tl;dr - Girl I meet goes above and beyond to get me hooked. I finally succumb, go slightly BP. I recover and use dread game. Got into a relationship. Shit hit the fan. All of this was pre-TRP

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So I met this girl online (never do this) and against my best intentions I got charmed by her despite my initial doubts. She was a massive bitch to allot of people in her life but very nice to me (red flag). Told myself this would never change which was very dumb of me.

We get into a relationship (LDR 2 hour drive) and things go well. Then her situation changes, starts thinking about future plans and suddenly doesn't see me in them. Fine with me I agree to end the relationship. All of this happened over the phone after she last visited me. (The whole thing was a drama so no loss there).

Here I am thinking the roller coaster ride is over. Yet this girl decides to mentally fuck over my head by playing every trick known to womanhood. Things like - threats to kick me out of her life, cursing at me, trying to get me nostalgic, acting sweet and telling me she still loves me, wanting to meet up, telling me she fell for an orbiter, then shortly after she fell in love with some other dude no more than two weeks after the break up. I believe there's more craziness but I must have mentally blocked it out.

So apparently this new love didn't work out and within no time she wants to meet me "because she would be in town anyway and it was convenient". That didn't happen but she did visit my city multiple times and was sure to make it ever so clear on Facebook.

I'm done with the bullshit so after talking to her one more time she gives me the cold shoulder. One time she hates me the other time she doesn't. Fuck that shit I remove her from everything even though I don't block her phone.

There's a whole backstory behind this with tons of red flags but I'd spare you guys that boring dribble. Anyway at the time of writing I discovered TRP and I've been busting my ass. I never felt so good except for one thing.

I accepted the break up and never even considered getting back together for a second. Yet this person fucked me over mentally in more ways than one. Behind the phone she is a manipulating devil but in person I always had more control.

I never got to see this girl after we broke up. When she's mad it's impossible to communicate through messaging. The whole thing just feels weird to me. Maybe it's that last bit of oneitis that's still left but I can't shake the thought. This was my first relationship exactly due to this reason. Plates never gave me this shit.

So I am asking my fellow brothers here at TRP. Am I weak to desire a normal way of closure? This was a huge part of my life for one year. That's not much and it will definitely wash over I know. I just hate the idea of looking back at this years down the line and having nothing but bad memories after the breakup wondering if things couldn't have ended better.

Lessons learned

  • Never get into an LDR
  • Always spot Red Flags
  • Past behaviour means future behaviour
  • Don't date women who will graduate before you
  • Never fall for their charm offensive