I had pretty great success a few weeks ago, having two good dates and getting a plate out of it. I like her a lot and she's a great lay. I'll include the details that I think might matter in both cases.

Date 1
First subject: Chinese girl. 26. Foreign born. Travels extensively on parents dime. We matched on tinder last year, chatted for a while, rematched this year and met. I told her we'd go to this donut place I wanted to try, and then we'd stay and chat there if it was nice or go back to my place if it wasn't.

A guy gives me his parking pass for free when we get there. We get two donuts, I pay (hmmm), homie throws one in for free as we leave I decide to give the parking pass to a guy who's pulling up behind me. Good social proof probably. We drive back to mine and I spend ten minutes making coffee, tea for her, and bringing some water to set up while we watch a movie. I take forever trying to find something good online (I'm like that) to the point where she's like "just pick anything already!" movie wouldn't load but I've got Casablanca on my laptop and she loves old movies. It was actually super good.

So I'm beside her on the couch and I know I want to escalate. I make sure I'm close enough that our bodies are touching. Then, and this worked great, I extend my open hand in a gesture where I expect her to take it. She does and from here it's a steep downhill kino escalating slope. I massage her hand with mine when she leans forward for tea I put my hand around her back and run her back a bit. She cuddles in, then I put her hand on her thigh, all gentle, comforting movements, also being attentive to see what my limits are. Eventually I'm straight up rubbing her vagina and she's into it. (great). And I ask her to come upstairs.

I show her my room. Get her in bed. Make out. (she was a terrible wet kisser, like her mouth always had water in it). Suck on her Chinese titties. Rub her pussy some more. She starts rubbing my dick. I unbutton a few of hers and start fingering her. She's responding great although her jeans are 80% on. I take off my pants cuz I want her to get more personal with my dick. And she does a bit but then it all stops. She says "no, too soon". We cuddle a bit more than she gets changed and I show her out.

So what happened:

-it was too soon (not enough comfort) -I took off my pants before hers, also maybe my precum might have grossed her out.

It was great practice for building kino, but she hasn't shown interested since, so that ship has sailed.

Date 2

2nd subject: cute Iranian born 30 year old. This was our second date, wine at her place on her invitation. First date we had a tea at a Cafe, walked to a bar to play cards, then went up the street where I had for and she had a drink.

Another movie. I pick it, although it takes less time than before. Initially were not touching bodies as we sit beside each other. I arrange it eventually so that we are. She reaches for my hand first. Initiate hand massaging and playing with her fingers. After similar kino to before. I playfully trace her lips with my finger knowing exactly what effect that will have, we make out, I suck on titties, and she pulls me upstairs for all that good stuff.

We did it again next weekend. Still haven't finished the movie.

What went right: -Second date and it was at her place so way more time and comfort for her -Alcohol, it sure does grease the wheels -gonna reiterate a good first date where we did three activities together and I showed a diverse character with lots of interests.

Thanks for reading.