"It gave me a beautiful son, who I hope you will love as your own if it ever got serious. In the past I have been used, abused, and taken completely for granted, because of that I am not settling for anything less than the whole package."

KingRobotPrince · 2018-08-06T14:42:21+00:00

OP indented, my translations in regular.

My past has been a rocky one, but it has shaped me into the woman I am standing here in front of you today.

My screwed up past, bad decisions, and problems all make up who I am and you just have to deal with it.

This past has created fears, heartbreak, and made me learns some serious life lessons early on.

OMG do I have baggage. You'll have to deal with that too. Pretty much the only thing of value I can offer is my body.

It gave me a beautiful son who I hope you will love as your own if it ever got serious.

One of the really bad decisions I made was fucking a douchebag who I allowed to knock me up. Another one was being a total bitch to that douche. And man, do I need someone to start paying the bills. He will never be "your own", as i'll explain later. But I need you to write the checks for him as if he's your own.

In the past I have been used, abused, and taken completely for granted, because of that I am not settling for anything less than the whole package.

I was a fucked up person who used and abused and took for granted the people around me. I allowed men to use, abuse and take me for granted because I do that to others. And so you will be held to much higher standards, while I will not be held to any such higher standard.

I am my own person. I am independent. I am strong.

I am so strong and independent I'm writing this to you in an effort to talk you into bailing me and my son out.

don't get upset when I pick time with family over you.

Others will be more important to me than you are, especially my dad. (Daddy issues).

if I am going to have a girls night out, let me.

If I decide I need to go out , get drunk, flirt with other men and maybe fuck other men, I will do that whether you like it or not.

I will let you know when I am home.

Even though I expect you to foot the bill and pay up for me and my son, what I do on "my own time" is my business. You give me all the benefits, you take on all the burdens.

I was controlled and smothered.

I chose douches and insecure men. It was my fault I chose them, but I will make you suffer for it.

I can pay for my own tab, I can open my own doors, and I sure as hell can order my own food.

I say these things because they make me feel good about myself and I need to say them so they don't take my feminist card away. Even though I can do those things, I will expect you to do them for me (especially the pay the tab bit), and if you do not, I will refuse to fuck you, treat you like shit, and eventually cheat on you.

You can be a gentleman, in fact I will love that about you, but please respect my independence.

If you are a gentleman I will hate that about you. I'll use, exploit and take advantage of you. You must respect me, but I will never respect you.

I am a mother first. My child will always come first.

You are not important to me. Your sole use to me is as a walking wallet/ATM.

If you don't understand and respect that, then I will cancel us completely.

I really don't have time for dating but I really need the validation. I am setting a hard boundary that I expect you to finance and pay for, but you will never be in charge. You're just an appendage. I am firmly in control here. I will never let you in.

=I will always strive to be the best mother to my child, you are free to hop on board with that or get off the ride.

I am in control here. You step into my frame. I run this show; you're just along for the ride. You will never have anything to say about anything that goes on. I will go ragecunt superbitch on anything that has to do with my kid. When I divorce you, I will make you pay child support.

My past has huge pot holes, twists, turns, and giant cracks.

And you will have to deal with, identify, and repair all of them. Every single one. There are some major defects even I don't know about... yet. But you'll find them. And I will expect you to fix them.

I'm so thankful for it. If you love me, you must love my past. It has strengthened me, made me grow, and made me a hell of a great person.

You have to love all of my shit. It has weakened me, gave me a hard shell, made me put up walls and defense mechanisms, brought out my addictions and personality disorders, and made me hell to live with.

I have more compassion than anyone you know.

I really don't have any compassion. If I had any, I wouldn't have to say I have compassion.

I have a lot of baggage and, to be honest, most of it you won't understand.

I am so fucked up in so many ways. And I am calling on you to just bear up under it, unpack it (except for the stuff I will make sure I keep hidden from you until it explodes all over you in a ragecunt bitchfest).

You won't understand why I have to sleep with the windows shut or check the door and window locks 10 times before I go to bed at night, but let me.

I fucked a few insane criminal thugs in my past who are still looking for me and still send me threatening notes. With one guy I go to his parole hearings every so often to keep him in prison. I worry about what might happen when he gets out. So, yeah, I have OCD and paranoid schizophrenia. Just let me have my mental illnesses that you will have to pay for.

My past will cause fear in our relationship, and I am extremely sorry for that. I refuse to ever go back to a toxic relationship. I will not let another man ever have control and ownership over me again. I refuse to go back to that dark hurtful place I was once in.

