Basically the title.
Usually on dates, we split the bill. I don’t really care like in the past, I’ve paid for the full bill and my ex would pay for the bill other times. Like we’d go back and forth.
My current boyfriend wants us to each pay for what we ordered. From the first date, he said that’s how he likes to do things. I was fine with it, I didn’t really care if he wouldn’t pay for me. Paying on a date is sweet to me and I like it but I have my own job so it’s whatever. I figured maybe he doesn’t have a ton of money and he can only cover his own bill.
Anyway I didn’t really have any problem with it. But we went out to some random spot. Like a local chipotle, it tastes way better though. So he went down the line and he got his own meal. I ordered mine and then when I went into my bag, I realized I forgot my wallet at my house. I told him that I forgot it by accident and I thought he’d offer to pay and id pay him back but he was like “oh that sucks...” and sat down to eat.
I was just like what the fuck..? This guy standing behind me in the line paid for my food and I paid him back through cashapp. After we ate, I lied and said my mom needed me to come home for something and our date was cut short since we were supposed to go shopping in the city.
How messed up is that? Like why is he so cheap. A random stranger paid for me and he wouldn’t
[–]OatsGYOW21 points22 points23 points (6 children) | Copy Link
Lol, "I forgot my wallet."
Bullshit. She took him for a chump, and was completely wrong.
[–]iwilzkilz58511 points12 points13 points (5 children) | Copy Link
I mean she probably did forget.. she even offered to pay him back right then, she had the money. I've had the same thing happen to me. The women spotted me and I Venmo her money. It's just a kind thing to do. We both always split out bills too she pays her portion I pay mine.
[–]OatsGYOW8 points9 points10 points (4 children) | Copy Link
It was a shit test. She would pay him back if he asked, or enjoyed his money if he didn't ask.
She just didn't expect him to completely avoid the shit test, leaving her embarrassed in front of everyone.
[–]iwilzkilz5855 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I would have also offered to go back and get the wallet as another ultimatum
[–]iwilzkilz5853 points4 points5 points (2 children) | Copy Link
Idk I've had that happen and the women immediately is all flustered, and offers payment from phone right away.
[–]OatsGYOW2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm obviously not saying it is impossible to forget your wallet.
Women reference themselves often in writing, and have an unconscious aversion to negative impacts on their status and image - it is just something they do.
Pay attention to that, and you will get a better understanding of their thought processes. She talks about the way she did things with her ex. She talks about the way she feels about a man who is willing to pay. She talks about how she expected him to act.
And yes, many women do shit tests like this. There is no problem with jumping to the conclusion that it was a shit test, especially considering the dude in the situation chose not to participate.
[–]RationalRaspberry1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
It's probably happened before, his reaction seems to be more rooted in being sick of her shit.
[–]teelolws15 points16 points17 points (0 children) | Copy Link
My ex regularly forgot her keys when she went to work or shopping or whatever. After a while I stopped tolerating this and just started ignoring the doorbell for a while, leaving her to wait in the cold until I was ready to drop everything to solve her mistakes. You'd think she'd learn after the first couple times...
... I wonder why we didn't work out.
[–]atdForge13 points14 points15 points (4 children) | Copy Link
Maybe she did in fact forgot her wallet. She's the girlfriend. Theres a personal relationship between them. She just needed a help. There was no mention of repeated forgetfulness or abuse of her gender entitlements. If I'm in his shoes, I would pay for her meal and expect the owed money. If she fails to pay back in a week then forget that she exist. Basically, I don't want my colleagues, friends, family or any male or female company of mine to be on the spot of embarrassement especially in public. Those "simps" that was mentioned paid the bill (paid back) maybe because they need to mitigate that awkward situation by solving the problem. Maybe they would do the same for men too. I live in a dog-eat-dog country, but still I find some very few strangers willing to help.
[–]RationalRaspberry3 points4 points5 points (1 child) | Copy Link
We just don't have all the details. He could be an asshole, or he could just be sick of her shit. OF COURSE in her side of the story she's an innocent damsel in distress.
I'm sure the guy has his side of the story with plenty being left out
[–]atdForge0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I just hope that situation where we forgot our wallet when it's time to pay won't happen to us. Its awkward, scary, a nightmare. Even a billionaire could forget his/her wallet. it might happen to all of us since we are not perfect. It would be great if not miraculous if someone offer to lend us the money. We are mgtow, we share our stories , happy ,tragdic, inspiring.we don't go to other subs, pick some post and bash the characters to gain sympathy to this sub since "we hate women and all she does".
[–]Bonesteel502 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah i'm kinda here on this issue. I probably woulda paid, but I would have done that for anybody I considered a friend. Sometimes shit happens. Abuse of this is where you need to reevaluate your relationship.
[–]ConstantChinner7 points8 points9 points (0 children) | Copy Link
LOL. That is funny as shit!
[–]gtowerthrowaway7 points8 points9 points (1 child) | Copy Link
He seems like an asshole to me. If they've really been paying for meals separately, and it's not an expensive restaurant, "that sucks" is a total dick move.
He's gonna get some hot sex tonight. Why treat a woman well when that clearly leads to poor outcomes?
[–]Red_Liner7401 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
You’re getting her side of story. I’m sure the guy didn’t put of the blue just decide that’s the hill he’s going to die on. Guys are pragmatic and logical. Wanna bet she’s “forgotten “ her wallet plenty of times before.
How is it that she can send money to that other guy but that wasn’t an option with him?
[–]onlyhere4tehsubs6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
There's a guy who's been shit-tested too many times.
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Idk if you guys saw but like every other sentence she is sizing buddy up with hypergamy and shit test.
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[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
He seems like a dick, but that's how women want to be treated. Bet she won't think he's underneath her for that one.
[–]Miggymoggy3 points4 points5 points (1 child) | Copy Link
She wanted a free meal and a real man didn't give in to her manipulative "I've forgot my wallet" line.....There is nothing else to say.
[–]roof_man3 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I mean, she usually splits the bill and paid with cash app so it’s pretty believable she did just legit forget her wallet
[–]Crome_D4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Where is this fact that she wouldve been able to pay him back right away? Also this current boyfriend, is it maybe the first date? Seems a little too perfect
[–]roof_man1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
I mean she offered to pay him back, and even if they weren’t dating and just friends, why wouldn’t you help them out?
[–]Harrystroe1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
After hundreds of messages read, it is incredible how fucked up society these days is. All of them crucifying the lad, no one read between lines, not saying he did the best move but still the rage that come from those messages and assuming are all whamen, guys..we live in prety fucked up times. And in all the honesty, whamen these days are more dangerous for the society than all the atomic bombs in the world. Fuck me..you can t think it until you see it.
[–]boubou6660 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I was about to cross that one with MGTOW. EVEN A RANDOM STRANGER WOULD PAY ME A MEAL. WTF hahaha
[–]x6x6x619820 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
This is a bit of a grey area I would say. I would of have had no issue paying for her, since she promised to pay back. It's a one time thing, no biggy.
Her calling him cheap tho is not a good sign and defo a red flag.