07:29 PM
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Dropping in after missing the last 2 OYS! Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. From 265lbs to --> 184.6lbs. BF~19.5% (navy), 5'11". MISSION: Be fruitful and multiply. 1 - Raise children that love and glorify God 2 - Support the mission through the local church with my time, finances and talents 3 - Personally evangelize those around me ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) Short term: Lose weigh every week (Maintain roughly 2200 cals on average) HIT - 2 weeks ag…
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 07:25 PM
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I'm also trying to identify when I want to change from low rep power lifting to high rep body building Over the last 4 years, I've gradually moved from a low-rep focus to a higher-rep focus (5x5 up to now cycling a variation of 5/3/1). This has come with less injuries, better recovery, reduced lifting-induced hunger, hitting some PRs again, and some size gains in my upper body. While cutting. My numbers don't show much for it, but I'm just working with the genetics God gave me. I think if you're…
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 02:28 AM
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To be fair she could be a christian, Maybe, maybe not but... ​ wears basically nothing at the gym, and what she wears is skin-tight I understand there is a strong dissonance between your mind and your dick here. Unfortunately, wife material doesn't typically parade around mostly-naked at the gym seeking male attention.
/r/RPChristians25/02/20 10:32 PM
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Know going in that if you are unhappy with your sex life NOW, just wait. We've got 1 kid. Sex was basically zero until we started trying for a kid. Then back to zero once she was pregnant. I was incredibly unattractive both emotionally and physically. Started improving on the physical about 4 years ago, but didn't start fixing my mentality and behaviour until about 18 months ago. Although sex is still far from where I want it, it's vastly improved. I'll accept the challenge of maintaining a stro…
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 04:24 PM
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Keep your eyes open for more opportunities, I am doing that. I'm having more opportunity to interact with people through my work that are poor in spirit. People that are more open to the gospel. In addition, just received word that our pastor is stepping down/being removed and our church may fold. So, keeping my eyes open for where God is leading us there.
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 04:14 PM
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You can also do a full day fast or OMAD once or twice a week. That's been working well for me. I will try OMAD for 2 of my non-workout days this week/next and see how it goes. she's getting impatient and maybe that's why she snapped at you I know you want children, but do you want them now? Especially if it's going to have a negative effect on your sex life? I do. I've accepted there's no perfect time to make babies, and I've seen so many women wait too long and then have fertility problems. I w…
/r/RPChristians07/02/20 04:13 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. From 265lbs to --> 185.2lbs. BF~19.5% (navy), 5'11". ​ MISSION: Be fruitful and multiply. 1 - Raise children that love and glorify God 2 - Support the mission through the local church with my time, finances and talents 3 - Personally evangelize those around me ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2200 cals/day) HIT - Last week - 185.2 Current - 185 - Didn't get any meal-prepping in this past …
/r/RPChristians05/02/20 09:50 PM
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reap the full benefits of your genes, What does that even mean? From a "genetic benefit" standpoint, it's good to marry someone who is genetically very different from you. This will reduce the chance of having overlapping heritable mutations. That's why you don't marry your cousin.
/r/askRPC04/02/20 04:44 PM
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Work is... seeming arbitrary. I'm trying to engage myself and see how I can bring my spirit into all of it but feel like a failure. At this point I'm just trying to survive each day. Waiting on God to provide through wife's business but not a single proposal signed. You should not be relying on a start-up business for income. Period. If it's not making money and you don't have sufficient income and savings to buy groceries (as you claimed above) then she needs to back-burner that and get a payin…
/r/RPChristians30/01/20 10:01 PM
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Welcome here dude, you're taking a huge step in self-improvement just by writing this out. Lifting: Currently not doing any form of exercise. Eating: My dietary habits aren't the best. I eat junk food everyday. This is your low-hanging fruit. At one point, I was 265lbs at 5'11, now I'm at 185lbs. I had many failed attempts at losing weight and getting active. Usually doing too much too fast will cause you to quit: ex. eating only salads and doing 1 hour of jogging every day is not sustainable or…
/r/RPChristians30/01/20 06:59 PM
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What kind of high-protein foods are you using here? Thanks. Nothing crazy, chicken and pasta in a lighter cream sauce this time. I like ground beef, salmon, etc too. Try to keep salads and fruits in there on the regular too. ​ And again I will point out that while your Business section is pretty much on point, your Spiritual section needs work and your focus is primarily on your Sex section. It's a pattern I've noticed for a while now. Agreed. Business is a breeze. I've put a lot of thought and …
/r/RPChristians30/01/20 06:34 PM
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bounce the weight to your chin and then push I'll try this once I get back in to BB OHP, I've recently dropped it in favour of dumbell OHP (having a bit of nagging shoulder discomfort and it's helping). Prayer.. brush teeth say thanks for tooth brush. I have a theme here if starting small. Notice yet? Agreed, more intentional and specific thankfulness is easy and will go a long way. Thankful for this sub. Friends are few and far-between. I see them once a month maybe. Another opportunity for me …
/r/RPChristians30/01/20 06:30 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. From 265lbs to --> 185.2lbs. BF~19.5% (navy), 5'11". MISSION: Be fruitful and multiply. 1 - Raise children that love and glorify God 2 - Support the mission through the local church with my time, finances and talents 3 - Personally evangelize those around me ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2200 cals/day) HIT - Last week - 187 Current - 185.2 - Meal prepped 12 x ~500 calorie servings of h…
/r/RPChristians29/01/20 04:00 PM
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Fellowship: My weakest area, and since the Thursday night online thing is basically over I don’t have that anymore. The evangelism class will start up soon on Thursdays so that will be an opportunity to fellowship with some people from church. Social: Nothing much here with the hours I work and spending time with my wife and son. This will change soon when he moves out. Excited to see what you do with an additional 20 hours a week of free time once your job situation changes.
