The myth of beautiful women being approached and complimented all the time - What's the real truth?

Metalageddon · 2017-06-17T18:41:13+00:00

It's not a myth. They're approached all the time.

Like any woman, like most people actually, the ones that count are the ones you're attracted to.

See "where have all the good men gone?"

They're everywhere. Women just don't count those that they don't want. Even more important is that women are attracted to what they perceive as superior, not equal. A lot of guys of the same objective value don't even register to them.

askmrcia · 2017-06-18T00:44:22+00:00

They get approached all the time. Did you come to this conclusion because that clerk TOLD YOU SO?

Women say anything. I thought that was redpill 101.

I worked in retail with both average looking and good looking women. Both types of women get hit on a lot and I mean a lot.

kranos33 · 2017-06-17T18:09:03+00:00

I disagree. When beautiful women say "I don't get hit on a lot", it really means "I don't get approached by high SMV guys" a lot. This is the same myth as "rich guys have trouble finding good mates" one. No they don't, especially if they are both rich and good looking and decently smart.

I live in NYC and have seen that good looking girls have a lot, I mean a lot of options.

Two things happen:

She is good looking and knows it, and therefore demands a high SMV (both good looking and high status guy). Anybody that is not like that, is just another dude that talks, or being annoying to her. (bitch shields goes up). She gets approached a lot, but she doesn't realize it. (she just assumes guys are overly friendly like that).
She has always a dick in line, (people that she knows day to day, and develop crushes on her), and when she is available she doesn't have trouble to find one. Women like that never develop the skills to be able to get good looking guys to approach her. Eye contact, flirting, etc.... basic girl game. Hence they drive away good prospects by having a permanent bitch shield.

I think girls that are 8 and below have been rejected at some point, and hence they need to develop/learn the basic skills to attract good prospects. 8.5 and higher girls, don't.

I have real experience with this as I dated both a 9+ girl, and have been the "guy that approaches" good looking women, but my SMV was not high enough.

When a good looking girl tells you: "I don't get enough guys hitting on me", you should translate it as "wooo, me, I need some attention..." If being beautiful had too many disadvantages there would be "uglifying" products out there for sale.

MattyAnon · 2017-06-17T23:58:10+00:00

Beautiful women gets huge amounts of indirect attention

Without doubt this is true. Preferential treatment and supplication EVERYWHERE at all times. Except perhaps some women hating her. Obviously she'll whine about the latter and show no recognition of the former.

I've done some day gaming and day time closes and I can tell you that in almost all cases the women are super flattered AND they tell me it's the first time it ever happened to them.

And it's true because she said so?

Chances are there were a fuck load of other approaches "but they don't count". This is very flattering... but it's rare women say anything that is literally truth.

"Thank you! Thank you. I should get to hear that every day."

She's taken herself, but told me that her girl friends are all really beautiful (I've seen pictures and it's true), but that they never really meet anyone

Never "REALLY" meet anyone .... means "never get treated like the super special snowflakes they really are, and the only guys that approach are bottom 99% losers or guys making only 6 figures".

Perhaps I exaggerate..... but these women KNOW they have ridiculous options. They know the second they flirt back men will jump at it. They get offers left and right - not least on social media. They know the score.

They might not get overt flattery much (and why should any man GIVE this to her in exchange for nothing?) and they might not get classy daytime advances.... but they do get plenty of attention and know they can get laid in the blink of an eye if they go into a bar and sit there for half an hour. They might not want to do it.... they might feel funny about it.... but they know they CAN do it. They all do it at least once.

what women themselves tell me

Please don't assume women tell the literal truth. This is a weakness in your view of the world that you need to update.

Obviously, this is sad for these women,

It can't be that bad, or they'd do something about it.

Denver_Luv3 · 2017-06-17T17:29:53+00:00

Varies by woman.

Most women also get a large amount of low-quality attention and not much high-quality attention. Be high quality.

Also, your game shouldn't vary much by attractiveness. So the real answer is, "who gives a shit?"

faplordxd · 2017-06-17T21:33:17+00:00

You are leaving out the insane amount of flattery coming from social media

2017-06-17T18:08:07+00:00

Yeah, when reading that attractive women are consistently bombarded with attention it creates a subconscious "Why Bother" mentality in our heads. Just try not to think about how many dudes takes up this women's sphere and acknowledge you're doing her a favor by approaching her as high value.