I am afraid. I cannot love. I cannot love another man. I don't trust men. I will never love you. I will never trust you. I hate men. All men are awful. Except for their wallets and money.

I relive my past every single day. Looking over my shoulder, checking the back seat in the car, always looking at my surroundings. Some days are worse than others, it will cause me to have huge walls up and act tough, but I promise I am trying.

The past I chose to live, the decisions I freely chose, and the men I chose to fuck, and the consequences of those poor decisions, have driven me nearly insane - an insanity you will have to live with and you will NEVER EVER get to have a good sex life with me. I am nowhere nearly ready for a serious relationship with a man. I'm ruined for life, because of my decisions. But I expect you to take me on anyway, and pay and pay and pay. You are going to pay dearly for the sins of the men of my past.

I'm not strong and independent. I am weak, afraid, fearful, suffering from at least one personality disorder, controlling, and damn near psychotic. And that's just the shit I know about and am willing to cop to.

Stories of strength, triumph and happiness.

Except for all that shit I just told you about, I am really strong and independent, Sure. Yeah. I got my shit together. Uh huh.

There are still places of my heart that I will never fully allow you into.

I am giving you the clearest warning I can not to get involved with me. In case you're missing it, here it is again:

I WILL NEVER TRUST YOU. I WILL NEVER LOVE YOU. I WILL NEVER SUBMIT TO YOU. I WILL NEVER GIVE MYSELF FULLY TO YOU. YOU WILL NEVER BE ALL THAT IMPORTANT TO ME. EVER.

My friends were there for at times where I didn't want to live anymore, I will always be there for them.

But I will NEVER be there for you.

This huge heart applies to you as well.

Oh yeah. I guess I need to say something about you too.

I will give you the shirt off my back

But never during sex. Because we will never ever have sex.

I will bend over backwards to make you feel special

No I won't. I just spent about 5 paragraphs telling you how not special and unimportant you will be to me.

I can give you the world, but I will take it away as quick as it was given and once it's gone, I'm done.

Here's the warning again. IF YOU MAKE EVEN ONE MISTAKE, YOU ARE OUT OUT OUT. I WILL NEVER EVER FORGIVE ANY TRANSGRESSION, NO MATTER HOW SMALL. I WILL NEVER TRUST YOU.

There are times when I am extremely emotional and times where I am extremely cold.

Im a borderline, dude. I will go ragecunt superbitch on you and expect you to fix it. I will get distant from you and keep you away from me. DEAL WITH IT.

I am difficult. I will be the first to admit that.

And you're just going to have to deal with that. You, however, do NOT get to be difficult with me. My wants, needs, hopes, dreams and desires are paramount and take first priority, always, at all times. I do not care about what you want, need, etc. You are here to serve me. You are here to give me what I want, need, etc. YOu will have to get your own wants, needs, etc. met however you can. You cannot depend on me to help you with those.

I'll help everyone else. I'll be there for everyone else. But I will not be there for you.

PhotosyntheticChad · 2018-08-06T13:50:55+00:00

NEXT!

A laundry list of demands, stipulations and restrictions, a child that isn’t mine, a woman with mental health problems and nothing in return. Where do I sign?

TomahawkSuppository · 2018-08-06T15:06:42+00:00

So let me see if I understand this reasoning here, you made bad choices in the past and got knocked up. Which makes you damaged goods lady, the number of men who want to show up and be a father for your crumb cruncher is very very low and is usually found in the thirsty mangina section of the man store.

Beyond these demands that a man bend over backward to accommodate you, what exactly are you providing? The privilege for him to pay the bills for you and your kid? The privilege of always being second and most times a distant third?

I notice you also demand that he be okay with your girls night out but something tells me if he wanted to hang out with the guys it would be a hard no followed by using sex as a weapon right?

You lady are a toxic waste dump and your sexual market place value is somewhere between cum dumpster and dumpster fire.

ransay3277 · 2018-08-06T15:06:05+00:00

Offers nothing, demands everything and still believes she is going to get a guy who has tons of options when it comes to women.

SirKolbath · 2018-08-06T15:59:31+00:00

"My son will always come first."

Kthxbye.

Harsh, kiddo? Well, you just told me that I will never be first in your eyes! Why would I waste my time with you when there are millions of women who will put me first?

[deleted] · 2018-08-06T15:31:27+00:00

See I am a mom and a dad to my child.