/r/RPChristians29/01/20 03:19 PM
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28, wife 27, married 4 years, together 9 years, No Kids. Why no kids? Zero information on spirituality, bible reading, etc in your OYS? Maybe it belongs in Marriedredpill?
/r/RPChristians29/01/20 03:18 PM
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It was revealed to me in prayer What does that look like?
/r/RPChristians22/01/20 04:18 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. From 265lbs to --> 187lbs. BF~20%, 5'11". MISSION: Be fruitful and multiply. 1 - Raise children that love and glorify God 2 - Support the mission through the local church with my time, finances and talents 3 - Personally evangelize those around me ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2200 cals/day) HIT - Last week - 187.2 Current - 187 - Diet was better this week, did more decent meal prep. C…
/r/RPChristians22/01/20 04:17 PM
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I asked the guy if something is going on, and he told me no. I just might say that too if I was sleeping with your wife... ​ I acted pretty cool, No you didn't. This is pretty sketchy. Where were the kids during this time? She was alone with the dude? How did they arrange this get-together?
/r/askMRP22/01/20 03:57 PM
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Remember, you will sacrifice some strength in the short-term while you cut. There's no way around that. Yeah, I'm making sure not to let myself get frustrated here. In the past, I've given up cuts cuz I was losing strength and thought I was losing muscle. Just going to keep pushing. The idea that my wife doesn't like getting worked up is a good point. Many times she's admitted to feeling ashamed/embarrassed of her inability to control her responses/emotions. I felt I was pretty measured in my re…
/r/RPChristians16/01/20 03:29 PM
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Welcome! I've got somewhat of a porn problem. I'd be lying if I said I don't have one, but it's also not a constant habit either. It comes up here and there, usually when I'm at the toilet with my phone. I need to keep myself from bringing my phone with me everywhere behind doors as that's where the temptation spikes. Sounds like you've identified the issue and are actively trying to battle it. Try finding another ed-pilled guy you can connect with to hold you accountable here. ​ So I've started…
/r/RPChristians15/01/20 11:40 PM
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I did lose my head yesterday. Daughter opened door on my truck that was frozen shut, and ripped the weather stripping off. She didn't know that would happen, and I was furious at her anyway for the huge pain fixing it Why did this make you so angry? Are your finances stretched to the limit? Are you overly attached to physical possessions?
/r/RPChristians15/01/20 09:45 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. From 265lbs to --> 187lbs. BF~20%, 5'11". ​ MISSION: Be fruitful and multiply. 1 - Raise children that love and glorify God 2 - Support the mission through the local church with my time, finances and talents 3 - Personally evangelize those around me ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2200 cals/day) HIT - Last week - 188.4 Current - 187.2 - Re-focused on the diet. Made sure to meals prep 5 m…
/r/RPChristians15/01/20 04:33 PM
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Just so I understand clearly. You're using porn (pretty clearly defined as sinful, biblically speaking) so that you can successfully avoid sex during the time your wife is most likely to enjoy it? And this is because your church came up with a bizarre doctrine that is not found anywhere in scripture. ​ I figured out your problem: it's Catholicism.
/r/RPChristians14/01/20 07:45 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. From 265lbs to --> 188lbs. BF~20%, 5'11". ​ MISSION: Be fruitful and multiply. 1 - Raise children that love and glorify God 2 - Support the mission through the local church with my time, finances and talents 3 - Personally evangelize those around me ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) MISS MISS MISS - Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2200 cals/day) MISS - Last week - ? Current - 188.4 -- I did well for first few days of "th…
/r/RPChristians08/01/20 08:21 PM
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I'm more concerned about finding unblended fabrics at a reasonable price.