2017-06-17T20:42:47+00:00

Eh, beautiful women get hit on a lot. Especially in, uh, "urban" environs.

Ibanezguitarrocks · 2017-06-17T20:02:55+00:00

Beautiful women purposely "insulate" themselves from the average man. Even if you wanted to approach, you'd rarely be in a position to do it anyway. If she's within your vicinity she'll probably have either a canned response at the ready, a man with her or she'll have a huge bitch-shield up (previously mentioned).

Most men don't approach because they know instinctively there's no chance and most of the time it's an accurate assessment.

e-mess · 2017-06-17T17:50:22+00:00

Stupid joke while drunk is the typical approach of men who are brave enough to approach at all. Everything above that is unusual.

2017-06-18T05:17:10+00:00

Divide the upper echelon of women into three different tiers.

The first group is conventionally attractive. Yes, they do get a lot of guys hitting on them. While they generally do have their pick of guys, they know a lot of guys want one thing and they actually do get tired of it.

The second group is a little more than just conventionally attractive and can include quiet a variety of women. They may be a bit more than conventionally attractive and they may even have fame of some sort or be protected from most interactions. These women honestly don't meet a lot of guys they would be interested in dating. They honestly don't get hit on very often. There is something about them that intimidates most men or reaching them is difficult to begin with.

The third group is the truly astounding beautiful women. They either tend to hook up with one guy, and possibly not what would be considered an alpha, early on, or they tend to get really jaded in my experience. Yeah, they tend to attract "high SMV" guys, but most of these guys are the ones bragging on Facebook or Instagram after they "bag" her. They tend to stop going out very much and become very particular about who they allow around and men are almost always screened through friends. I'll tell you right now, these women aren't interested in an "alpha", at all. They aren't "alpha widows", either.

Interestingly, there is something similar on the other end of the spectrum. Fat girls go wanting for attention from all sorts of guys. Sort of an direct analog to the guys that are invisible to the more attractive women.

TermsOfColors · 2017-06-17T23:14:24+00:00

I don't see the point in this. With very few exceptions beautiful women have been treated very, very, well their entire lives and you just have to learn to deal with that. Maybe they get approached all the time, maybe they don't. It doesn't matter because that doesn't mean the first loser that comes along is going to knock her socks off.

The_M0rning_Star · 2017-06-18T05:15:01+00:00

Being beautiful will work to your advantage in short, one-sided interactions. Getting out of a ticket, getting your seat bumped to first class, shit like that. As soon as you get to know a man, being a beautiful woman only really gets you shit if the men around you think they can fuck you. If they think there is no chance with you, you don't get anything. As a matter if fact, you often get less because you're beautiful and won't fuck them. Now, if they think they can fuck you, oh yea, red carpets are laid down for you.

Why chicks play guys, and "keep their options open". It's real easy to fall in love with red carpets and preferential treatment. It's less enchanting to be treated as "one of the guys". It's also why guys will trip over themselves ogling models and celebrities...the fantasy is real...somewhere in the back their mind they have a "chance" to fuck her because they've never met her and she hasn't actually said no.

In a city that isn't giant like new York, it is very, very rare for a man to approach a woman outside of a setting normal for dating. You've pretty much got clubs/venues and work. For example I've witnessed a man approach a hot chick while shopping for groceries maybe two or three times my whole life. I've seen them ogle the shit outta of them, sure. But approach and ask for number? Hardly ever. Absolutely stunning women, limping by like a wounded gazelle. Begging to be taken down. All they do is stare. And then they go post on "missed connections". In a big city it's probably different. In a smaller city, it's quite rare.

2017-06-18T05:51:51+00:00

Nope, you do not get approached all the time. Beautiful women are often thought to be intimidating to a lot of men. It's a different story on social media.

Shatlord1984 · 2017-06-17T18:41:49+00:00

Beta as fuck. What did you actually achieved by that ? You achieved nothing. You just stroked their ego. Now, you waste your and our time with this uhm 'report' while she is sucking some dick now.

suxxos · 2017-06-18T20:40:29+00:00

Actually, you are right, OP. This is a myth. Love how all the guys here know better than women, even though they have a zero experience being a woman (or talking to a woman, it seems).

