Hey guys, thought I'd try a little FR. Never done it before. Given that it's thanksgiving, I wanted to reflect on my application of some essential tenets of Red Pill Living and Dating. Hopefully there is some value to add to the discussions.

THE BEGINNING

So: I was in a LTR out of force basically, she begged me. I was secure in the regular sex (she wanted to please me in any way possible), her showering of gifts (gucci wallets, rings, even after we broke up), and attention. I promoted her from plate to GF, and GF status lasted 4 months. I could do no wrong in her eyes. This is HUGE for me- and I totally ignored it. I am slightly above average in most ways, for her to act this way towards me blatantly shows her low SMV. Although she was a good, supplicating, ego stroking partner, she was far too attached and was suicidal by the end.

I mad sure she got proper care- and dropped her. LISTEN TO WHAT PEOPLE SAY about this shit. I had to learn this one myself because I craved the attention after years of sexual neglect.

THE BLOWBACK

I felt great after this breakup. So much more time to focus on my craft and my journey. Going harder at the gym. Tinder. But- I had seen my progress slip. Her emotional neediness sapped me of life, and perspective. Sad and sobering, but I was out.

I noticed that one benefit is that I couldn't give a FUCK what any girl thought of me. I had deep convictions and direction in me, and that's all I needed. Tinder was a breeze, plenty of numbers, girls wanting to meet, a threesome. I kept these in the background, as It was not convenient. Then I met a college girl.

FIRST DATE POST LTR

This chick is way cuter than my ex, pre-med, smart but air-headed, and loved everything I threw at her.

I honestly believe the Key to her attraction to me is very simple.

First, my appearance. I look like a ruffian. Not so overbearing, but I clearly flirt with danger. I try not to play it up, but it's just who I am. GIRLS WANT TO BE THRILLED. Appearance says so many things about a person. Obviously, don't over extend and become an idiot. This works for me and my journey, where I am at and going.

Second: the first 15 seconds of our interaction. We met by this frozen yogurt place not far from my house around 7:30. I see her in the parking lot, and she's texting me "where are you?" I'm 5 minutes late - let her sweat just a bit. She's wearing a high neck sweater, jeans, boots. beautiful long hair. Looks like a good girl. Eye contact, Deep calm voice: "Hey ____, nice to meet you". Firm hug, walk inside. Small talk while giving her a little attention and eye contact from time to time. I grab a cup for her and myself and knock over a couple. Before TRP I would've flipped my shit; internal dialogue like "Oh you fucking idiot, she thinks you're stupid.. blah blah" FUCK THAT Keep your balance. I chuckle, throw it away. Small talk- immediately start poking fun from her as she's a little ditzy, not even looking at her as I get my yogurt. She's cracking up

It sounds silly but these small details reflect such a IDGAF attitude, and expresses my abundance. I don't care If she's offended. This is who I am, welcome.

I took her on a fun mountain road to some backroads before our planned movie date. tons of twists and turns and my truck just loves that road. It's a little exciting, not too dangerous, and girls love it. Occasionally talking and prodding her with funny, hard to answer questions. Light kino with a backhand shoulder slap if she says somehting funny. Find a lake and pull over, sit on the tail gate and try to call the Turkeys. It's night mind you. I am squawking away echoing like a madman through they Valley. IDGAF Make yourself vulnerable to scrutiny and stand tall. I make her try. She's laughing and letting out weak little bird calls, but is clearly a little nervous so I ease up. MAKE HER FEEL SOMETHING.

Movie: IT. I don't reccomend movie dates but in her tinder bio she suggested Thor. I told her it looks bad let's see IT. Okay she's down. When we got to the theater she's like oh IT looks scary.. I say.. "Yeah.. just wait". The look in her eyes is priceless. She can't believe I meant what I said. These college kids must be so supplicating for her to think I didn't mean what I said. If you do see a movie on a first date: Don't let it be the only thing. Show your value elsewhere. Also, make sure it's a scary one, it gives her an excuse to initiate heavy kino without stigma. Of course, she's cowered on me and I'm grabbing on that ass half the movie.

Afterward I also taught her how to drive my truck, stick shift. It can be very nerve-wracking but satisfying in general, but especially my truck. Whatever, trucks with exhaust get girls going and it's fun. I am taking way too long.

We get some 7/11 snacks. Pull her in and Kiss her randomly. "Are you gunna do it again?!" I reply with kino and pull her in "no rush doll, slow it down" It has been hours at this point and she is pining. I know I did everything you are NOT supposed to do on this date, but it works for me. She says her suv "is great and has tons of room": She is telling me she wants to fuck. it's 2 am. fuck it, lets go. We drive back to where we met in an empty parking lot and I jump in the back of her suv, she follows suit. Lets go. AGAIN- semi thrilling experience. Public sex adds an edge, reckless but its fuckin' 2 am. She seems like a relatively "good girl" and is shy.. and I sort of just perceived this throughout the night. She has not done a lot of things - and, she hasn't rode the carousel too hard yet, but it seems like I'm one of her first stops. THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF MY DESCENT AND HOPEFUL RECOVERY. AWALT!!! Of course she puts this good girl image forward.

LESSONS

  • Dude. Stay the course. If you make a "mistake" (I don't even want to call it that, everything that happens is within your control) Measure how you handle. Meditate. Improve yourself. these things rub off on small interactions that would've plummeted me before.

  • Develop a good style. I look respectable enough, but have an edge to my aesthetic. I follow stylistic influencers and incorporate what I like into my style. EXPECT to be judged on this. I looked like a man who will fuck you right, not a husband.

  • Provide value through interesting experience by letting her float through your frame, becoming intoxicating. This is a vague thing to say, but I have experienced it with girls myself before.. Tailor yourself to BE an experience. LEAD the charge with what YOU like, and know others can appreciate. BE CONFIDENT with what you bring to the table. this takes years. MAKE A SHOW of the entire experience. Something like a starlit drive can be dull as fuck, give off "creepy vibes" or get a bitch wet. YOU determine this. My personality is slightly reckless, cocky, sexual (sexual conversation naturally came up multiple times, very important to plant that seed). BLAST that music, HIT the curves, MAKE HER FEEL. Every lame out there is playing it safe, and perfect safety may as well be death.

  • AWALT, BITCH - just as I have developed a style with intent- "lets fuck" so too has a woman, even if she is a 20 y.o. college girl. She acts, smells, looks, walks, and talks like a good girl. She is an American College student, don't be dumb like me.

This ended up being way longer than anticipated, I will do a follow up post because I have already slipped up in my ways and developed slight oneitis and pedestal syndrome although I am correcting the course. Girl swallowed her first nut thanks to me, and exploring kinks together. Had to get another plate- it's working.

THANK YOU ALL FOR THE KNOWLEDGE AND POWER OVER MY LIFE YOU HAVE GIVEN TO ME. I HOPE TO REPAY YOU. BLESS LET ME KNOW IF THIS SUCKED