/r/RPChristians21/12/19 07:22 PM
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The fact she's freaking out probably means you're on the right track and there's hope... "I don't understand -- can you explain how getting my testosterone levels fixed means I am cheating on you?" ... leave her to admit openly that she's depriving the marriage of sex (spoiler: she won't), and then you don't have to address her concerns.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 07:19 PM
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we should put away childish things Who said this contextless vague wisdom-sounding thing?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/19 09:34 PM
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Great read. Every time I verbalize goals to my wife I am... seeking validation or encouragement, opening myself up to being seen failing, and destroying any impressiveness if I do happen to achieve the goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/19 09:32 PM
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I make it a point not to reinforce that thinking by actually doing any of these favors she asks after sex, but maybe i need to be more overt that i do not see sex as a transaction, but rather an activity that is or at least should be fun for us both. Not necessarily in those words, but with that sentiment. Interesting predicament. Is your wife being overt in her transactional attitude?... "I had sex with you, so now you should go make me a sandwich". I don't see anything wrong with overtly addre…
/r/RPChristians19/12/19 03:44 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. From 265lbs to --> 186lbs. BF~19%, 5'11". ​ MISSION: I've been thinking on this hard, and I think something has come to me... Be fruitful and multiply. This comes in a 3-prong approach. 1 - Raise children that love and glorify God 2 - Support the mission through the local church with my time, finances and talents 3 - Personally evangelize those around me Let me know your thoughts guys. ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) HI…
/r/RPChristians18/12/19 08:18 PM
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OP, great job getting on mission. I know that was the point of your post, and I'm on a tangent but.. do you think your wife's EA was a "revenge" affair to show you how your relationships with women hurt her in the past? Had she tried telling or showing you how she felt about your relationships prior? Or do you think bringing up how you'd interacted with other women was a blame-shifting tactic?
/r/RPChristians14/12/19 06:11 PM
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​ As for free will, it surely must exist but there is a sense in which it is subordinated to divinely authored determinism. I recall a good John Piper sermon, where he basically said "the Bible is infinitely clear that both of these things are true -- God has complete control over everything, and at the same time, we are totally responsible for our actions". Then he just moved on, he felt no need to flesh that out philosophically or logically.
/r/RPChristians12/12/19 03:33 PM
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Thanks for this. Doing my best to reset. Wrestling with the "do I tell my wife" thing. Don't want to, know I'd want her to tell me if she was doing something like that behind my back.
/r/RPChristians12/12/19 03:14 PM
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War is not penance, it is actually against what Jesus commanded in the New Testament Where?
/r/RPChristians12/12/19 03:05 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. From 265lbs to --> 187lbs. BF~20%, 5'11". By end of year: Develop a more concrete mission. Right now I just do the things I like/want to do... start a business, spend time with my kid and wife, some time with friends, lift. -- I'm starting to put more thought in to this actively and will write something out soon. STILL COMING. ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) MISS - Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2200 cals/day) -- MISS…
/r/RPChristians11/12/19 04:59 PM
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Still gym groups and sports group so plenty of social time. Also hunting with several buddies this week Day date Tuesday, Thursday, Friday and an evening date Saturday. This is awesome, sounds like tons of fun times... Do you have a job, or..? ​ Both of us are focused on the mission, What is the mission?
/r/RPChristians11/12/19 04:33 PM
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Take it from someone who finished top of his class, and is now an involuntary celibate working a job that pays 10 - 20 thousand dollars less than the average for my degree. I have lived the same life you described in those bullet points, with great academic success. I don't want OP to end up where I did I graduated with roughly 90 people. As a general rule, the top students and bottom students ended up in similar jobs -- middle of the road/lower end pay. The average students who also balanced ne…
/r/RPChristians10/12/19 04:25 PM
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Solid tips! OMAD definitely has helped me keep things in check! I like to look at these events as frame tests. I find I do better when I view it as a sort of challenge: me vs. them. My wife's family in-particular really likes to push food and alcohol. Just calmly and repeatedly saying no to their repeated offers, with a bit of AA has really helped and I believe positively influenced their respect for me.
/r/RPChristians10/12/19 04:20 PM
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What specifically have you done to make this happen? Not trying to solve her work problems for her. She asks for input, I give it--then I move on instead of letting her beat an issue to death and somehow get mad at me in the process. Owning my stuff at home-- I'm up regularly 1.5-2 hours before her now and handling more chores (especially considering I'm at work almost 60 hrs a week) Keeping my mood upbeat as much as possible, because I'm genuinely enjoying the grind ​ Are you sure this was a wi…
/r/RPChristians06/12/19 09:10 PM
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I know when I hit squats after a week off, I'm incredibly sore for 3-5 days after. At 50, I'd guess it's longer! A few weeks of slow reacclimation to it, I'm sure you'll be good!
/r/RPChristians06/12/19 08:51 PM
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I've always read your OYS and it seems like you've got some interesting drama most of the time. This one feels a lot more peaceful, good on you!
/r/RPChristians04/12/19 10:12 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. From 265lbs to --> 187lbs. BF~20%, 5'11". By end of year: Develop a more concrete mission. Right now I just do the things I like/want to do... start a business, spend time with my kid and wife, some time with friends, lift. -- I'm starting to put more thought in to this actively and will write something out soon. ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2200 cals/day) -- **MISS** Last week - 187 …
/r/RPChristians04/12/19 09:57 PM
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Just yesterday morning, I finally rep'd my bodyweight on bench press! I've been looking forward to crossing that threshold for a long, long time. No fanfare Great work man. *clap* Little bit of fanfare for you. ​ leave the family hanging out to dry Sounds like something my wife would say when I sign up for literally anything outside the home that I don't have to do. A year ago, I went from working 60 hour weeks down to 35-40 hour weeks without adding in any social activities. I added 20 hrs a we…
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 09:44 PM
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My doubt is around am I doing this stuff because of my mission or am I doing it to be who I dream of becoming. Seems like the same thing to me.
