25M I want to improve myself and make use of my free time responsibly, what suggestions could you share with me that has helped you?

charliejon · 2019-11-02T18:04:36+00:00

Focus on one item, be it the gym, learning a language or whatever you want to do to improve yourself. Stick to the one thing for at least three months. If you love it you will just keep doing the thing. if you do not love it, you learned something about yourself and what you don't like.

ValhallaBoundBoy · 2019-11-02T18:12:20+00:00

They did a study that found that people we consider to be 'productive' don't actually have some secret, the thing you lack is an actual desire. People who study, go to the gym and make use of their time do so because it actually brings them joy. Those activities don't bring you joy, you just want the end result of that time.

That being said, there are ways to get yourself to do things. Having a scheduled 'to-do list' can help keep you in place. There are reward systems where you get something in return for doing what you are supposed to do, like a snack, but that requires you to have the discipline not to just give it to yourself. There's also the 'slave' system, where rewards/punishments are dealt out by someone else in your life, preferably in your home. A friend you live with or family members can do this, but this turns you into a child essentially. There is also the buddy system where you find someone who wants to do these things or wants to do things that can be done at the same time/place that you do these things. But a lot of people won't change their schedules to help line up with each other, and many will often just end up goofing off with a friend.

At the end of the day, it all comes down to whether or not you are going to have the willpower. No, there is not some multi-step process that will give you the willpower. Reading a book about how to fix your life often just results in giving other people advice you never use, because you wouldn't need the book if you could just make yourself do what you want.

So there you go. Your options are many, but they all boil down to whether or not you will actually go through with anything, as opposed to just make the process even more complicated by adding in extra steps that let you FEEL like your productive while delaying the inevitable. Like saying you will find a gym buddy, but doing the bare minimum to actually find one.

901735 · 2019-11-02T18:06:11+00:00

25M I want to improve myself and make use of my free time responsibly

Address your weaknesses proactively. Identify them and expose yourself to fears/shortcomings and find ways to overcome them at least every week step by step.

I do not have a 'just do it' mentality.

Start with this. Just do it.

strongandhappy · 2019-11-02T18:10:35+00:00

Too many goals for a packed schedule, you need to prioritize. Health, finance, relaxation, fulfillment. Pick one goal for each of those and get to it every week, ideally not skipping more than 2 days for any category. Balance, consistency, reward. You're gonna have difficulty building habits without all of those. If you're satisfied after working toward a goal, you don't need anyone cheering you on, you just enjoy it more than doing nothing.

HistoricalCoffee9 · 2019-11-02T18:26:40+00:00

Start with the gym. A few days a week of lifting, and a few days of running. That will give you a boost in energy and confidence

Gronfella · 2019-11-02T18:02:51+00:00

Just do it.

LiveTheTruth321 · 2019-11-02T18:49:58+00:00

Learn skills. Learn a language. Cooking skills. Self-defense. Body building

Mgtaoteching · 2019-11-02T19:18:14+00:00

Meditation

Title	25M I want to improve myself and make use of my free time responsibly, what suggestions could you share with me that has helped you?
Author	Wakka_Grand_Wizard
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	November 2, 2019 6:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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