AITA for telling my girlfriend she's not as attractive to me after shed8been telling me the same thing for days?

3,818 points•624 comments•submitted by Rizekken to r/AmItheAsshole

Okay so I'll keep it as brief as possible...

Around a week ago I(24m) made the decision to shave off my beard. Not all of it though. I went from full beard to light stubble, haven't been clean shaven in years. My girlfriend(23f) has done NOTHING but complain since I did this, telling me how much it bothers her and how she's not nearly as attracted to me. I'm the first to admit I suffer from a bad case of baby face without it, which Is why I dont go fully clean. She tells me my face looks awkward without it and how I shouldn't do it again, she even commented how she's glad she's leaving the country for a few weeks and how that will give me time to grow it back for her coming home.

Anyway, yesterday I snapped when she brought it up for the 3rd time that day. I asked if she wanted to see a movie, she said 'great, I wont need to see your baby face that way!'. I snapped and told her that she'd been slowly putting on weight lately and I wasnt as attracted to her either, but I love her so I dont go on and on about it constantly. Naturally she started crying, stormed out of my house and hasn't spoken to me since.

Now while I do think I was an asshole for losing my temper, what I'm asking is was I the asshole for going after her insecurity and essentially calling her fat after she was complaining to me for days?

Sidenote: I had talked to her about this first. I told her that it sucked listening to her talk about how she wasnt as attracted to me, and she simply told me she was just being honest and I cant tell her not to express her opinions.

EDIT: spelling

EDIT 2: Took me 2 hours to notice I'd totally messed up the title, sorry for that and thanks for all the input so far guys!

Last Edit: Just wanted to say thanks for the input guys. Reading the conversations has given me some great insight into different perspectives and I really appreciate that! I might be wrong but based on what I've read seems like NTA is the vote, but I think I'll accept ESH. She sucked for saying it, but I sucked for retaliating the way I did. You've all given me a lot to think about, thanks again peeps!