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Cherish yourself first and always!

heleninthealps

October 2, 2020

35 upvotes

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Title	Cherish yourself first and always!
Author	heleninthealps
Upvotes	35
Comments	6
Date	October 2, 2020 11:23 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/j3sqqv/cherish_yourself_first_and_always/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/cherish-yourself-first-and-always.317026 https://theredarchive.com/post/317026

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[–]janetheautomatonFDS Apprentice26 points27 points28 points 5 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link

So...is this where we're at now? Watching videos about how men are just 'wired' to see us as disposable, so the burden is on us to stay out of the masculine realm and hone our feminine energies?

This video literally just said that "The only men who are drawn to women who lead with their accomplishments are feminine energy men...a woman who dwells and thrives in the masculine realm will not have long-term success with a high value, a masculine man, because their energies will clash and the power struggles will ensue."

"Becoming the prize means radical self-care," as in the background women diligently apply makeup.

Holy shit. "So the job of a high value feminine woman is to value her womanhood just as much as she values her accomplishments, by packaging her femininity in a way that will work for her, and by respecting and cherishing her virtue. And for those of you who don't know what virtue means, it means cherishing the power of what sits between your legs."

To summarize:

Stay out of the masculine realm, which includes work, accomplishments, and pride. An accomplished woman who is proud of her achievements will only attract LVM.
Virtue = The milk you're giving away for free, you cow.
All men are amoral, lustful animals. They're just 'wired' this way. The burden is, as always, on you to change yourself and to manage a man's psychological and emotional landscape.

Am I missing something? Is this really FDS?

[–]sweetpotatocupcakeFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]squaremarshmallowFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

It's not. I liked her channel at first but after she posted on her site about "feminine careers" paths for women who wanted a hypergamous lifestyle, I realized something was off. Some of the paths she suggested were low paying and some laughable and unrealistic. Married or not a woman should be able to take pride in her accomplishments as a human being. I don't like it when people make femininity seem like something you have to work hard to maintain otherwise "masculine" men won't want you. It takes away your ability to just see your own humanity and leaves you constantly acting. If you are a woman or identify as one, feminine is what you are, period.

Her channel is focused on american black women and it seems like the bar has dropped so low in the black community that what she is saying sounds acceptable to some. But it's not. The idea that a man will not think you are disposable because you worked hard to make yourself desirable and are more feminine is ludicrous. Any person who sees people as disposable is useless, nothing should be done about them.

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[–]janetheautomatonFDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link