A good man dodges a bullet when a woman tells him she's pregnant on the first date.

TheYekke · 2018-11-28T12:24:17+00:00

I guess this is the AF/BB dynamic in one posting. What shocks me is that the man felt bad about it.

Proactive cuckolding leading to getting divorce raped and stuck with child support. We have a new Carol: Praying Mantis

SirKolbath · 2018-11-28T12:31:37+00:00

The most astonishing part of this post is that the crew at /DatingOverThirty seems to be taking his side for a change.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2018-11-28T12:57:14+00:00

"Via IVF"

Her nose grows as she says this line.

Sol_Install · 2018-11-28T13:35:53+00:00

Look at the top level comment.

You better not have ghosted her. You need to talk to her and tell her your feelings about it. You need to explain to her why you don't want to date her. Ghosting's bad, mmmmkay?

No, no you don't have to tell her why you don't want to date her. But if you do decide to tell her, say "not interested in a pregnant woman." That's IT.

Women want and expect men to have these long navel gazing drawn out conversations to explain why they don't want to do/have/get/be something. Well, no. "I don't want to do/have/get/be that." That's all you have to say. "I'm not interested in dating a pregnant woman." Then politely excuse yourself, ask for the check, pay it, and end the date. Or toss a couple of 20s on the table for the bill and a 20 to her for cab fare, and just leave.

You don't even have to say that much. "I'm not interested." And leave. And then ghost. Don't return calls, texts or messages.

"I don't want to" is good enough. "Not interested" is good enough.

AllahHatesFags · 2018-11-28T13:53:14+00:00

The fact that the man feels guilty for not wanting to cucked right out of the gate shows just how far we have fallen. They are trying to shame men into making cuckoldry the standard and if you, as a man, don't like it then there must be something wrong with you according to these people because "It takes a REAL MAN to step up and raise another man's kid for him!"

The deference that society gives single mothers is maddening, just look at the top comment in the archived link:

You didn't ghost her right? you talked with her and shared your feelings about it?

If it were me, I would have bailed on the date literally right after she told me this and blocked her on everything. Women like this deserve no respect whatsoever and I wouldn't give her the time of day.

cycophuk · 2018-11-28T15:01:36+00:00

I felt bad because she implied i wasn’t open minded enough to deal with this situation.

What a cunt. Like the baby needs to be his responsibility.

dgrawrpla · 2018-11-28T13:15:19+00:00

IVF khmm, yeah sure.

cycloneous · 2018-11-28T15:30:52+00:00

Don't worry guys, Inspector Save a Hoe here, and I read this horror story so that you didn't have to!

She did say she’s not looking for a father of the baby etc. but yeah if I had have known before hand I wouldn’t have gone. We were texting for about a week.

She may not have been looking for a daddy for Chad's demon spawn, but I am sure she is looking a living, breathing ATM that has a house, a large bank account, a car or two and lets not forget a 6 figure job.

What are the odds this fine specimen of a pregnant and abandoned princess is dating other men and doing the exact same thing?! I am betting man, so I'll say she's probably is most likely doing this hoping to land a beta bux male. She wants lure them into a lucrative long term one-sided contract (marriage) where after 10 years of marriage she gets to divorce rape her male victim and then go on to the next victim!

NickTesla2018 · 2018-11-28T12:25:52+00:00

WTF ?! I wonder if she had several drinks with dinner. : (

where_muh_good_mens · 2018-11-28T18:04:52+00:00

Ooof, some of the flairs on that sub are cringy and not in a good way.

♂ 34 Hope is the first step on the road to dissapointment.

Looks like you found MGTOW buddy... whether you wanted to or not it seems

♀ 40 Cautiously Optimistic

More like "Caustically Past Her Prime", amiright? Nahh, I know, I'll just go back to my corner to sit and think by myself.

houseoftolstoy · 2018-11-28T16:01:39+00:00

Something does not add up with her story. As far as I know, IVF is not something done on a whim. The two cases I know about are with couples who have difficulty conceiving or with single women who see no other option for having children since she has given up on the idea of finding a man suitable for commitment to have a family with. Since this woman is clearly not in category 1, why would she be looking for a man to date only 3 months after getting pregnant via IVF? And this is the max range of time she waited, which means she likely didn't even wait that long to start looking.

Other comments here say that the IVF portion of the story may be a lie, and I am inclined to agree. Even if she did go through IVF, it shows any future man that she did not have faith in finding a man that could be a good biological father. It shows that she did not prioritize starting a family in the window of time where it is biologically ideal, so she is jumping to plan B and is hoping to find a sucker willing to sign on to this deal.

Pretzel911 · 2018-11-28T18:38:13+00:00

One of the comments from OP: "She said she wasn't looking for any kind of father for the baby"

How the fuck can she expect to get in to any kind of committed relationship with someone while being pregnant or already having kids and not expect this man to be treated as a father. Maybe she's just looking for a casual fuck, but if the relationship moves anywhere the man will be in those kids lives.

So stupid.

deathtocontrollers · 2018-11-28T21:28:53+00:00

I would have ghosted her. "had invetro fertilisation" my ass. More like cock carousel fertilization.

Blogginginvicecity · 2018-11-29T03:00:40+00:00

I think it’s pretty manipulative of her to 1 - not tell you this before the date. 2 - imply you’re not open minded and attempt to make you feel bad about your choice.

That woman commenter knows what's up.

He notes she was confident. Yeah, I bet. The most confident women I meet are the biggest sluts. Probably because they know they have a huge army of betas behind them just waiting to simp. Plus, she's the sort of woman to shame him for being repulsed by her """""IVF"""""". Big ol pack of balls of that one. Yeah she's confident!

The bottom comment

It wasn't invetro

LOL the truth be hidden in plain sight, in a few words, right at the bottom. The truth is so humble.

binrobinro · 2018-11-28T15:46:39+00:00

We could just "make sure" you're pregnant.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2018-11-28T20:19:38+00:00

The fuck would a guy feel bad about this?? She straight up misled him and he feels guilty? God, I hate my generation.

[deleted] · 2018-11-29T09:26:56+00:00

An important thing to keep in mind: Never believe the "I don't want you to be a father to my kid/s" bullshit. We got two scenarios here

The relationship goes well and you end up moving together, she will start expecting things for her children from you (be it watching them or entertaining them) at which point you are being pushed into the role of a Father.
She knows that the relationship won't last.

No matter what: The children won't go away just because she said "I don't want you to be a father figure", sooner or later you'll have to deal with them.

Source: I dated a single mom once (once and never again)

Title	A good man dodges a bullet when a woman tells him she's pregnant on the first date.
Author	sleepyweaselisawake
Upvotes	224
Comments	61
Date	November 28, 2018 12:09 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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