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 04:58 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 187lbs. BF~20%, 5'11". By end of year: Develop a more concrete mission. Right now I just do the things I like/want to do... start a business, spend time with my kid and wife, some time with friends, lift. -- I'm starting to put more thought in to this actively and will write something out soon. ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2200 cals/day) -- **HIT** Last week - 188.8 Current - 187 **HI…
/r/RPChristians27/11/19 04:40 PM
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Don't think I've got advice for you, just questions. As an example, my wife won't go to my church, and I have set a hard boundary that as long as she's in my home she will not take the children to her church. Is it possible to move this boundary to include her? Your children, as well as your wife are under your leadership whether she is willing to recognize it or not. The fact she's able to shun your church is probably one of those grey areas of boundary violation you're trying to articulate? Pe…
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 10:06 PM
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After my family left, I had a brief pity party for myself. I was thinking about how last week when she was sick, I was “Super Dad” and took the kids for several hours so she could nap, made pancakes, grilled burgers, etc. In contrast, when I got sick, she abruptly stopped being sweet and had a meltdown because we didn’t go on our date. I’m embarrassed to write this, but during my brief pity party, I punched a hole in a bathroom wall. Nobody was around, but it was still embarrassing. I think you …
/r/RPChristians22/11/19 11:38 PM
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Go ahead ... say the name to yourself and see what your insides do. Appreciate you doing your research. I tried it. Not much stirring in me there. If I was in a low place, maybe that answer would be different. Currently, I'm mostly just concerned to the extent that, I'm not a man who will tolerate any level of infidelity and if I can ever tease out the truth I will act on it. You're right, overthinking the "passive dread" thing. Mostly because in the past I've worked hard to avoid causing any le…
/r/askRPC22/11/19 03:56 PM
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Well, you have your answer then - at least for now. You sound pretty direct. Are you employing kino and being friendly and suggestive and playful at other times? Yeah, kino is regular and trying to be more sexual both subtly and overtly on a regular basis and she reciprocates too -- grabs my butt on a fairly regular basis, wants to kiss, etc. Just seems she does not want to pull the trigger in the bedroom very often---more and more as I view this pattern-- I'm thinking she is attracted to me but…
/r/RPChristians20/11/19 09:19 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 190.1lbs. BF~21%, 5'11". ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2000 cals/day) -- **HIT** Last week - 190.4 Current - 188.8 **HIT** -- I decided to ignore /u/rocknrollchuck on trying bulking, I'm not willing to turn around when I'm feeling pretty close to my desired leanness. Finally some movement. I only weighed myself twice last week, once at 188.2 once at 189.4, so we'll split the difference…
/r/RPChristians20/11/19 03:58 PM
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You're probably underestimating your portions/calories. Try getting a digital scale and weighing your food. I bet you're eating a lot more calories than you think you are. It only takes 500 more than your target to maintain your weight. Probably a combo of overeating and underestimating. I weigh my food as much as possible. However, when I have a good weigh-in one morning... I convince myself I'm making more progress then I am and cheat a bit more as a result. This is why I've cut daily weigh-in…
/r/RPChristians15/11/19 05:16 PM
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Goal: Good sex three times a week. I've wanted to make this a goal, but I feel like it's hanging my hat on wife's response to my sexual advances. What if your wife never comes around?
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 10:52 PM
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​ Sex has been simply off the charts lately. I can’t put my finger on any one thing that has led to this, I think it’s a culmination of all the improvements I’ve made along with my consistent emotional self-control (for the most part). But things have never been better in this area, and we’ve been married for almost 12 years now. Immersion has been fantastic, this was the area that was lacking for me before. I’m quite consistent with the rest of DEVI. I had a conversation last week where the guy…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 10:49 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 190.1lbs. BF~21%, 5'11". ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2000 cals/day) -- **miss** Still spinning my wheels here, trying something different each week til something hopefully clicks for me. I've decided to try NOT weighing myself except on Wednesdays. This way I only have my calorie count for feedback, and can't convince myself since I "lost" a pound one day that I can let up on calorie…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 04:31 PM
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You're got literally zero pulling exercises (pull-ups, rows) so you'll eventually look like quasimodo if you stick with what you're doing, and you've got near nothing for legs. Get in a gym with barbells and squat racks, build your routine around big compound lifts. Starting Strength or Stronglifts, Ice-Cream Fitness, Greyskull LP are reasonable programs to start with although I don't love squatting every workout. People avoid these types of movements... because they're hard. Workouts should sta…
/r/askRPC07/11/19 10:50 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 190.1lbs. BF~21%, 5'11". ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 182lbs by end of calendar year. Short term: Lose 1LB/wk (approx. 2000 cals/day) -- **hit** sort of -- but I was up a lb the week before so overall just neutral atm. Last week - 191.3 Current - 190 **MISS** -- Saw things creep back down as I tightened up my calories all last week to around 2000-2200. Staying clamped down on this while hitting gym 3-4x per week is my key. ​ Lifting: Long Term:…
/r/RPChristians07/11/19 10:21 PM
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I'll just weigh in on the low hanging fruit here 6’2”, 152lb, What're your lifts? At 6'2" that's probably a skeleton-like look you've got there, even if you're 7% bodyfat. I'm worried you'll die of from influenza this winter. Consider bulking up to 10-12% fat, and adding as much lean mass as possible in the process. You'll jump at least 1-2 SMV points and maybe she'll text you back.
