Time For a Sex Talk.

Introduction

There has been a lot of questions lately on the askTRP sub about sex. There has been a lot of misinformation which I think needs to be cleared up. Will be quite long but feel free to skip to the part you are having trouble with. In this post I'm going to cover;

1) How to logistically get from 1st base to home.

2) The sexual mindset (how to have better sex, last longer, etc.)

3) some common questions (i'll add more from the comments).

How to Get a Homerun

If you have ever watched baseball you already know you won't hit a homerun everytime. Sometimes you get to first base then strike out. Sometimes you think your up to bat and the game ends. But every once in a while you bat it out of the park like you were born for it. The first think I want to say is that you will not be able to fuck every girl you talk to, go on a date with, or even have fucked already and want to try again.

There are a million different reasons I could mention but they don't matter. Why? Because there are 3 billion more. Quit wasting all your time on one that doesn't want you and find one that does. As many guys who post their success on here I promise you they have had more failure than success.

Step 1) Establish an attraction. This is done through game and SMV. There are many posts detailing this alone but I'll give you a brief summary. Your SMV must be high enough combining your looks and game in order to generate an attraction between you two. If you are average looking you will more than likely start off with average girls. Raise your SMV through skills, DGAF mentality, and social standing. You can't change the way you look but you can change just about everything else. (By looks I mean face. Everyone should be lifting to get swole. No explanation needed).

Whether it is through tinder game, daygame, or night game, there must be an attraction. The best way to do this without going to in depth (again a million posts on this) is to talk about her and what s around you, say whatever you want, and don't get serious.

Don't start talking about yourself unless she asks. Remember she doesn't give a fuck about you yet. She just wants to know if you are interesting and can handle some shit tests. Don't give serious answers. If she asks where you work you're a super hero, if she asks about your pets you always have a dog, if she wants to know about your hopes and dreams you want to be a space cowboy. Slip in a real answer here or there to keep it somewhat real and bring her back to reality but for the most part keep yourself mysterious.

She will do 90% of the talking if you let her. Just ask questions / make statements and tease her on the replies.

2) Pick a date. You can do whatever you want for this as long is it gets you both involved. Don't go to a movie or a football game. Something like playing putt putt, getting coffee, a walk in the park, going on a photoshoot down town (if you like taking photos) are all great. They get you guys walking around, moving locations (feels like you have known each other longer), and talking to each other for entertainment instead of getting it from another source.

3) Escalate. It is also much easier to escalate. When you are talking to her you can build in times in your speech or activity to use kino or verbal escalation (with some practice of course). When you first greet her for the date greet with a hug. It sets a standard that there will be more touching to come (also that you aren't to pussy to even touch a girl). Just hold your arms out and say, "good to see you." and 99% of the time she will straight up hug you. The tightness of her hug will also tell you how attracted she is from the start.

Keep escalating starting with playful touches in less sexual areas (arms, shoulders, middle back) then moving to longer touches in more intimate areas (holding hand, arm around waist, hand on legs).

Judge how she reacts to each touch. If she pulls away even a little you are moving to fast. Pull back and wait 15 minutes to try again. Fain some interest in talking to her while you do that.

Follow the escalation ladder (full one can be found with a quick search) until you are ready to go for the kiss. It will be scary the first time and your heart will be jumping. Don't worry before you know it a kiss will become your handshake.

How to know when its time? People usually operate on the same waves. If you think its time then she thinks its time. If she is staring into your eyes for long periods of time its a go-to for a kiss, if she takes quick glances at your lips its a go-to for a kiss, if all your kino has been successful and you feel like it go for a kiss.

I do not recommend the kiss close. It puts waaay too much pressure on both people. I find a mid date kiss is way better and makes you look way stronger in here eyes. Also sets up a better possibility for a same date lay.

4) Logistics. You should always plan ahead with your logistics so you can lead from point A to point V. I recommend planning backwards. Its way easier to think this way.

4) Get her to your place.

3) Make an excuse to leave xxx ( location closer to your place) and go to your place.

2) Go on a short walk to xxx from your first date location (building kino and possible going for a kiss or more).

1) Meet at first location and establish rapport.

You will need plausible deniability 99% of the time to get her back to your place. I have only had one girl ever ask me if we were going to have sex because she didn't want to waste her time if not when I mentioned going to my place. Best plausible deniability is something fun that gets her involved.

"I'm going back to my place to make pancakes. You're welcome to join me."

"I'm going to my place for pizza. I'll show you some of my artwork while we are waiting for it." (only if you have mentioned your artwork before this).

"I'm going back to my place for a swim. Hope you brought your bathing suit." (obviously she didn't. Skinny dipping time.)

5) Sex. Simply do whatever it is you say you were gonna do then start making out with her after. Start feeling up her ass. Caress your hands up her sides then to her tits. If she stops you at any point just take two steps forward and one step back. Pull away all attention from her and put on a movie or something. Try again 15 minutes later. If you get 2 declines in a row wait a while for the third try. If its a no go after 3 time for her to leave.

Keep escalating into sex. I always ask her right before I put my dick in her (in a sexual and playful tone). Do you want me to fuck you? And rub my dick on her pussy until she screams for me to fuck her. Avoids false rape charges and drives them crazy. Literally had girls cum the moment I put it inside of them from this.

