I don't have problem attracting ladies when i was in highschool/college and even now at work (but I don't like to shit where I'm eating).

So those ladies who are attracted to me they know my personality, they know how confidence i am, they know how stoic i am, they know my value , how smart or capable i can do. in other words they know me cuz I've been with them everyday so i attract them.

The problem is when i cold approach someone i always end up alone at the end or when i was in other party lot of ladies who don't know my character so it's hard for me to attract people, I'm not handsome or ugly I'm just an average dude , fit body and 5'8.

Its also also hard to date and maintain the relationship with someone outside my circle even i dated them for 2-3x it's not enough for me to show who i am. Most of my ex and plate they know me for daily basis. now I'm stuck to think i can't get ladies at the bar or anywhere outside of my box.