/r/askRPC06/11/19 12:01 AM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 190.1lbs. BF~21%, 5'11". ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) - By end of 2019 (this deadline is slipping away with 10 weeks to go...) Short term: Lose 2LB/wk (approx. 2000 cals/day) -- **miss**. Since Monday, I've begun tracking more firmly -- weighing foods again, and targeting 2000-2200 calories. Have hit these numbers on Monday and Tuesday. Recognizing I have about 8 weeks to the end of 2019, and I'd love to be able to s…
/r/RPChristians30/10/19 06:08 PM
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To STFU is human, but to AA/AM is divine. Agreed, biggest takeaway is I should've saved this for home. I think her wanting me to put up Xmas lights before halloween could've opened the door for some great AA/AM in person.
/r/RPChristians26/10/19 05:17 PM
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Also, your version of STFU is crap. Stop texting so much. If she's baiting you into an argument over text, the most you might say is, "We can address this when I get home." Agreed, this is where I think I could have improved. ​ When I'm home, and my wife is reminded of how muscular and leaderly I am in person I hope I can be a muscular and leaderly as you some day.
/r/RPChristians26/10/19 05:15 PM
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Why don't you receive her task list, self-regulate, get it done like a man, and move on to all the other stuff you care about? I self-regulated, her task list fell off the bottom of my priorities. You're not my wife, so I can probably reason with you without getting accused of DEERing, right? Sure, I could've prioritized her desire for me to put up our Christmas lights in October -- not sure how well Green and Red goes with Orange and Black but whatever ... but instead I made a trip to another c…
/r/RPChristians26/10/19 05:14 PM
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I tried the "simple solution" for about 4 years -- just buckle down and follow her leadership even better -- do those dishes just the way she instructed, put the bowl in the exact proper cupboard according to her directions, prioritize her more by cutting out hobbies, friends ... etc. Maybe it wasn't clear. IT DIDN'T MATTER WHAT I DID OR DIDN'T DO. When I put my wife on a pedestal, tried desperately to do whatever she decided was our priority, and generally handed over my balls...then we always …
/r/RPChristians26/10/19 05:07 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 190.1lbs. BF~21%, 5'11". ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) - By end of 2019 (this deadline is slipping away with 10 weeks to go...) Short term: Lose 1lb/wk (approx. 2200-2400 cals/day) -- miss, I've let my calories get too lax. I track and see I'm over but when I'm hungry plus socializing I just don't care. Last week - 190.1 Current - 190.4 **MISS** -- Although the number isn't going down and my calories have been slightl…
/r/RPChristians23/10/19 05:29 PM
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Sounds like AWALT is stronger in your wife than most. It's like she's the archetype of the women we talk about in TRP... Hooked you sexually/emotionally before revealing the pregnancy in hopes of securing beta bux-- nice. Not getting her way, so pulls the divorce card... threatens abuse allegations... unless you're leaving out a big piece on your side of the story like you're a raging alcoholic abuser who sleeps around on her, she's as AWALT as they come. Keep building your frame on Christ, focu…
/r/askRPC23/10/19 02:01 AM
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Our baby is teething and sick. Last night she was up several times. My wife threw a few daggers about me being lazy, doing nothing to help. I'd probably mutter some similar nonsense if I had to get up in the middle of the night. I had a ton of good counter-arguments and could've ***pointed out*** "I work in the morning and oftentimes get up 2 hours before you to work out so I can be home with our family in the evenings... I get her up for breakfast while you sleep in.... I get up on nights when …
/r/askRPC21/10/19 04:18 PM
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https://ca.thegospelcoalition.org/columns/ad-fontes/what-the-bible-teaches-about-divorce-and-remarriage/ I've understood the use of pornea to be a wider ranging term for sexual immorality. Is sex with animals technically adultery... I don't know... but it's definitely pornea and thankfully Jesus recognizes legitimacy of divorce in such a situation. It's easier to harmonize the omissions (Mark 10, Luke 16) in light of the explicit exception in Matthew 19 than to do the inverse. I recall in the pa…
/r/askRPC19/10/19 05:43 PM
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I've read that divorce position before. I'm just not buying it. It's too much assuming and implying to hang a strong theological argument on. Even the way John Piper, throughout the article, is like "I know you're still not sold because of Matthew 19, I'll get to Matthew 19 in a minute" makes me think even for him it's a theological backflip. I'm not a greek scholar, but the fact that Jesus/Matthew picked an ambiguous word ..."pornea" (which could mean a whole host of sexual sins... and JP someh…
/r/askRPC19/10/19 12:01 AM
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I told her if we were going to stay together, shut down all contact or I'm out Classic mate-guarding. Horrible idea. It's a display of low value. At what point is mate-guarding actually just self-respect and appropriate boundaries? Allowing your wife to cheat on you, or work towards cheating on you is surely a display of low value. Back then it was from a needy place, and clearly a bluff. Now, it wouldn't be a game of chicken. ​ … the main event, after which she may be more inclined to start fol…
/r/askRPC18/10/19 11:54 PM
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" I have a second alarm clock in the basement where I shower, set 5 min after my phone alarm but it's not loud enough -- going to relocate it upstairs today so there's a healthy fear of waking up my daughter. I'm feeling frustrated here, I'm setting a second alarm in the basement but I'm able to somehow get up, walk downstairs and turn it off, and get back in bed without coming to my senses. Any particular reason you didn't follow through on this?" It crossed my mind as I walked past it each day…
/r/RPChristians16/10/19 09:53 PM
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Solid work.