I mean, look at it logically. First of all, most girls don't spend hours every day walking down the streets. They commute to wherever they work or study, then go home, maybe have a lunch out, probably with a friend, so it's awkward to approach them. That's it. When do you think guys even have time to pick them up?

Second of all, 95% of guys are either too intimidated to talk to unknown beautiful females, OR they assume they must be in a relationship already (true in many cases). Watch any PUA video on a day game, most girls seem to be really surprised a stranger approaches them. And they don't reject them immediately - make no mistake, it's not PUA's personal charm or anything of the sort. Females just don't have experience dealing with a direct approach, they are really flattered, so they want to be polite, but at the same time they don't know how to reject guys in a repectful way (again, lack of practice on females part). If a guy is persistent, they literally have no defences. You can totally feel them being impatient, but they still answer questions and stuff. You'd think if they were approached all the time, they would just reject a boring guy immediately, like it's an every day thing, but they don't.

2017-06-19T01:57:27+00:00

For one betas will have a hard time approaching said attractive women, of that I have no doubt.

Then again, there are the sort of "betas" with incredibly inflated egos or just huge amounts of stupidity paired with a disconnection from reality, who will approach and "waste her time".

Add to this some sort of alphas here and there and voila, you will have a lot of attention towards these women.

You do have a point though. The amount of "quality men" approaching her is actually quite slim. This can be used in ones favor. She will surely be happy to meet a real man among those wannabees. Needless to say, one should be a real man and not one of the wannabees to make this work.

Bottom line, she does get fair amounts of attention but its not said that it is actually the kind of attention that she wants.

P.S. I would not really give much for what she says. Women are known to tell men that its "their first time", especially when it isnt.

2017-06-17T21:44:09+00:00

I think it depends on the area. I can't count how many times there have been hot girls in the bar while the group of guys I was with would be afraid to go talk to them

markosu · 2017-06-18T06:41:20+00:00

This heavily depends on the culture you are in. For example, here in Germany women only get approached by drunks at the club or by friends and coworkers. Meeting new people in general is not that easy. If you just ask her out, you are already in the 1%.

Sumsar01 · 2017-06-18T15:20:36+00:00

Either you are the shit or you dont exist. There is no middle ground.

theamazingswayze · 2017-06-17T19:02:30+00:00

More frequently than average girls

IkWhatUDidLastSummer · 2017-06-17T23:01:40+00:00

But being approached directly and confidently by a man that's her equal?

Gonna keep reading, but I dislike where this is heading.

When folks talk about hot women getting approached, it's always in the context of an average dude talking about a 9. The idea is that she actually doesn't get much play so you have a better shot than you think.

Now, you're right.... In a way. But I may be nitpicking when I say that it doesn't matter. If she is approached by many dudes but not many that is her equal, so what? She's just like any other woman. Women date up, so a 10 will be looking for Floyd Mayweather while ignoring all lesser dudes.

Doesn't mean they don't approach, just means she doesn't see them. So this entire point is moot in the context of the conversation.

Just finished and my assumption was true

It's the same idea how a girl who fucked 20 guys says her number is 3. The others don't count cause she's not proud of them.

Women get hit on a lot. Especially the hot women. They just ignore the guys who are beneath them.

Good effort, but why the hell are you taking women at their word?

dizzyoak1 · 2017-06-18T02:27:54+00:00

It may be just where you live because I know the most attractive girls usually have one or two orbiters around them and then have many other guys who still try to pursue them. Usually they turn the offers down and keep the orbiter around to exploit for whatever reason. Whatever place you live in I think it must be a rare place.

bingobongo7000 · 2017-06-18T02:53:26+00:00

@OP

You sure have not yet understood any of the red pill ideas.

Will you ever?

Expectations1 · 2017-06-18T21:17:34+00:00

They might not get approached all the time directly but they will have any number of orbiters and alphas ready to go on the carousel.

Title	The myth of beautiful women being approached and complimented all the time - What's the real truth?
Author	faplordxd
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Date	June 17, 2017 5:25 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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