What situations happened in your real life that led you down the path of MGTOW Red Pill Philosophy?

DangZagnut · 2019-04-20T07:29:42+00:00

Marriage was never appealing and didn’t make any sense to me as a kid.

2019-04-20T08:34:22+00:00

I went into the daring scene with rose tinted glasses. I had my own beliefs about what love is, and how my life would be. I thought it would only be beneficial with no downsides or compromises. I thought I could have everything that I wanted without making any sacrifices or compromises.

Boy was I wrong. The first year into my first major sexual relationship she destroyed my anime figures because she thought I was too old for that thing and she was "doing me a favor". I was sad for that then and I'm still sad for that almost 10 years later. Many of those had sentimental value, or were gifts from my high school friends. By the second year, if I didn't always happily do anything that she asked she would get into a mood and tell me that we should just break up. Which made me sad and made me do the things she wanted me to do. Only for it to happen all over again. Eventually I just ended that relationship on my own. I just wanted a relationship where we treated each other with respect, didn't hurt each other, had a lot of fun together and had only positive feelings towards each other with nothing toxic. I realized that would never happen in this relationship so I ended it.

The second major, almost sexual relationship we were messaging back and forth for months and went on countless dates. She was prefect in every way. She treated me with respect, never asked anything from me, was open to do anything that I wanted except sex, and she was damn attractive. Much more attractive than my previous girlfriend. I thought I found the perfect woman. I thought I was the luckiest guy ever. Every single day I looked forward to spending time with her. She was cute as hell and presented herself to be extremely cute. She also presented herself as the girl that really needed somebody to take care of her and that person was me. It was the highlight of my day to spend time with her. Everything was just so perfect. She would ask me if she liked her skirt and whether she should wear a shorter one or a longer one on the next date. She would ask me if I liked her hair in pigtails as a pony tail, with a hairclip or anything else and would style herself exactly as I liked. She would ask me what her lipstick should be, what her nails should be, what clothes she should wear. She even asked me what kind of underwear she should wear. She would even tell me that she's wearing that lingere that she sent photos to me about. Then one day I playfully pushed the issue of sex again and she said let's go someplace private and talk about it. Then we had a nice one on one conversation where I would pay her $1000 for sex one time or I can take her on a vacation and we could have as much sex as I want but just for the duration of the vacation. I was fucking devastated. The whole relationship was a lie. I wanted her to love me and I would have paid anything for that. But I won't pay money for sex with a woman that won't love me. I realized no matter how much I paid her I wouldn't really get what I really wanted. So I ended that relationship too. Never spoke to her again.

The next major sexual relationship that I got into. She was living with me, she was attractive, we were banging. Everything was great. She didn't do everything that I wanted, wasn't as attractive as the previous girl and didn't present herself in a way that I was drooling over her all the time. I guess you could say it was a normal intimate relationship. Then one day she gets a phone call from her ex and she answers it and talks all sweet with him. I kicked her out then and there. I'm done. Just done with this bullshit. I'm not hearing your excuses, I'm not listening to the begging and pleading or the tearful eyes. I'm not listening to what the circumstances are where you thought something like that would ever be acceptable. I don't want to hear excuses about how you were just trying to make me jealous on purpose. Just get the fuck out. I'm done.

GrisBosque · 2019-04-20T11:00:04+00:00

Being a good husband and dad who loved his wife and kids...

Went downhill from there.

WRS13 · 2019-04-20T11:18:57+00:00

I was a MGTOW before meeting the MGTOW.

I've never had an interest in having children, and I've never hidden it from anyone.

I have a cousin who dated the same girl for about 10 years, I was jealous of their relationship, they really seemed to be the perfect match, but they got married, 10 months later they divorced and started to hate each other, and this happened to all couples which I have known.
That's when I decided that I would not get married, I'd rather be dating forever and never get married.

But I did not leave the women, still I like a lot, I just do not intend to date seriously/ marry/ live together.

Fortunately I've never been a guy to go after anyone, to me, if it's over, it's over.

everydaygreyman · 2019-04-20T13:14:24+00:00

I studied biology in college. Courses on evolutionary theory changed my life. Suddenly everything started to make sense. It was the beginning of a 20-year intellectual journey. The internet was just getting up and running then. For the first time in human history all of the collective wisdom of mankind was gradually becoming available to anyone, anywhere, anytime. Gradually, slowly, I came to the realization that virtually everything I was taught about history and human nature and society and morality was a lie.

I got seduced by a 40 year old married woman during that time. Years later realized how crazy she was and how shitty she treated her cuck second husband. This guy took in her and her 3 children from her first marriage and gave her a nice lifestyle (including a lakefront home). Crazy bitch blamed me at age 19 for ruining her life. Don't feel any guilt over that. Maybe I should. It was a valuable lesson in female loyalty (ha!) and decision making. Alpha fucks and beta bucks and all that.

