With the help of TRP I started a relationship with a wonderful girl. I’ve held a strong frame with her, she always has respected me and satisfied my needs.

She lives with her parents still. As the relationship has progressed I’ve noticed an increasing problem with her Mother. I’ve concluded that she is in control of their household, her father has given up trying. She is extremely manipulative to her daughter and they are in an abusive cycle.

I’ve always held frame and tried to stay out of it, holding expectations with her that she would always fulfill. Her mother has been trying to keep her at home, limiting communication with me, and going as far as tracking her daughter.

I think that they are both feeding into the abuse cycle. Her mom desperately trying and sometimes succeeding to get her daughter onto her side. After being with me she quickly comes back, but I know this can’t last.

I’m familiar with holding frame but I don’t know how to extend that to her mother. I’m not sure what to do in this situation. Do I drop her, or could I help her fix this? I’m looking for more enlightenment on this situation as well as steps I can take going forward.