This was a good three-day holiday weekend, time to get together with family and friends. Some All-American shit, and the scene was truly 21st Century All American: to wit, most American men today truly are shit when it comes to interacting with women; you have an enormous advantage just by being aware of TRP.

On to the story:

My wife and I went to one of those cookouts at the lake; we separate and circulate through the crowd. After she makes the circuit of all these people we have known for years, we come back together. And she looks at me and says:

 

Finally, somebody who is NOT pussy-whipped.

 

This would be a pointless brag story if that was all she had said. But that was not all that she had said. Her full statement was:

 

Finally, somebody who is NOT pussy-whipped. Well, I wish I could get you to do things. But …

 

Does she wish that? Yes, and no, and mostly NO, she does not wish that she could get me to do things. Women do not want a man that they can order around. Even milder, women do not want a man that will do the idiotic shit that occurs to a woman, who we know is emotionally a child, to THINK that is what she wants.

I did not say be a dick and NEVER do what she wants; there will be times when what she wants coincides with what you want to do. Sometimes what you want to do should be taking care of her. But I think the need for comfort in a LTR is overstated; maybe at the six-month point, or the year point, after that it should taper off considerably.

I have always done just what I want to do, and it has paid off in terms of enormous respect from, not only her, but most people I have come in contact with. It came naturally to me because I have anti-authority issues, thank god, and when I started to see the favorable results, it gave me the courage of my convictions.

 

The takeaway:

First, the obvious: at all times, do what YOU want, not what she SAYS she wants. Three reasons for this:

  1. you know the better thing to be doing with your time and energy than she does (or you should; if you don't, you need to work on that).

  2. doing what YOU want is the way to live, as a man, no matter your relationship status. (Cue up Frank Sinatra: My Way. My theme song.)

  3. believe it or not, a woman will respect the hell out of you, just for the simple fact that you are a man who does what he wants.

Usually, she will appreciate the fact that you are doing the most productive or fun thing, with or without her. There will be times when she might get mad about it on occasion, because she had some other idea; power through that, don't give in.

 

But a woman's scorn, and all that?

Who cares?

 

How do you get to that point, if it's not natural to you? The most direct way.

My best advice to younger men: don't be afraid to have a woman be mad at you.

I'll give you two reasons for this:

  1. Women love drama. Let this be her drama. Also, while she's mad at you, she's agitated, and she's thinking about you. It doesn't matter that the thoughts are negative. This will have a very negligible negative impact on your interactions. Mostly, it will have positive effects. I know, I've lived this for years.

A graphic example: I have actually said the words Fuck off to this woman; I was serious, and it was warranted. Doghouse, right? Wrong. She left me alone for a while (wonderful silence). Then not 8 hours later, without a word, she initiates, we fuck; all positions, including ones she has claimed were uncomfortable or too strenuous for her. After it's over, she says, in a very sweet voice, You shouldn't say "Fuck off" to me. Similar things have happened, many times.

  1. (This actually says 2 in my edit; weird) The other reason not to be afraid to have a woman be mad at you: not only are there no consequences, it's a great way to avoid the BIG FIGHT. When I was a lad, I wasted many hours fighting with women. So stupid.

To tie this in to my original point: Do you WANT to have a big fight with a woman? No? Don't do it. Let her be mad; just say I'm not having this conversation with you now or ever. It can really be that simple.

She can live with it or leave.

 

tldr: Don't be pussy-whipped, it's not sexy; do what you want at all times, and don't be afraid to have a woman be mad at you.