4 months in and frustrated

TheDialecticParadox · 2015-08-03T10:07:23+00:00

To me, it seems like you don't know what monk mode is about.

Look at the content of your post. The whole thing is you moaning about how hard you have it. Not a good mentality to have after 4 months of monk mode. What are you doing? Smoking weed and fapping all day?

I'm 2 months in and personally, I have made some uncomfortable and hard decisions, but it was so fucking worth it.

I left my useless music degree to work in construction. My family and friends roasted me. Basically telling me to finish and play it safe. I have learned a lot of valuable skills that will help when I own my own home one day. Nothing manlier than building and maintaining shit. I thoroughly enjoy the work I do and the people I do it with, even if it is just being a slave monkey.

I also re-evaluated my budget and I am living on oats, eggs and sausages so I can afford a gym membership and futsal on top of my rent. The food is disgusting, but it meets my macros and keeps me full. I could be eating bacon and eggs but the social atmosphere of playing a sport and the self-improvement from gym is much more valuable.

I'm also applying for the navy to be an engineer, even though I barely scraped through year 10 maths and science. And I'm doing pretty well, just by showing confidence and willingness to learn. If you try and get into the military with the little confidence that comes across in your post, I wouldn't be surprised if they don't let you in. Also, you have to realize there's a lot of paperwork and it takes years sometimes for a letter of offer.

Your life should be so busy it doesn't bother you.

Also, going out and gaming woman isn't the point of monk mode. The point of monk mode is to improve yourself so once you are ready, you can go out and game with a newly improved SMV, if you decide it's even worth it.

And never, I repeat, NEVER lower your standards simply to get a root. Never go dumpster diving. You will hate yourself. You must not think too highly of yourself if that thought crossed your mind without being influenced by a cocktail of drugs and alcohol.

I didn't write all this to dissuade you, but to try and motivate you to get back on track.

mrmeyhemn · 2015-08-03T13:30:05+00:00

Should I drop my standards to break my dry spell because "I'm using ugly women as an excuse not to approach."?

do you believe that you deserve the best? or just "the best you can do"?

you don't have to date in the dating pool around you. stop listening to the hamster.

edit: continue monk mode until you learn to ignore the hamster. hes responsible for blue pill backslides. feed your hamster to a snake.

goose7167 · 2015-08-03T12:14:39+00:00

You and I can relate in a way. Hopefully by me telling you about my experience, you'll gain insight on what you should be doing to change your mindset for the better.

I've been on a dry spell for two years. My ex and I split about 3 years ago. We were together for 5 years and boy was I blue pill as ever. After finding TRP, I realized why she left. I finally understood what she meant by telling me she "did not have the same feelings for me as she did when we were first together." I realized how blue pill I was the moment I delved into TRP. Prior to my "coming to the light," I dumpster dove. It was easy, got me what I needed, but with it, a plethora of insecure, crazy girls. I decided after the third girl I was better than that and I did not deserve that type of quality. Everyone criticizes me because I'm "too picky." Frankly, I know what I deserve and I deserve quality women. I did not work as hard as I have to achieve my successes to settle for someone who doesn't understand the quality of man I have become. The most important thing to me is myself.

I decided, four months ago, to swallow the red pill. I decided to pull myself up by the bootstraps, quit wallowing, jacking off, quit worrying about women, and get myself into the gym. I decided at that moment to improve my quality of life, work harder, and lift harder. The biggest challenge I'm facing at this moment is the mindset I have on sex and being with a girl as part of my needs. I catch myself complaining to my best friend about how hard it is to get girls to notice me and get a lay in. I'm constantly battling myself over the fact that my life is not about that. I don't need girls or sex to act as a scale of status; meaning, those two things in themselves should not determine the kind of man you are.

Overcoming yourself and gaining control of your own thoughts and habits is the biggest challenge one can face. To garner control and even change your way of thinking is a feat in itself. With all this being said, you can read all the books in the world and all of TRP theory you want, the single most important aspect is applying yourself. I challenge anyone to challenge themselves daily no matter how small or big the challenge may be. Always be improving with one thing in mind, yourself. At the end of the day, we have ourselves to live with.

DTDtwopoint0 · 2015-08-03T12:17:01+00:00

You're doing monk mode all wrong my friend. Everybody's experience with it is different, but the general consensus is that you don't chase women. It's a tool used to boost your SMV .. http://illimitablemen.com/2014/04/13/monk-mode/ this should give you a better idea.

monsieurhire2 · 2015-08-03T14:16:39+00:00

No. Don't give up. Don't fuck the fat ugly sluts. Have standards.

Also, what's this about the military? Are you joining it or getting out of it?

MachiavellianRed · 2015-08-03T15:57:32+00:00

/r/asktrp

HelloJapan1 · 2015-08-03T15:00:59+00:00

monk = pretending to ignore girls so you actually get some work done....

yay redpill.... making people angry and frustrated

Title	4 months in and frustrated
Author	J_Dizzle1000
Upvotes	2
Comments	17
Date	August 3, 2015 9:02 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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