/r/RPChristians16/10/19 09:40 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 190.1lbs. BF~21%, 5'11". ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) - By end of 2019 (this deadline is slipping away with 11 weeks to go...) Short term: Lose 1lb/wk (approx. 2200-2400 cals/day) Last week - 190.4 Current - 190.1 **MISS** -- Still not as tight on calories as I need to be (tracking in the 2500 range, need to be closer to 2200). Attended 4 thanksgiving dinners, basically didn't eat outside of supper and managed to los…
/r/RPChristians16/10/19 03:53 PM
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You're trying to be a boss - be a leader instead. It will take time for the dynamic to change. I think the meme oversimplifies, but you're right -- If I am resolved to my goals for our household, within my frame, I will become the captain who outworks the crew, and then I think I can more successfully be the "boss" when I need to. ​ Sounds like you're doing this to get a response out of her. That's Dancing Monkey. This reply literally bothered me all week, which is stupid and probably means you'…
/r/RPChristians15/10/19 05:15 PM
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When I started getting affirmation again, there was a brief temptation to salivate at the carrot dangled in front of me, hoping not to get the stick again ... but the next rejection quickly reminded me that I couldn't trust my wife with my emotions any more than I would trust a teenager with my financial portfolio. It's a bad investment. This is where I'm at and very timely indeed. I still catch myself putting my self-worth on the successes, I become emotionally vulnerable to the rejections and …
/r/RPChristians15/10/19 05:00 PM
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Good job going to small group, a great place to fellowship with other men on mission and possibly meet a Christian wife in the future. I too understand the gnawing everyone-else-has-it-together-but-I'm-a-phony feeling. Everyone else there is a sinner, saved by grace, seeking to draw nearer to God and his people. Keep going, be authentic, sharpen one another. ​ The job I recently got bores me and doesn't challenge me in any meaningful way. I took it because people here and in real life suggested …
/r/RPChristians11/10/19 09:04 PM
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Former hugely fat guy here--you're just in start-up phase right now and should try to practice consistency as eating to fuel your mission is a lifestyle. I think you've got more room to coast on a vacation once you're at cruising altitude. Choose protein heavy meals -- steak or chicken as tacos, wraps, sandwiches or with vegetables and a whole food carb (rice, baked potato) are great. Just track it on MyFitnessPal while you're on the toilet or something. Chains like applebee's or whatever will h…
/r/askRPC11/10/19 08:34 PM
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Lifts?
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:00 PM
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Twist, it's actually his current wife trying to catch him "cheating"
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:00 PM
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So, is one of your boundaries NO LYING, or is it MOSTLY NO LYING except if you have a good reason?
/r/askRPC09/10/19 08:37 PM
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I dont think OP is negotiating attraction. He's working on becoming more attractive, and naturally withdrawing attention from a person who is not adding (sexual) value. I don't read his post as "I'm mad you're turning me down, so I'm giving you the silent treatment" I read it as "I'd like to have sex, you rejected my offer, so I'll do the 2nd highest priority thing on my list" -- lift, meal prep, parent, whatever. Not a punishment, just a natural consequence. I guess the big difference is in bei…
/r/RPChristians09/10/19 08:23 PM
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Thanks for responses last week. Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 191lbs. BF~21%, 5'11". ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 175lbs (or w/e gets me abs) - By end of 2019 hopefully. Short term: Lose 1lb/wk (approx. 2200-2400 cals/day) Last week - 191 Current - 190.4 **MISS** -- Still not as tight on calories as I need to be (tracking in the 2500 range, need to be closer to 2200). Tried to focus on IF until 1-2pm on days that I don't lift, and eating a decent sized breakfast right after…
/r/RPChristians09/10/19 04:23 PM
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No. You will only turn a covert contract into an overt one by reinforcing to her that all of this is because of sex. Let me absolutely, positively clear here: SHE MUST FIGURE THIS PART OUT ON HER OWN. Period. And she will. When she's ready. The hamster already knows where the exit is, it's just looking for a different door I foolishly articulated this the other day after sex something along the lines of "if you ever think I'm grumpy for no reason... sex is a great way to iron things out"... how …
/r/RPChristians08/10/19 10:05 PM
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I've noticed a significant improvement in my focus on my goals after posting in OYS for the last 2 weeks. I'm so scared strangers on the internet are going to call me out for not doing the work I said I was gonna do. Am I in reddit's frame?
