Is manipulation a red flag for LTR?

dzkkne · 2020-03-15T19:10:24+00:00

If she keeps manipulating with malicious intent that disturbs your peace too much - then leave. If it’s occasionally then you can shit it down if dealt correctly.

All depends on what you as a man want. You should have your own rules about it in line with what you want from life

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2020-03-15T19:10:34+00:00

> But isn’t the degree to which they’re manipulative vary from one woman to the other?

Yes. Some are manipulative to a nuclear degree. Some are more "normally" manipulative. Some are extremely subtle some are not.

> Do you consider the degree to which a woman is manipulative a red flag for LTR?

Yes. As with anything, there is a continuum. If she is aware she is being manipulative and is doing for something minor, it is a small red flag. If it happens a lot for larger things it would be a larger red flag(s). Is she hinting that if you help her move some furniture around her apartment, she will make you cookies? Cool, I would tell her I want her to start the cookies baking before I start moving furniture and if the cookies don't meet my expectations I am moving the furniture back to the way it was. ;) Or is she hinting that if you don't do something she wants you to do she won't have sex with you. Nope, not cool, huge red flag.

> How do you test or vet for manipulation?

They either do it or do not do it as much. It is your job to pay attention and be on the lookout for it.

> Or do you assume manipulation to be normal and just act accordingly?

I wouldn't say "normal" other than that almost all women do it and to expect it.

That being said, I have been in relationships back when I was BP where just about everything was manipulative and I didn't really understand or realize it until I had someone else point it out to me. And then once I had my eyes opened, I ended the relationship soon after. I've also been in other relationships where there was almost zero manipulation. And what was there was more on the level of just teasing.

BruhMoment45886 · 2020-03-15T19:18:49+00:00

All women are manipulative, if you let them be. If you dont have the power in any relationship, it's not worth it.

In general yes the highest value women is the one you find keeps her manipulative tendencies to a minimum. Meaning it is a common red flag

KirthWGersen · 2020-03-15T19:37:10+00:00

I like a woman with a bit of bite. You don't need to worry about the women whose manipulation is obvious; you can handle that. It is the subtle manipulation you have to watch out for.

Whitefarmer · 2020-03-15T20:12:45+00:00

I hope not I manipulate the fuck out off all prospect LTRs

Title	Is manipulation a red flag for LTR?
Author	mwcmu452
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Comments	5
Date	March 15, 2020 6:28 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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