Read the sidebar twice, keep your eyes peeled and put every woman you know through your mental ringer, do they all conform to AWALT?

Do you understand the gambit for the ones who don't seem to match up?

Do you understand if they have self deceived themselves that it will be temporary before they revert back to their ways?

Then you understand women.

And if you understand them, why would you think you can beat them at their own game? They lived with this skill from the moment they could walk, before they could talk. The word is innate. She thinks about those skills in the way you think about your grip strength opening a jar of pickles.

Stop trying to pretend you don't care about her, stop trying to pretend you don't want to get married and have kids. Stop trying to pretend you don't want to call her your girlfriend.

Stop.

If you feel the need to "calibrate" yourself to her, redigest the content. Because if you understand her, you can't love her (in that blue pill way). And if you can't love her in that way, then no act is necessary.

To be truly congruent is to understand women. It will then be unneeded for you to act, because your frame will be congruent to reality.

This is the stepping stone to "the talk." You can't have "the talk" if you're not at this level. And if you've made it to "the talk" without being at that level, consider yourself damn lucky the couple times she sniffed you out that she didn't believe you were a fraud or she wanted to still play pretend with you.

If you can't help but want that in your life, you still don't understand the content or women. And the solution is not to puff up your chest and feign disinterest. It is to increase your chest size, and to know them, which will make you disinterested proportional to the degree that you are unhealthily and unattractively over invested in women and underinvested in yourself.

Simply put, when you act, you are trying to hide your need to validate yourself, with her.