How can I tell my mom I want to go my own way?

GrisBosque · 2020-01-21T13:31:43+00:00

Just tell her girls arent like her now, and its gonna take awhile to run into one worth being a daughter in law for her...

Phantom_Spark · 2020-01-21T13:35:49+00:00

If you have stomach for the uncomfortable conversation... I say do it’s explain to her why you really don’t want to be with women. Now you can stick to the legal reasons and not go too deep as that’s more than plenty. And if you do that... she will know where you stand and not want to honestly bring it up anymore.

On the other hand you can throw female nature back at her. Say you’re focusing on your career so that you’re in a better place financially to support a wife and child. Emphasize that you want to be the best father you can to your kids, so you’re building that life now.... Then later you will be able to confidently enter a relationship ready to commit and devote yourself to a woman. That should throw all their female logic right in her face. LOL

shagstotz · 2020-01-21T13:35:55+00:00

Tell her the truth:

Mom, I love you and appreciate what you do for me, but part of growing up involves me making my own decisions and having my own privacy. That process needs to be done by myself without your interference. Of course I’ll let you know once I’ve found a girl I can bring home to meet you.

DerdyG · 2020-01-21T13:39:11+00:00

Tell her "mom, have you ever wondered how awesome dad's life would have been if he hadn't met you and did not get married? Yeah I think so too and because of that I don't want to get married" ^/jk

DeeAxMan · 2020-01-21T13:50:06+00:00

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DangZagnut · 2020-01-21T15:03:21+00:00

Don’t tell her anything. She’s clearly desperate for grand children, so just run out the clock and start lying.

ImstarIordman · 2020-01-21T14:04:08+00:00

Your best bet is to lie. Outing your self is no different then comming out as gay 70 years ago. Women (your mom) cant keep there mouths shut and you dont want it getting out to family and friends. I would get a women "friend" snap some selfies keep her on the low and call her your girlfriend. I was reading something a wail back of a dude who kept getting hounded by his mother for the exact same thing. He quickly made friends with some LGBT people told one of the half way ok looking lesbians he was gay but not ready to come out and asked her to pose as his gf to buy him some time. It worked she had dinner at his house a few times and his mother left him alone after they broke up.

stoicmgtow · 2020-01-21T13:46:15+00:00

Everyone has expectations, it's up to you to decide if you want to accept them or not. If you want to GYOW just do it... Tell your mom the truth, her only options are to accept it or complain all day about it (women usually choose this option) and it won't change your decision (at least it shouldn't).

In my experiente, I don't think you should spend time talking about the trash women are these days, they always come up with the NAWALT "argument". And she is probably trying to find someone she considers decent for you. I actually had an argument a few months ago that made me look for another place to live.

Women don't have anything to offer to be considered as experience. The experience they mention is probably how domesticated you become to get ready for marriage.

CommanderOfTheDeath · 2020-01-21T14:07:21+00:00

Just say you don't want to. Do not discuss. Cut the conversation off instantly. I do the same. I don't sit there and discuss. I think my mother doesn't even really believe me. But as long as she stops asking I'm fine. Whenever she talked about this topic I just said I am not going to get married. End of the conversation.

mr_bigbeer · 2020-01-21T17:17:20+00:00

Relax and remember one of the rules of mgtow: you dont talk about mgtow.

Just ba your way out with: i didnt like her, not my type, havent found THE ONE yet and all that jazz

GoodMan_Gone · 2020-01-21T13:45:38+00:00

Just tell her. If she's a sane woman and you have a normal/ good relationship with her, she'll accept your choice. If she doesn't accept it's her choice but it's your life OP. Not hers.

NathanHollister · 2020-01-21T13:57:45+00:00

Dont tell her, just do what you need to do

secant128 · 2020-01-21T14:12:16+00:00

If you are an adult in the end you make decisions for yourself you don't need anyone's permission.

If she asks say you want to focus on work and doing a good job for now.

Haywood_Jablomie42 · 2020-01-21T14:15:54+00:00

How old are you? 🤔

IfonlyIwasgay · 2020-01-21T14:58:37+00:00

Stand your ground and just tell her like it is. It's your life.

Either that or lie about being gay so she'll leave you alone.

jamocadyn · 2020-01-21T15:20:48+00:00

It's really none of her business. Just tell her you're concentrating on work/school...whatever.

Batman_MGTOW · 2020-01-21T15:22:22+00:00

Whatever you say, dont ever mention mgtow directly otherwise she will never believe you.

ErikRudy · 2020-01-21T15:41:21+00:00

Dont tell. Just go.

WanderlustYouth · 2020-01-21T15:44:30+00:00

Lol, you fucking don't. You don't tell anyone IRL that you're a MGTOW and going you're own way, I once made the mistake of telling my mother that i never want to get married and she almost had a heart attack. Hell I even told some divorced guys (who are still paying child support and alimoney) that I would never get married and they fuckers were still encouraging me to to "try it once" wtf no. I learned that in this world you just tell people what they want to hear then do whatever the fuck you want once they are off your back, I respect guys who are proudly MGTOW IRL and love saying red pilled shit, but honestly I don't have the time nor care to amass the amount of problems that come with that...

wtfyoko · 2020-01-21T16:48:30+00:00

Say that you have this one special girl you want to get back together with but at the moment this girl is angry at you because of something that you did.

PsychoticChimichanga · 2020-01-21T17:32:12+00:00

If you ain't a minor, move the fuck out and ask her to fuck off.

the-lone-squid · 2020-01-21T17:54:06+00:00

Tell her you don't want to get married.

If she asks why, tell her to ask your dad

2020-01-21T18:00:22+00:00

"Still looking Nana. Haven't found a good one yet."

thelookoutbelow · 2020-01-21T20:33:07+00:00

All modern women are pageant moms. That's been the way since even before the Victorian Era

ilikerelish · 2020-01-21T20:42:18+00:00

If she won't flip out just tell her that you are gay, metrosexual, asexual, or any one of those that will suit your needs, problem solved.

Or, you could use the old standby. "I just haven't found the right one." "I am saving myself for the right one."

Or you could set up a hang out with friends, tell her that it is a date, then return with a story about how wonderful it was, and that you may see her again. That routine can last for weeks, until suddenly the fictional "she" breaks it off with you, which gives you weeks or months to "get over it" where good ol' mom won't be asking questions, or will be too afraid to for fear that she will dredge up hurtful feelings for her baby.

Title	How can I tell my mom I want to go my own way?
Author	DeeAxMan
Upvotes	10
Comments	36
Date	January 21, 2020 1:29 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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