/r/RPChristians07/10/19 10:02 PM
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Thanks to rocknrollchuck for responding to last week's OYS. Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 191lbs. BF~21%, 5'11". Lifts (before back injury): Semi-sumo deadlift 1RM = 335lbs, Squat 1RM = 270lbs, Bench 1RM = 200lbs, OHP 1RM = 130lbs, DIP BW X 9, Pull-ups BW X 5 Weight: Long term: Cut to 180lbs (or w/e gets me abs) - By end of 2019 Short term: Lose 1lb/wk (approx. 2200-2400 cals/day) Last week - 191 Current - 191 **MISS** -- Improved my gym attendance and performance this wee…
/r/RPChristians02/10/19 04:30 PM
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My take.... A) she see's you improving, so checking if she still has power over you or if these improvements are evidence you're checking out. Kind of a sexual compliance test.. B) she's actually horny for you. I'd initiate after work on your terms, if she's in to it then A. If not, then it's B and you should go build your bike.
/r/askMRP28/09/19 04:41 PM
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Translation "He ain't giving me tingles". Also, why is "wife" in your flair? Took a poke at your post history, looks like you left him for some goats? I feel mislead, as I thought I was getting input from a Christian wife.
/r/RPChristians26/09/19 03:43 PM
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I read that you're a manager. Is this possibly a management issue? If you train your people better can you dial it back to say... 50 hours?
/r/RPChristians26/09/19 03:40 PM
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Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 192lbs. BF~21%, 5'11". Lifts (before back injury): Semi-sumo deadlift 1RM = 335lbs, Squat 1RM = 270lbs, Bench 1RM = 200lbs, OHP 1RM = 130lbs, DIP BW X 9, Pull-ups BW X 5 ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 180lbs (or w/e gets me abs) - By end of 2019 Short term: Lose 1lb/wk (approx. 2200-2400 cals/day) Last week - 193 Current - 191 **HIT** ​ Lifting: Long Term: Recover from back injury ASAP - no timeline Short Term: Do my physio-prescribed exercises d…
/r/RPChristians25/09/19 03:56 PM
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Around 80% of the time, it's still very clearly duty sex... The other 80% of the times feel like borderline rape -- eyes closed, cringy facial expression, reluctant kiss, angry snaps if I try to touch her breasts. Wonky math aside, do you initiate just to initiate or are you legitimately just trying to get off? From the sounds of it sex with her is a nearly traumatic experience. Whoops-- typo there that changes the picture. Around 20% of the time, it's decent--she gets in to it, maybe she cums--…
/r/askRPC24/09/19 04:46 PM
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Thanks for answering my actual question! Was debating deleting and reposting because apparently it wasn't clear. Will consider a brief monk-mode if things continue this way. I've done long monk modes before, but since I was even less attractive this was just a nice way to avoid rejection and create a covert contract where I got to be bitter and secretly watch porn. Although this post paints a grim picture, I actually think I'm making progress and sexual interactions are improving overall as I de…
/r/askRPC23/09/19 06:22 PM
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Zero PMO (Means watch porn/masturbate right?) My physical and mental game are both works in progress. I'm happy with the improvements I've made from acting like a passive aggressive woman. I'm just trying to tease out what to do right now. Once ive got the body of Ryan Reynolds and frame of Winston Churchill maybe shell jump my twice a day. But currently-- I initiate, wife accepts out of a combination of fear and "wanting to want to", horrible duty sex commences. With the goal of improving our s…
/r/askRPC23/09/19 02:39 AM
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Reworking this to fit with my own methods better. Current: 27M, Married x 5 years, together almost 10. 192lbs. BF~21%, 5'11". Lifts (before back injury): Semi-sumo deadlift 1RM = 335lbs, Squat 1RM = 270lbs, Bench 1RM = 200lbs, OHP 1RM = 130lbs, DIP BW X 9, Pull-ups BW X 5 ​ Weight: Long term: Cut to 180lbs (or w/e gets me abs) - By end of 2019 Short term: Lose 1lb/wk (approx. 2200-2400 cals/day) Last week - 195 Current - 193 **HIT** ​ Lifting: Long Term: Recover from back injury ASAP - no timeli…
/r/RPChristians18/09/19 11:04 PM
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Seem to get more IOI when wearing slightly more fitted clothing -- not talking check-out-these-love-handles tight. Agreed, bulking is stupid until I can see my abs. I get frustrated when lifts plateau or drop, I'm feeling beat up and hungry all the time. Talk myself in to letting my foot off the gas to save my gains. Weight is dropping fast right now, but I know a chunk of this is muscle since I can't hit DL or Squat at all currently. Agreed its GAF/approval seeking. I'll try to find 1 progress-…
/r/RPChristians12/09/19 06:28 PM
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PHYSICAL: How are you doing with lifting? --bad, hit a rank back injury that's put numbness and weakness in my leg as well as shooting pain whenever I activate my core muscles. Got a physio referral and xray, improving slowly. Doing some basic upper body work a couple times a week since then. Losing weight? Where's your body fat %? What have you been eating lately? -- Was down to 185, but got tired of cutting and losing strength, back at 193lbs now but fighting towards abs. BF% estimated at 23% …
/r/RPChristians11/09/19 06:38 PM
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Perceived sexual availability is more attractive then confirmed sexual denials.