You're so such thing, you empty-headed simpleton.

kevin32 · 2018-08-06T16:06:53+00:00

Gents, "Alyssa" is a domestic violence survivor. Read: Got involved with a douchebag thug/lowlife type who knocked her up, she broke up with him. She's around 25. Note the cleavage-revealing, breasts pushed together to maximize cleavage photos she posts of herself. Photos that say "See how hot I am? I am hotter than the 4 women who read this site." Note the empowerment language.

Basically it's "I survived domestic violence, it was horrible, I got a kid out of it, I have tons of issues, I am damaged, any man who gets into a relationship with me will have to slog waist deep through all my shit and he will STILL never get 100% out of me."

starkfuture · 2018-08-07T00:17:21+00:00

"I am a mother first" Hard pass bitch.

moorekom · 2018-08-06T17:11:23+00:00

//Before we dive into this, I really need you to know and understand me//

Right off the bat, she's setting the tone that she's the important one.

// My past has been a rocky one, but it has shaped me into the woman I am standing here in front of you today. The woman that you hopefully will love and appreciate.//

Notice that she expects you to love her and appreciate her. This bitch wants a guy who will submit to her. She doesn't want to submit after all the screw ups she has had.

//This past has created fears, heartbreak, and made me learn some serious life lessons early on.//

And the burden will brew on you to make up for that.

//It gave me a beautiful son, who I hope you will love as your own if it ever got serious.//

You should love him as your own if she ever deems you worthy of that honor.

//In the past I have been used, abused, and taken completely for granted, because of that I am not settling for anything less than the whole package.//

Again, the burden is on you. She just sits there judging how you compare.

//The boys before you were just that, boys.//

Yeah, sure.

//They didn’t know what they had until I was gone, then would continue to try and come back into my life. //

Very believable. They missed your ass so much they begged for it, huh? It sure as shit can't have been your pleasant personality.

//I fell for their games a few times, but I refuse to ever do that again. //

I have a record of being a stupid slut but don't let that confuse you.

//They didn’t understand me, so before you really decide you want to do this, I need you to understand these few things.//

Again, the burden is on you. There she sits demanding and judging you.

//I am my own person. //

Then take care of yourself and your bastard bitch.

//I am independent. I am strong. I am okay being by myself. //

Then why are you here trying to entice someone into being your bitch?

//If I ask you to come to a family get together by all means come, but don’t get upset when I pick time with them over time with you.//

Yep. If you decide to be her bitch, then you cannot afford to have dignity.

//I don’t need to talk to you all day everyday. If I am going to have a girls night, let me.//

She's masterful, this one. She's not asking for your permission. Don't be mistaken. It's more of an announcement. But she'll do it in such a way to make you think you have a say. You don't.

//I will let you know when I am home. //

Just like a man would call out to his dog when he's home.

//I was controlled and smothered. They call in “love bombing” for so long that if I feel any sense of control or insecurity on your part I will break things off immediately.//

She's so strong, this one.

// I can pay for my own tab, I can open my own doors, and I sure as hell can order my own food. //

Further proof of strength.

//You can be a gentleman, in fact I will love that about you, but please respect my independence.//

No, she won't.

//I am a mother first. I can not stress this enough. My child will always come first. If he is sick I am sorry I am canceling on you. If he is in a mood where he just needs his mom, I am canceling. If you don’t understand and respect that, then I will cancel us completely. //

Again, she's setting the frame that she's the one who chooses your pathetic ass. Not the other way around.

//See I am a mom and a dad to my child.//

I'm not even going to give you the courtesy of pretending like you're a fake dad. You just do not have any power. And I expect you to take it up your ass and give me a check after.

//While finding someone to fill that spot would be amazing, its not a necessity. //

Told you so.

//This makes who you are as a person even more important to me.//

Yep. She would like to have her own bitch around instead of being one to a powerful man.

//I am a mother 24 hours a day 7 days a week 365 days a year. I will always strive to be the best mother to my child, you are free to hop on board with that or get off the ride.//

Again, understand that she's giving the privilege of accepting you.

//My Past. My past is a more than just a windy road.//

Yep. Life and men have pounded on her. Hard.

// It has huge pot holes, twists, turns, and giant cracks. //

I'm trying to not make another joke on pounding or thunder.

//But I am so thankful for it. If you love me, then you must love my past. It has strengthened me, made me grow, and made me a hell of a great person.//

See her hamster trying to rationalize to herself that she's not a worthless whore and trying to subjugate you at the same time?

// I have more compassion than anyone you know. //

Just accept it you simp motherfucker. It'll make it easier when she abuses you later on.

//I have a lot of baggage and, to be honest, most of it you won’t understand.//

Because you are beta. I don't expect you to understand what alphas do.

