So let me start off with a bit of relevant info on me: AFC and nice guy, white night, whatever you want to call it most of my life, began to wake up sometimes last year really. Probably not red pill by your standards, not sure I know exactly what those standards are anyway and didn't agree with everything I've seen in my little time lurking this subreddit, but I think I get the gist of it. So, on to the story.

Met a girl in a neighboring country 2 months ago, party animal, bit of a nympho, happy cheerful silly energetic kind of girl, sweet side and bitchy side are both checked. Hit it off, travelled together a couple of months, talk on the internet and stuff.

She doesn't want a classic relationship and neither do I, we both want to have fun, although I probably want an open relationship more than her, she seems a bit confused, now says she doesn't want commitment at all - she's pretty adamant against anything that resembles a relationship - just to be really good friends and have great sex with everyone, which I'd be willing to try, says she doesn't want to get to like me too much, but I think that will work itself out if we're in the same place.

Which brings me to the core thing, plan was that I move to her city for a couple of months till she is done with uni, then we travel for the summer at least and have a shitload of fun.

However recently she met this guy, saw him/fucked him a bunch of times, let's call him Clingy. He's this cute and innocent 21 y.o (tho apparently a great lay) and he probably thinks he's her boyfriend has told her he's a one woman guy etc. and gets upset if she hints that this is not the case and she will fuck other people, she has tried to tell him.

Anyway, because of this guy the story keeps changing, now she says she'd love for me to come and hang out, have fun and have lots of sex and try everything, except that in public there shouldn't be any pretense that we are more than friends so this guy won't get all heart broken and she could keep seeing him.

Now I want the sex and partying and all that, surely I need it, but I don't want to feel like a third wheel, be at the same club and watch them make out while I just pretend to be friends and feel like a hidden fucking mistress.

Now from my interactions with her she seems to be pretty turned on by dominance, likes to please guys/do stuff for guys, I think she has a submissive side that's more than she's willing to admit. So I thought the best idea was to send her a message - or better, tell her via skype - with what I want in a strong, non compromising way, yet not overly arrogant or insulting.

I shall compose my idea of that message in the comments since this is incredibly convoluted already, of course you guys tell me what the best game plan is and critique my message all you want. Thanks for reading!