Why is losing temper a bad thing?

NabroleonBonaparte · 2020-02-29T14:13:30+00:00

There’s two types of “instincts” that influence our actions.

1) Animal Instincts: Eat, Fuck, Fight

2) Human Instincts: Plan, Empathize, Rationalize

Anger is a form of power. It’s an extreme expression of energy and it works. But it only appeals to the animal side of our nature. You don’t want to get involved with the type of women who operate primarily on animal instinct.

A higher quality woman who acts primarily on human instincts, might get turned on by your passion, but she won’t stay with you because you’re too risky to raise a family with.

The above explains AFBB where the girl fucks the unemployed stud but marries the hedge fund manager who doesn’t get laid.

RedLegendx · 2020-02-29T13:54:04+00:00

Not having control of your emotions is weak, that’s what females do; rationalization comes first in men.

Women are attracted to the potential of violence, not short tempered criminals.

bettywhiteishot · 2020-02-29T14:41:01+00:00

It’s beta advice.

I’m not saying try and size up every dude in the vicinity. You’re not a fucking bull shark but don’t be a pussy bitch and let people step all over you.

Last weekend went to a rave, danced had a good time with my group. Some frat pussy poured beer on my friends wife’s shoes. She freaked out on him and I separated the two of them. Did my best to defuse it. 2 minutes later he walks back up, harasses the group, cocky smirk on his face, and grabs my friend by his shirt. I walked up and smacked the absolute soul out of him. And received nothing but praise by the group and every surrounding female as he was probably doing the same shit to others.

I defused the situation originally after he did some fuckery, he came back antagonizing the group and got a severe ego check. I didn’t beat him into a coma, But I also didn’t allow him to mess with the group I was with.

I naturally have a short temper, I grew up having to defend myself a lot and I have a small boxing background but I learned to control it. That being said, if defusing doesn’t work, and the opposition gets physical, I’m quick to give them a life lesson and look like a hero after.

lowiqmaxxx · 2020-02-29T15:46:27+00:00

My interpretation of this is that you have to remain stoic, and understand that nothing can faze you emotionally. However, you have to assert dominance whenever you think it benefits you. So your losing of temper is cold and calculated, not from an emotional place.

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-02-29T14:13:11+00:00

Because this is PUA bullshit geared towards socially awkward ugly nerds who would get absolutely wrecked in an actual fight and the best thing for them to do is avoid violence.

So unless you’re a gigantic phaggot who wears a fedora hat and is skinny as fuck and pisses his pants thinking about violence then this is shit advice.

Now I don’t recommend being an idiot with a short temper as I’ve busted plenty of these phaggot sin the past but JUSTIFIABLE ANGER is fair.

Give people a warning or two and then do what you gotta do.

And yes, the most beautiful women always go for the MOST MASCULINE GUYS.

And a big part of Masculinity is standing your ground and fighting. Be calm, but when your calm runs out don’t be afraid to express yourself.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2020-02-29T15:06:55+00:00

It shows a lack of emotional control, which is weak frame.

Before acting ask yourself: what do I stand to gain and what do I stand to lose?

muricanwerewolf1 · 2020-02-29T16:00:33+00:00

It’s entirely possible to be assertive, even aggressive without losing your temper. Also, the alpha/beta binary is retarded.

MisterRoid · 2020-02-29T16:24:14+00:00

I'm not the type of guy to instigate fights, but if someone does something I don't like to me I will call them out on it and not give a shit if it causes a scene. It's pathetic to see guys here advocate acting like a bitch and avoiding conflict at all cost because a fight can potentially lead to death or injury. What's the point of surviving if you are living like that?

PhaedrusHunt · 2020-02-29T16:51:27+00:00

Gotta harness that natural energy.

I have a naturally short temper, but I've learned restraint.

Let me put it this way. I've been in a few fights or confrontations over the years. I'm a pretty big guy, and I've been doing martial arts since I was 13, so I can run through most men like they're children unless they're a pro level fighter or pretty close to that.

In all those situations, I was only "angry" once or twice.

Think of this in contrast to an idiot that os ranting and raving. Maybe to a normal dude it's scary, but if a guy like me is around, it's just a dummy making a scene and presents no threat.

He's not more alpha in that situation, he's just a male Karen that is making a show.

Yeah you get your occasional Mike Tyson. But for every Mike Tyson there is an Evander and a Lennox. Good luck with that, Mike. I don't think anyone is saying he's more alpha than those guys.

throwaway90091234 · 2020-02-29T17:00:07+00:00

There are 3 basic instincts when in a dangerous situation ( physically or psychologically): fight, flight or freeze.

If you are in the jungle and a snake passes by, the best instict would be to freeze, so i doesn't notice you and carries on.

If you are in the jungle and a tiger chases you, its best to fuckin run like usian bolt and find a safe place, thats the flight reaction.

If a thiev breaks into your house and threatens to kill you and your loved ones and no negotiation or reasoning can help, thats when your fight instinct is needed.

A calm,cool, collected man can use these instincts at the right time and will be more likely to survive especially in the cavemen past. Hence his behaviour is more attractive to women.

Imagine if you tried running away from the snake in that specific situation ir tried to fight the tiger, or froze when the thief tried killing your family. This is what would happen if you don't have control over emotions, and its since the dawn of time that women find it attractive, as it improves their and their offspring chance of survival.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-02-29T17:13:25+00:00

Anger is appropriate when people act careless or willfully ignorant when they're under your supervision or working on your dime. Understand when you're in a position for people to give a shit about your dissatisfaction, because you have the power to fire them or reject them.

It is not appropriate when people are purposefully disrespecting you. Understand when people actually want and expect you to get pissed off, and you don't have the power to fire them.

Have scorn for indolence. Disregard trolling.

2020-02-29T17:37:03+00:00

Anger can be channeled into a fearsome and formidable show of power. Women are attracted to power. So shoot a motherfucker or lay out a bitch when the time comes. People are worthless in general so use your anger to put them in their place.

whiffofass · 2020-02-29T19:12:26+00:00

I think it's bad when a woman gets you to lose it. The outcome has never been positive in my experience and I'm one of those bodybuilders who injects shit in their ass. It's hard to hold frame sometimes. Beating other guy's ass and that kind of shit gets them wet but not when she gets you emotional and angry IME

alphakari · 2020-02-29T19:26:07+00:00

Women like those kinds of guys because they want to be the girl they're nice to. IE: There's a story there in being the girl who's special.

If you aren't already that type that sparks that feeling in her, faking it is not gonna work. There's also just better ways to make her feel important because you chose her. IE: By being better than her.

Title	Why is losing temper a bad thing?
Author	Mostass
Upvotes	7
Comments	25
Date	February 29, 2020 1:52 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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