How do you not allow your RP knowledge to get you caught in analyzing interactions with women?

I feel like before I really started reading this stuff, whatever a woman said to me I just took at face value and was like ok whatever. Depending on the situation, maybe it stung for a few days/weeks but I didn't sit there trying to figure it out or anything.

Now when something doesn't go my way with a woman, I think ok whatever she said is utter bullshit, what happened here? What's the real reason she did what she did and said? And always blame myself. It's framed in the context, ok where did I go wrong, based on what I know, that things turned out this way?

It's like because I have this knowledge, my brain automatically tries to analyze and compute.