The NAWALT Factor - Love is Possible

tl;dr

A subtle point being made in several comments lately about AWALT is that all women have a set of tendencies that their natures will push them toward, and in a society that gives them unilateral support to do whatever they want without consequences, they will act on those tendencies. AWALT is not a guarantee of particular behaviours if there are constraints. This means love is possible.

AWALT Is Not a Guarantee of Behaviour

We have a set of behaviours we ascribe to women, and we label them AWALT. A woman tends to hypergamy. She cheats easily. She lies easily. But if she has a strong framework around her pushing her away from these behaviours, she will not act on them. We know this, because we have history books.

Traditionally the framework was society. Her friends and popular culture told her how to act, and she listened. She worked hard at pleasing her husband. She was a good mother to her children. She would not dream of abandoning her man.

Today, in the Western World, society does not play this role. A woman is encouraged to act on her basest desires, which leads to behaviour that does not lend itself to a healthy pair relationship with her man. She does not take care of her body or soul for him. In fact, she does nothing for him.

Are all relationships doomed to a horrible crash into AWALT despair and nihilist doom?

Can NAWALT Exist, Under Some Circumstances?

Is there a real-life woman that, yes, could be just like that, but probably won't be? Or is this just Unicorn thinking? Is this just pedestal placing man-hamstering?

I say yes, given the right social framework, NAWALT, because I've seen it. I'll lay out some of the characteristics for you now, and how you can test for each characteristic.

Strong Male Dominance Experience

The most obvious is of course a strong father figure. He is the alpha in the household. When she begins to stray, word of her antics will get back to him, and he will let her know his displeasure. Meet her father. Speak to him frankly about Red Pill philosophy (avoid the weird terminology, stick to normal words). Be sure he's on-board with it.

All that said, I consider the strong father figure to be minor compaired to the far more important... older brothers characteristic. A girl who has at least one, but preferably two or three older brothers, at least a couple of which are strong alpha figures of the family, will be extremely likely to be a better-behaved LTR. Meet her brothers. Similarly to above, be sure they've got at least a few Red Pill characteristics.

Strong Family

When a woman begins to think about going on a CC ride, or to rape her man with a divorce, the first people she'll talk to about it are her mother and sisters. When she's talking to them, fathers and brothers will overhear. This conversation must quickly turn to the family shaming her for thinking this way, and she will come back into the fold.

It's extremely important both that her father and older brothers are RP-friendly, and that the family is tight and cohesive so that she will not have a conversation that includes only her mother and sisters.

High Quality Social Set

The second set of people she will talk to when beginning pondering a CC ride and divorce rape will be her female friends. When she's talking to them, husbands and boyfriends of her friends will overhear. The conversation again must quickly turn to her friends shaming her for thinking this way, and again, her AWALT tendencies will be pushed down.

Where Do I Get This NAWALT Girl?

Obviously this isn't going to happen in the United States or many other Western countries unless there's a perfect storm of excellent circumstances. Every characteristic you can match makes keeping a happy LTR (marriage or otherwise) in good condition more likely.

If she comes from a family with an alpha father, three older alpha brothers, and a strong family, then it's possible, combined with you being a full Red Pill Man, that you could keep a lifelong partnership with this woman even if society and her friends are encouraging her to go off the rails.

Important Tangent: Love Isn't What We Think

This Blue Pill society teaches us that "love" is something that happens to us, something of a milestone that you achieve, and once you've got it, well, there you go. Cross that off your bucket list, right?

That isn't love. What society today calls "love" is just the empty lot on which love is built.

Love is never-ending action. Love is building. When you stop building love, it decays. If you let it decay long enough, it falls down, crumbles to dust, and blows away.

If I had to put numbers on it, I'd say love will decay to nothing after a month of inaction up to 2-5 years of building. More than 5 years of building, and it might last a year with minor maintenance.

But no matter how long you build love, it can last at most about a year without major maintenance.

Lessons Learned: What Does This All Mean?

There is hope for love. It is achievable. I believe it's compatible with Red Pill theory. Not every woman must be a plate. And although "never get married" is a helpful maxim for a simplified Red Pill life, marriage and lifelong partnership, and (dare I say it?) lifelong headlong love is possible.

I believe we can build love with a woman. I believe we can build a family based on trust, love, stability, mutual attraction, mutual respect, and integrity. I believe a man and a woman can do this.

The path isn't easy.

It is true that you must maintain your Red Pill alpha status and improve consistently throughout life. But then, that's what love is, too. It's something to be maintained. Improved. Built upon. As soon as you stop working toward love, it decays, crumbles, and dies. Being Red Pill, being alpha, building, improving, living the RP lifestyle -- this is simply part of building a mutually-satisfying love with a female.

Every trait I've laid out above, strong father, strong older brothers, high quality friends, will make it easier for her to act positively toward helping build this love with you. Your job is to build your alpha traits, help her stay within her positive familial and social framework, and be her guidepost to this mutually-loving relationship.