So I got really drunk one night and had a big bust up with the wife. Not the first time this has happened and is always directly related to the DB situation we find ourselves in. It's what happened in the aftermath that is the issue. The next morning I realised how much of a douche I had been acting and a point to note is that she has threatened to leave me before. I was all emotional with the alcohol poison still coursing through my sytem and thats when it happened. I declared my absolute fear of losing her. I must've looked so weak and pathetic I still cringe at the thought! When not drinking I'm a lot more composed and alpha. Anyway, that was a few months ago and I've noticed a definite drop in respect levels and interest from the wife. Not sure if she even respects me at all now! My question people is this - how do I regain her respect before I start working on the DB situation? Is it a case of when its gone, its gone? Also worth mentioning RP is all new to me - I'm usually alpha but over time the wife has gradually beaten the beta tendencies out of me.....