Got out in the world, established a career, became somewhat alpha. Not millionaire playboy or surgeon alpha or anything like that, but I did ok. I'm 6'1, I worked out out, looked good, had an exciting job, traveled around a fair amount, dated a lot of attractive successful women with high-paying jobs. I was still partly blue-pilled as I still naively believed I'd meet "the one." I stayed in several impossibly flawed relationships way too long.

Gradually I realized all woman bored me. Even the doctors I dated, for all their money and intelligence and all the things we did, were still amazingly shallow and superficial and boring and prone to complaining and made very stupid decisions and became uninteresting to me after a very short period of time.

In my early 30s I got married to a woman who was attractive and successful (doctorate degree) and seemed to enjoy the things I liked and wanted a family, which I did also. We were fairly equal in terms of earning power. She asked me. I was wary but figured she was as decent a choice as I'd ever meet. Also figured a divorce would be fairly equitable if it came to that.

Day 1 of the marriage was a disappointment. The wedding, which I scaled down considerably from the ludicrous monstrosity she wanted, was a shit show. She constantly complained. She shit-talked me behind my back. She squandered our money on the stupidest shit possible. She complained I wasn't doing enough to make her happy. All the life aspirations and adventures I wanted and that I clearly articulated to her and she agreed to before the marriage all of a sudden became selfish and unrealistic. She couldn't have fun together no matter what we did. All she wanted was to buy a huge house, fill it with shit, watch TV, and do things with her idiot mother and her mal-contented female friends. It was impossible for her to be friends with contended women in healthy relationships. All her friends were either divorced or making plans for it. They just sat around scheming and bitching and pouring poison into each other's ears.

Now at age 42 I'm divorced with 3 kids. Joint legal and physical custody. She's in debt up to her eyeballs. I have no debt, a good job, and about $350-$400k in the bank. I'll be in transition for about 12 months or so. My goals are to be a good dad, work out, become more successful in my career, and indulge myself.

I'm better off than a lot of guys. I didn't make perfect decisions, and I didn't have perfect clarity when I got married, but I instinctually made good, realistic choices. My kids are beautiful and smart as whips. I'm going monk for a bit simply by necessity. When this all shakes out I'll probably date a bit until I simply get too old (lol) but I'll never make women a priority again and I'll never expose myself to financial risk for the sake of poon. I will invest in my kids and myself only. When my kids are older I want to travel the world, alone. If I want to take a month off and go to SE Asia I will. If i want to see the alps I will. If I want to get a BJ from a hooker in Amsterdam I will.

It's going to be glorious.

MGTOW FTMFW.

GRIFFITHdor1230 · 2019-04-20T06:00:38+00:00

The event(s) that led me to my own path was when my at the time GF decided she was bored with me and left. As hurt as I was I thought rationally and looked back at old relationships to find the common denominator (I assumed something about me). That’s when it hit me that AWALT and I started only worrying about myself.

Then about 2 months later (early January) I stumbled across this sub and subbed by the end of the month. Since then I’ve been active on the sub and have been using my free time to read books suggested by others here (you can reference my post history for the list I was given). I have been more focused on myself and feel happier than I ever was with a women.

msk_501 · 2019-04-20T09:14:41+00:00

Reading the 48 Laws of Power currently, as well. It's a great book, really makes you think.

PhantomCowboy · 2019-04-20T13:18:39+00:00

saw men in my family and friend's families get burned, got burned, shared stories

mvlock · 2019-04-20T21:20:28+00:00

Since i remember myself I always was able to thinking in dual mode, deattach my self from my feeling like love... and think clearly with only logic

its wasn't that hard to hear another men stories having hard times with woman,marriage... and see women/girls behaviors without trying covering it with "blue recovering"

and all the marketing of system toward marriage and hiding the real truth about them

its just "tiny" things u collect in ur life, and think to mgtowing

and they are seeing it as unnormal or crazy and u start too, untill u discover mgtow

and see u was adding up those things correctly

TheWooDzz · 2019-04-20T11:57:08+00:00

Was looking at videos on youtube, PUA lol, came across one of coachgregadams videos, since then became redpill, stuff made so much more sense after.

2019-04-20T14:44:23+00:00

I dealt with the drama of a young woman in highschool and I saw the nature of the beast, and I really didn’t want to stick around to play with it after the emotional pain that caused me. And really, AWALT. So, yeah, better off without them, what can I say?

astuteglute · 2019-04-21T09:43:08+00:00

My divorce and the flaming circle jerk of family court and divorce economics. Paying a few people a few hundred dollars an hour to tell me when and how I should see my kids.

Travel and make bank. Use the darkest shield, I always used 14, tig stainless is sex (no dust or dirt). Work 10 years on the road, save a shitton, and start teaching at some tech school for the benefits.

Good luck out there.

Title	What situations happened in your real life that led you down the path of MGTOW Red Pill Philosophy?
Author	Red_Pill_Philosopher
Upvotes	18
Comments	12
Date	April 20, 2019 5:15 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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