/r/askRPC11/09/19 06:25 PM
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PHYSICAL: How are you doing with lifting? Good, changed to a PPL + UL 5 day program from a 4 day UL. Shorter sessions plus more volume on upper body. Losing weight? Yes, down from 260 now to 190. Where's your body fat %? I'd guess 20% on the mirror, it might be lower but it's all in the love handles and lower stomach + loose skin from the weight loss so doesn't look great once the shirt comes of. What have you been eating lately? Decent. How about your porn/alcohol/drug/cigarette/whatever use? N…
/r/RPChristians07/03/19 03:04 AM
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Ultimatum was the plan Z end-of-the-line way to fix the problem. Unfortunately her snooping forced it much earlier. Being the "have sex with me or I'm leaving you" guy is no fun. I'd much rather be the hot guy you want to have sex with because he makes you horny. I take scripture seriously. I've come to the conclusion the from Jesus' perspective, marital unfaithfulness was not merely restricted to PIV with someone else.
/r/RPChristians07/03/19 02:48 AM
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Morality aside, I don’t believe you would really leave your child, and so your dread threat is not useful< I would. If sex continued to be literally zero (which it had been for basically a year before conceiving and then almost all of the pregnancy). If she's making a good faith effort then I'm all in. When you say “starfish” do you mean completely gritting her teeth and hating you the whole time or just not moving around a lot?< It has run the gambit from crying afterwards and saying she hates …
/r/RPChristians07/03/19 02:45 AM
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Making demands was not what I wanted to do, I would much rather she'd not gone through my search history. I had a long-term plan of self-improvement which would hopefully lead her back in to sexual attraction before ever employing an ultimatum. You're assuming a lot -- our kid is a dream, sleeps 8pm until 9am. Mommy-mode right now involves getting up around 9am, fitting in at least 4 hours of socializing daily. Maybe cooking supper or not. Maybe doing the minimal chores I requested, or not. I wo…
/r/RPChristians07/03/19 02:38 AM
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My understanding of unfaithfulness "pornea" has been broader after studying the topic, especially when Jesus had more specific words to choose from. I believe flatly denying sex and not being willing to work on the situation is "pornea".
/r/RPChristians07/03/19 02:27 AM
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The only RP tools I utilized during pregnancy and post-partum had been self-development... double down on weight loss, improving appearance, getting involved in things I want to be involved in. Evidently it was going on a bit thick though. In terms of my self-confidence, I was ready for that ultimatum and I will hold firm to it. However, in my game plan, I wasn't anywhere near the ultimatum step. I try to be the fun guy, and really we have lots of fun together. Just the bedroom department has be…
/r/RPChristians07/03/19 02:26 AM
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agree to disagree on the scriptural interpretations. Yeah strangely 1 Cor. 7 didn't get her horny.
/r/RPChristians07/03/19 02:22 AM
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it has created a lot of anxiety in her. Yeah, no kidding! Your wife has a new baby and a husband who has one foot out the door. That's a nightmare situation for any woman. You don't say whether she has a career and the ability to support herself; I'm guessing not, or she probably wouldn't be going through the ordeal of trying to appease you with duty sex.< She's educated and worked in the same field as me, with the same pay. Must be some other reason for her to appease me I guess! You say the se…
/r/RPChristians07/03/19 02:21 AM
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Long time reader. Finally made an account and posting to speak to this. Had almost exactly your stats when I started my journey.. 260lbs, 5'11". Weight loss was far from linear, from 260 down to 220 was pretty easy maybe 2 months--literally any minor improvement in diet or exercise resulted in weight loss (2lbs/wk probably). From 220 down to now 190 was real slow...2 yrs of ups and downs fighting my metabolic "set-point" (and will be very slow if you're a life-long fatty like I was). At 220, fri…
/r/RPChristians02/03/19 02:36 AM
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