// You won’t understand why I have to sleep with the windows shut or check the door and window locks 10 times before I go to bed at night, but let me. //

Listen to her break it down to you, you clueless little shit.

//My past will cause fear in our relationship, and I am extremely sorry for that. I refuse to ever go back to a toxic relationship. I will not let another man ever have control and ownership over me again. I refuse to go back to that dark hurtful place I was once in. //

As I said, she's used to being someone's bitch. Now she just wants you to be hers. Not an unreasonable demand, is it?

//I relive my past every single day.//

And still get wet. But she can't do that right now as she has to secure a provider who will be her bitch.

//Looking over my shoulder, checking the back seat in the car, always looking at my surroundings. Somedays are worse than others, it will cause me to have huge walls up and act tough, but I promise I am trying.//

And she expects you to put up with her shitty behavior because you've been dumb enough to listen to her so far with compassion and submit to her.

//I may be strong but I have a huge heart. If you ask anyone about me they will tell you stories of strength, triumph, and happiness.//

Hamster overdrive.

// I am laughing most of the time, whether that be at myself or with others. //

You might even get that.

/=There are still places of my heart that I will never fully you allow you into. //

But only if you behave. And probably not even then.

//There are times where someone is calling me for help and I am going to get up and take the phone call. Whether that be my best friend going through a hard break up or a girl who found me and is wanting to know the safe steps to leave her abuser. I am a firm believer in being the person now, who you needed back then. My friends were there for me at times where I didn’t want to live anymore, I will always be there for them. The girls who call me are asking for guidance, they look up to me, I owe it to them to be there to help however they need me to. This huge heart applies to you as well. I will give you the shirt off my back, I will bend over backwards to make you feel special, but please don’t take advantage of this. I can give you the world, but I will take it away as quick as it was given and once its gone, I’m done.//

See, she will make you miserable but only if you don't behave.

//I am hard to love.//

No shit sherlock.

imthetaxman826 · 2018-08-06T15:40:01+00:00

I would just as soon commit seppuku than take on this disaster.

[deleted] · 2018-08-06T18:47:12+00:00

Seriously, who the fuck would even bother with someone so damaged?
This bitch needs years of therapy

frikabg · 2018-08-06T16:46:07+00:00

Basic thot. These women are so self centered that the thought that they had bad life experiences happened to anyone else is beyond them.

Relationship is about giving and taking in general so imagine that if there is some random man out there who has equal requirements like her's because you know he too been abused by his exes and holds the new woman in his life responsible for other people mistakes he also has a child that comes first and he has mommy issues this relationship between them will NEVER work simply because they are each others last priority and at that point what exactly is the point of being with someone? There isn't any not in my view anyway. This is why single mothers are trash!

Also this whole independence act where she can take care of herself pay her bills wants to go out and live a single persons life while being in a relationship ... You are either in a relationship or not choose one! You want both things and that is just unrealistic. Besides if like your freedom so fucking much stay single and enjoy it bitch! By the looks of it in your view all men are abusive controlling etc so why bother being in a relationship if we are all so fucking bad and evil?

Seca2Bro · 2018-08-06T18:06:10+00:00

I fail to comprehend how she is not going to settle, but whatever sucker she finds will have to settle for her 747 jumbo plane full of baggage.

[deleted] · 2018-08-06T18:16:24+00:00

That person is free to roam the streets and has sole custody of a child? Are you fucking serious?

Blogginginvicecity · 2018-08-07T05:21:24+00:00

I swear these women are straight up trying to be an obstacle course, " because men LOVE tough mudders!"

As other people have noted in the comments on other posts, these WAATGM posts often beautifully showcase 'projection'. She wanted a challenging, complex man with a muddied and mysterious past. Now she's on the prowl and thinks she understands her prey, but of course... ...she does not.

Lady! You know how men used to be very polite and chivalrous to women? It was in no small part because they understood women are insecure and are looking to be victims and start a fight. Why would the ladies be feminine? In part to trap a man by hiding their tumoltuous, wild, naive decision making. Men were on their toes even when women were on guard and putting up a good front. Now that you're actively presenting a tumultuous life and a bag of problems, is it any wonder men are NOPE-ing the heck out of your neck of the woods?

civilizedfrog · 2018-08-07T12:22:38+00:00

The title of this article should be- Reasons to not date a single mother

"It gave me a beautiful son, who I hope you will love as your own if it ever got serious. In the past I have been used, abused, and taken completely for granted, because of that I am not settling for anything less than the whole package."

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