My boyfriend had sex with me in my sleep and now that I’m awake i feel very sick to my stomach. Advice?

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Hi this is probably going to be my first and only post on this app. But yeah basically what my title says. Last night i went to sleep after smoking a joint (i smoke marijuana daily so it wasn’t me “tripping out”) while my boyfriend stayed up playing 2K. Next thing i know, i wake up a little to my shorts off and my boyfriend sticking his penis in me. I don’t know why i didn’t fully wake up, i was too sleepy that i just let my body lay there. i don’t even know what time it was. I don’t even remember the whole thing. After waking up to him on top of me, the next thing i remember is not even moaning and feeling him struggle to put it back in me due to my vagina muscles being too tight and i finally was able to get myself to close my legs and make him off.

Fast forward to hours later. It’s currently 5:35 a.m. and I’m fully awake. I woke up feeling so gross and dirty to where i felt nauseous and then i quickly remember what i had just explained to y’all and i instantly felt like i wanted to cry. I felt like I’ve gotten taken advantage of but Is that even possible? He’s my boyfriend...am i just being dramatic? I’m currently sitting in the tub. I wanted to wash myself but like (TMI) i don’t even wanna touch myself down there to wash. I just feel dirty, ashamed, nauseous, and overall confused.

Update: i had failed to mention that he had gotten high with me too before i went to bed. Its possible he was still high when he was having sex with me...maybe he wasn’t in his right mind? Or is this me trying to make up an excuse for him?