I don’t party and focus as much as I could on girls. It makes me feel like i’m wasting time.

SirKolbath · 2020-01-16T18:10:38+00:00

Women are the waste of time. They distract from your mission. Focus on you. When they are seeking you out you will be in the right spot.

I am not MGTOW, by the way. But I spent 20 years trying to make a woman happy who bolted the moment she wasn't having enough fun in the marriage. I almost lost my career because of her.

majorketone · 2020-01-16T19:14:16+00:00

Focusing on school and shit is great because it'll set you up for when you graduate. However, focusing on yourself and telling yourself that girls will seek you out at a certain point of success is a bad mentality that makes you complacent and not try.

Sex and female connection is a basic need, don't feel bad about putting effort into getting women. Also, as a soon to be graduate I can tell you, it is 100% possible to balance school, gym, and going out/social life. I did it, everyone I'm friends with did it and it was across the spectrum of hard and easier majors so that isn't an excuse either. The key is finding that balance.

Maybe only go out Friday night and take it easy if you have an exam the next week.

Maybe go out Friday and Saturday night but study and gym the whole day before 8ish when you start getting ready to go out.

If you actually have no time to go out then you are either really bad at time management or you are filing your time with dumb shit like playing video games for 6 hours on the weekends

ApdoSenpai · 2020-01-16T18:29:18+00:00

Women are great additions to your life, but put yourself over any women.

freedom1117 · 2020-01-16T19:37:48+00:00

I always like to think of women as the cherry on top of the cake. Sort out making a massive delicious fucking cake thats where you will get most pleasure. Then women are a nice little extra.

RacistMuffin · 2020-01-16T19:59:00+00:00

Okay, I'm actually going to give you solid advice since this "virgin"/drought phase actually fucks up your head a lot.

I'm currently in college right now, but I balance my life based on rewards and achievements. If you're doing well already in school, reward yourself by going out and partying. Humans are naturally social creatures and require social interactions to develop happiness. You need in a sense to feel as though you're in a "tribe".

Do not stop lifting and studying. But, going out for a couple of hours each weekend won't hurt you. Self development mainly occurs from experience. How are you going to better yourself with people(since it's obviously evident you are bad in social situations), if you don't experience it firsthand? Go out and trash yourself, meet some girls and develop that confidence.

You are not wasting time currently, but you can develop yourself in a better way if you learned to create some achievements since achievements develop character.

No one can naturally create an abundance mindset if they haven't fucked a single chick. You truly haven't learned the value of women when you haven't even experienced women yet.

Go out and see for yourself.

Fromstatepharm · 2020-01-16T20:41:33+00:00

Cuz you are

failed_singingcareer · 2020-01-17T00:09:36+00:00

Step 1: Spend your time BUILDING and LIVING a fun, exciting lifestyle.

Step 2: Let the girls see this. Once they do, they will come to you.

Step 3: PROFIT!!!!!!!!!

throaway2123123 · 2020-01-16T18:00:14+00:00

Continue putting in as much effort in school amd the gym, it will pay off more than you expect. Being attracted to the opposite sex is human nature and you shouldnt deny it, ask girls out, have fun, its all part of being young. However, your focus should always be on improvement, be it financially, socially, emotionally, mentally etc. Your focus shouldnt be on girls.

Title	I don’t party and focus as much as I could on girls. It makes me feel like i’m wasting time.
Author	throaway2123123
Upvotes	3
Comments	22
Date	January 16, 2020 5:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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