I still need to internalize this message, but it's coming slowly. Self-respect, self-worth, and self-love starts with you

MariaDolorosa · 2021-01-08T06:34:26+00:00

I’ve found that the trick is to allow yourself to feel your anger. It’s best to take some time out when you’re alone and just be honest about the things that are really making you upset. How someone treated you at work, at the supermarket. What you see on TV. Just be honest. A lot of our second guessing and permitting our boundaries to be crossed comes from delegitimising what is objectively right and fair. Recognise your right to be pissed off about other’s poor behaviour. Recognise how hard you work and how many sacrifices you’ve made to be a responsible and respectful person when others gleefully choose to trample over others. Acknowledge that there are blatant injustices in your life and in the world.

That results in a certain fire in the belly and a strong distaste for that behaviour in your presence. If someone’s behaviour is clearly unacceptable, that anger in the belly won’t allow you to play nicely for their sake. Imagine that it was your daughter or loved one in your exact situation. Would you want them to be treated that way?

Of course, I’m not at all advocating for acting like a hothead. It’s not about flying into rages or transferring anger onto people who don’t deserve it. It’s about loving yourself and honouring your own emotional and moral compass. That allows you to trust the way you feel about a situation and trust that those feelings will serve you to make good choices.

Yeah_hey_kittycat · 2021-01-08T08:12:50+00:00

YES 🙌🏻 THIS 😭❤️

ParkingBookkeeper · 2021-01-08T08:39:20+00:00

Oh man thank you. I needed this.

Title	I still need to internalize this message, but it's coming slowly. Self-respect, self-worth, and self-love starts with you
Author	Myplummms
Upvotes	563
Comments	4
Date	January 8, 2021 3:32 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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