Obligatory "this happened two days ago."
I had been together with my girlfriend for almost 4 years. I proposed to her about a month ago, she said yes, and we were incredibly happy! Or so I thought.
About 3 weeks after our proposal, I notice she starts acting different. Not having sex with me, looking away/down when we kiss. She had also been spending way too much time (at least 4 days of M-F each week) with her coworkers drinking beer after work, driving home drunk, and often pretty late. I went to a few of these gatherings but didn't really enjoy getting slammed on a monday night when I have work the next day, so I often opted out.
We would also share our google location with each other at all times. Mostly because she traveled to sketchy places for work, and I would regularly go on trails, so it helped each of us know the other was safe. I looked at her location one day and it was turned off. I texted her about it and she said that she kept receiving notifications about it so she had turned it off. Hadn't been a problem for the past year. She turned it back on, and it was off again the next day. She also had two phones, a personal and a work phone, which she would keep both with her at all times. I only had the location for the personal phone. Eventually she stopped using her personal phone and only used the work phone.
Two days ago, about a month after the proposal, I decided to snoop because my suspicion was at it's highest, and I just wanted to put it to rest. I used her computer to log into her gmail account and looked at her timeline. She had been going to an address across town about 10 times in the past two weeks. I called her immediately because she said she was at the office finishing up some work that was due the next day. She said she was at work, but leaving to go to the grocery store, which she then did.
I waited until she got home and confronted her about it. She said she had been meeting a guy from work just to talk and hang out, but she didn't want to tell me because she thought I would get mad. Turns out, she met him for the first time about 2 days after the proposal, and started seeing him at his house within that week. I kept prying, asking her more questions, she told me they had only kissed twice, then it turned into they had made out, and she denied every accusation of sleeping with him every time I asked.
The next day when I got home from work, I asked to see her phone to read the messages between the two of them. She said she deleted them. So I said I wanted to look at it anyways, just to be sure. I started recovering the data from the last backup. She sat down beside me while I was doing it, and asked what I was doing. I told her, and the look of panic in her face was real! So she starts talking about feelings and all this other crap while the phone is recovering. I asked her one last time, "before I look at this, is there anything you want to tell me?" She was silent. I asked flat out "did you sleep with him?" and she said yes. Turns out that she met with him almost every day, starting about 8 days after the proposal and had sex with him most of those. Funny enough, the data recovery didn't even work. So that's a win I guess.
Planning on moving my stuff out later this week to a new place. Havn't told her yet. Still can't believe she started cheating on me less than two weeks after she said yes to my proposal, and even more so with someone she met a few days after the proposal. Feels shitty but I'm keeping my head up.
TLDR; TIFU by looking at my fiances location history and found out she started sleeping with another guy less than two weeks after she said yes to my proposal. It has been one month since the proposal now.
Edit: Wow! Thank you all for the encouraging comments! They help so much more than I would've thought. Some of these really got to me, and reading that I should've posted this as a lifeprotip made me laugh. Most if all, it helped me confirm that it was not a FU on my part, but actually a gift that it happened so early. Thank you all, so much! Going to read through and respond to as many as I can.
Edit 2: I know that this post was meant to be posted in another sub, but thank you for being kind, and not focusing in on that aspect haha
[–]goingmyownway_ghost34 points35 points36 points (0 children) | Copy Link
ALL women at some point will monkey double back flip from you on too another dude it's not a question of if but when....it's literally in their dna F
[–]realChebz23 points24 points25 points (3 children) | Copy Link
If you suspect she's cheating on you - she is. I've yet to see this statement proven wrong.
[–]AlphaCentauri2218 points9 points10 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Nice one.
[–]abir0692 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
It's amazing how true it is.
[–]deadBeefCafe20140 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
That has been my experience as well.
Once you get that level of suspicion, the relationship is pretty much doomed to fail.
[–]NeverTrustAVaJayJay16 points17 points18 points (0 children) | Copy Link
At least he’s just moving the fuck out. What a disgusting ho. Awalt
[–]Chakra_Devourer13 points14 points15 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Good! Congratulations for finding this out early on. She's just another slut. You were about to wife up a slut.
[–]quickGunShoot11 points12 points13 points (0 children) | Copy Link
All men in need are welcomed here.
[–]NeverNeverLandIsNow8 points9 points10 points (0 children) | Copy Link
You did not fuck up you lucked out and found out what a whore she was before you got married. Should be thankful this happened when it did.
[–]smokeythecat4208 points9 points10 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Only two days after he proposed too... Gotta get those last alphafux in before swimming in the betabux...
[–]mgtowguy31 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
They genuinely can't/won't help themselves.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Is it not ironical that most of the "AITA/TIFU" topics are hilariously what should make the other party involved the real assholes?
1984.
[–]alphaunit015 points6 points7 points (1 child) | Copy Link
F
[–]Ansodyte0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
F
[–]topgearfan193 points4 points5 points (2 children) | Copy Link
Bruh, was just removed as I clicked on the post.
[–]LiveTheTruth3212 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Try again. It working for me.
[–]mas5acre3 points4 points5 points (1 child) | Copy Link
AWLAT. Funny coincidence, wanted to cross post this here and before i even read your post title, "another one bites the dust" by queen was playing in my head. What are the odds!! haha
[–]novhaku0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
All women lie all the time?
[–]peguy20001 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
Deleted, anyone saved the text?
[–]LiveTheTruth3212 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Its working for me. Try now.
[–]peguy20002 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
What a whore. Good riddance. Im happy this guy acted on his suspicions
[–]linleyandbebe0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Bites the dust? Bruh he just sidestepped child support, alimony and divorce rape! I think this is a win
[–]Awokeeleven0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Classic AWALT
[–]Grant14120 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
The truth about the nature of women is yet again revealed.
[–]roflcopt0rz_returns0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Just skimmed briefly, but... this is our current society
The guy is so blue pilled, he found out his girlfriend was cheating and he places the blame on himself for taking the actions needed to confirm it.
At least many of the top comments in that thread are telling him he did the right thing.
[–]AeternusDoleo0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Doesn't look like he bit the dust... he'll get away a lot wiser but not financially devastated like a lot of guys who find out too late. The first red pill is a bitter one... But he seems to be taking it rather well.
Think we should tell him that the one he found out about likely wasn't the first?