Other tips: Keep condoms close by and keep some condom friendly lube. Always send a "i had fun last night we will have to get together again." text. Get tested every few months. Don't stick your dick in crazy.

The Sexual Mindset

So this is going to cover the sexual mindset. The sexual mindset is a frame of mind similar to when you are lifting. You are focused on one thing and one thing only. Pushing that weight up and getting the feeling of a great pump. The same is true with the sexual mindset. You have one goal in mind and that is to have some amazing sex.

Benefits of this include; more immersion during sex, lasting longer in bed, being able to successfully use dirty talk, and more.

So how do you reach this mindset and get out of your head? First step is meditation. Learn what it is like to reach a blank mindstate. You will go into this when fucking and absorb yourself into the situation.

The second is to honestly fuck a lot of girls. You will be bad at first but that is okay. Once you have a few notches on your belt you will figure out what works for you and what doesn't. Some positions are better for smaller guys some are better for bigger guys.

Don't worry about anything during sex. Most guys have insecurities about their sexual performance. I've fucked a lot of girls in the last year and have given all of them some of the best sex they have ever had. I still get in my head sometimes. You have to realize it doesn't matter if you cum quick, it doesn't matter if your dick isn't big enough for her, and it doesn't matter if she doesn't like the sex. Your goal should be to have a good time and enjoy yourself.

If you cum quick guess what. Your dick will get hard again. Just give it a few minutes. Say, "look at that you made me cum that quick. I must really like that sweet little pussy of yours (very dirty tone needed here)."

If you aren't big enough for her and she feels loose guess what? She's just loose. Go find another one who isn't riding bed posts. Unless you have a 2cm peter you probably don't have to worry about dick size. If it worries you that much just look up penis exercise and learn how to get more girth and length. Shit works.

If she doesn't like it guess what? The next one will. Like any other skill it comes with time.

Something often misunderstood here is making women cum. There are many ways to do this but the number one thing that makes them cum isn't physical. It is mental. You need to be dominant, using dirty talk to your advantage, and when she starts moaning hard command the bitch to cum for you.

Something I hate that is often said on here is "don't worry about if she cums at all. You do your thing and be done." Do you want to have sex or masturbate? Because you can do both with a womans body. If you pump in her for 10 seconds, cum, and go to sleep you would have been better off masturbating. No matter how you look at it sex is an act between two people. It should benefit both sides and be an act you do together not to someone.

You should be actively trying to give her the feelings you want her to have to give you the feelings you want to have. You want her to scream and talk like a pornstar? Talk to her like shes a dirty little porn star.

You want her to give you head? You better lead by giving her head.

You want to make it a slow emotional close fuck? Feel those emotions while fucking her. Feel yourself being close to her and experiencing the sensations together instead of getting a stimulation from her. It changes your entire outlook on sex. (the guys who will argue this have not had a lot of sex. The guys who have will tell you its more than just putting your dick in something that feels good.)

I highly recommend that everyone read Sex God Method. You can find the pdf for free online that details everything I have said so far way better. It will change your life.

Common Questions

1) "How do I know if she is ready for / wanting sex?"

You don't until you try for it. You can get vibes that she wants to but until your dick inside her you can't be 100% sure. Follow my guide above.

2) "I can't get hard when it comes time?"

You're nervous. Follow the guide for the sexual mindset. Meditate more.

3) "I cum too quick."

Practice Sexual Mindstate. Meditate more and cut out the porn completely and masturbation once every week or two. Use lube, go slow, and use a light grip. As far as fucking goes it helps to start off with a lot of foreplay. Edge from her blowing you and you eating her out for a bit before you fuck her. Fuck her slow to start. Every time you notice you might cum soon just bury your dick in her and let it sit there for a few seconds. Drives them crazy.

Another thing that helps to ease your nerves when you are close to cuming and don't want to yet just tell her to stop whatever she is doing and say, "You already have me ready to cum (in a shocked but sexual tone) and I'm not ready to do that yet." Then proceed to start focusing on her with fingering / eating out or whatever.

4) "How do I last longer physically?"

Lift weights and hit some (dare I say it?) cardio. Yes cardio. I don't do it because at this point I get laid often enough that fucking a plate is my cardio for the day. If you don't get laid more than once a week hit some damn cardio.

5) "I have xxx other problem."

No you have excuses. Man up, read Sex God Method, have more sex, and get better at it. 99% of your problems are all in your head. Learn to get out of your head.

I was awful at sex a year ago. 9 girls later I am a fucking god but there is always more to learn. I couldn't last 2 minutes a year ago, would almost cum on contact of entering a girl, and was shitty at everything from dominating to dirty talk. You know what I did? I looked at it like a skill and tried to improve in different areas. Now instead of hearing, "I wish I could cum for once." It's "I seriously have no idea how many times I came." I can last for as long as I want even if I cum multiple times.

Now that we are past the humble brag, reading Sex God Method will truly change your sex life. It has waaay more information in better detail than my post and is free online. It talks about how to be dominant, roll play, last longer, fuck for emotion, physical feeling, mental feeling, and more. Just google the free pdf.

Closing

Feel free to post your questions or other points of view on what I have discussed. If you have any personal questions feel free to PM me. Hope this helped.