Ok, so this is going to be tricky to articulate, because it’s hard to describe feelings and emotions, but I want to give this a real go, because I’m really curious about the submissive female experience during heated sex.

As a predominantly masculine male, when I’m in bed with a woman , I have this ever-increasing, overwhelming, urge to attack her.. a visceral or spiritual need to devour her.. to consume her in every way, on every level, body AND soul.. that is what nourishes me.. that is what satiates me.. so for example, as I get closer and closer to orgasm during intercourse, I feel like I want to own her completely.. I might grab her wrists or her arms and squeeze tighter and tighter.. or I might hold her against me very tightly.. this bit is the trickiest bit to describe, but when I do this, it feels as if I’m absorbing or ingesting her SOUL the harder I squeeze, and that is what satisfies me. I want her so bad, that I want her to be mine, or a part of me. So if you were to ask me what sex is about, for me, I’d tell you it’s about eating a woman’s soul, lol.. that’s what satisfies my sexual appetite.

Now, nicely enough, this seems to complement (generally) women’s desires to be taken.. they openly confess this and it’s evident in their reactions of pleasure and joy.. but I just can’t wrap my head around it.. I really wanna know what it feels like for a woman, I want to know why it makes them feel good and in what ways.

Often I’ve heard that every man has a feminine side, so I tried tapping into it and imagining a scenario where a woman was dominating me for a change to see what kind of feelings it aroused.. and right off the bat I could relate to a few reasons why girls enjoy being dominated.. there’s a feeling of acceptance, belonging and a sense of being cherished and desired.. it’s a huge ego boost and a huge turn on.. I get that, but here’s what I don’t get:

What BEING DOMINATED does to me is make me feel desired, which turns me on, which makes me want the girl more, which then makes me want to DOMINATE her. For example, if a girl was riding me, had her hand on my mouth, telling me to shut the hell up as she had her way with me, it would really turn me on, and what that would make me want to do, is flip her over and “devour her soul” as discussed above. This is NOT what happens with a predominantly sub girl being dominated. She wants nothing more than to be dominated to orgasm. The more she is dominated, the more it turns her on, and the harder she wants to be dominated, until she reaches the big O. For me, this does not fully compute.

So while I understand that women like to be dominated on a psychological or mental level, since it's a huge ego boost and makes them feel desirable, I don't understand how it fulfills them on a visceral or spiritual level. As I mentioned above, I believe sex is about fulfilling a deep, visceral, physiological, and spiritual HUNGER, via DEVOURING the opposite sex. I don’t see the equivalent of “devouring a soul” in being taken or dominated or owned. You are being eaten, you are not eating, so how does that satisfy your sexual appetite?