How to make a family before having children?

Shymink · 2020-11-17T22:10:53+00:00

Make the house smell and look good. Start traditions that you can continue on with your kids.

junior_primary_riot · 2020-11-18T21:17:39+00:00

My husband and I were married 6 years before we got pregnant (now married 20 years) so I understand this question completely! My initial pieces of advice might seem silly but the short answer is that you can use your skills and effort to create a space that is peaceful because you are there, gracefully seeing to the care of everything around you. Men love this; you and the home atmosphere you create become his safe haven and you, yourself, his treasure. The woman truly is the heart of the home. Here is what I have discovered:

I have learned men do like a feminine touch in the home when it comes to organization. When a man opens a cabinet, drawer or fridge he (and most humans) dislike when things fall out at him or appear cluttered to the point of chaos. While it is not hard to buy coordinating drawer/fridge/pantry organizers from HomeGoods, Amazon or Target, a woman will usually take the time to measure her cabinets & drawers, plan out her space and buy exactly what she needs to organize the space in a visually appealing way. The result will be highly functional and look polished, showing an unspoken level of care.

Men appreciate this, even if they cannot articulate appreciation for such before the project is complete. For example, when visiting my in-law’s newly built country home, my husband was commenting on how wonderful the kitchen was and how it was so nice to be able to find anything he needed. My mother-in-law had done nothing but use drawer organizers, clear pantry containers and an in-cabinet spice rack but my husband was thrilled. I added drawer organizers to our kitchen drawers then donated kitchen utensils I wasn’t using so the drawers looked airy and uncluttered. My husband gushed over the transformation. (I think many men enjoy a touch of minimalism in the home.)

Another tip is a well organized pantry. But front and center is a snack basket always stocked with his favorites, whatever that is. And I mean front and center at eye/chest level in the most prime spot. I discovered that doing this for my hubby added a bit of ease to his morning (he likes to grab Nature Valley granola bars for breakfast) and pleasure to his evening (he can find his Little Debbies instantly when he wants a little something sweet). If the pantry gets a smidgen untidy he never complains because what he wants is always right there in front the moment he opens the pantry door.

It seems that a man enjoys when his wife lovingly contributes to the cleanliness and smooth functioning of his home. In ages bygone, tidiness was considered a womanly art. My best friend is a home organization specialist but she uses the title “Life Flow Stylist”. She helps women create a home that supports the woman so she, in turn, can serve her family and tend to their needs well.

Elsewhere in the home I have noticed my husband adores always-clean toilets, a sparkling shower & sink area, bathroom rugs and bath towels that are regularly laundered and sheets/bedding that is washed every 7-10 days. I do one or two tasks each day plus daily sweeping/vacuuming and the house runs smoothly. On days when I am busy and the house needs attention, I microwave a bowl of water until steaming, add citrus essential oils and let it scent the house while I tidy up. The warm water and oils can later be used to scrub the kitchen sink and it cleanses the drain pipes as it goes down.

I was lucky to have someone I could observe since I did NOT grow up in a blissful home. My mother-in-law is a sweet lady who is very capable and keeps a tidy home. In return, her husband was always free to focus on work and career ambitions, which provided comfortably for them. I have worked to adopt the same habits and the same thing has happened to us: my husband has felt that I am fully capable of managing our home and has pursued career growth over the years, which has rewarded him with a comfortable income. (It does not happen overnight. It happens in little trickles over time but the trickle began within a year of me adopting some of these home care habits.)

I hope that maybe this info helps! 💜

doily88 · 2020-11-19T18:54:47+00:00

We started weekly rituals, Sunday dinners, Saturday walks, movie nights. I tried to have dinner ready or almost ready before he got home from work. Things like that to create a rhythm or predictability in the house, and for us to look forward to time together. Now after kids we still do these things and it’s nice to look back at how our family has grown. Also, I would decorate, or organize the house so he could see my appreciation for our shared space. It made the house feel like a home. Anyway.. Have fun!

ManguZa · 2020-11-17T13:53:19+00:00

Treat him as much as possible as an old school head of household. Go with whatever he say even when you don't specially approve, just to show that you trust him, and especially in public. Do things for him like cooking or taking care of his stuff, give of yourself as much as possible. Be sexually open.

He will feel loved

Title	How to make a family before having children?
Author	throw_a_way_98
Upvotes	22
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Date	November 17, 2020 1:42 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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