This should be common sense, but it's a lesson worth repeating. It's something you may be subconsciously doing or it might be part of your approach.

Once you've established some very basic connection with a girl - Maybe you've seen her around a few times, spoken to her on a few occasions and now you want to escalate things, you're looking for a way in. It's easy now for a guy to make a big mistake - Trying to offer value - Don't do this! This is a form of rescuing and will not get you laid, how it ends is you getting friendzoned and stringing you along until she's used you as much as possible - congratulations you've just been played!

Let me give you some examples

Wrong 1. : Jack meets Jill, Jill works at a coffee shop around the corner from where Jack works. After 3-4 visits to this shop, Jack is confident he can escalate the daily chit chat. Jill mentions she hates working there, and wants to get into IT. Jack jumps on this and offers to give her some advice, possibly even show her around where he works.

Right: After Jill mentions this, Jack says "What time do you knock off?" Directly asks her out, if she agrees - and while on this date, Keeps frame, and focuses on his game, and redirects her agenda.

Wrong 2. Jack meets a sexy bitch who appears down on her luck. She's also an alpha widow. Jack knows she's at best a pump and dump - But he keeps doing favors for her, and she holds out. He keeps thinking - maybe after the next favor, or the next. Or maybe if the favor is big enough. Soon he's driving her around, paying for everything, helping her with unrelated bullshit, even helping her find work. All this time - "She's not ready for a relationship" or other bullshit excuses.

Right: Her problems aren't yours. You know why? You were the one working your ass off to get to where you are. You aren't the lazy or weak cunt who got yourself stuck in some shitty situation you couldn't get out of. She's not interested in YOU - because the YOU you presented was only about what favors you can offer her. Don't present this side - You're not a really special nice guy - this will get you nowhere.

If you're already compromised in your current approach, then walk the fuck away right now, learn from it and move on. Don't spend another minute on this girl because you're wasting your time.

Your task is simple - build a sexual relationship from the start. If you're a favor giver she has another reason to be around you, other than sex / LTR. Don't give her the opportunity. Don't offer up assistance.

This advice is prior to achieving a sexual bond. After you're in a relationship things change. Relationships are complex, so this advice while has some application isn't designed to make your LTR's better.

It's just about getting started, and will help you not to get friendzoned, or favor zoned and left blue balled.