Over the course of my entire life, I've been looked at as one of the most mature guys amidst my social circle of high school & college.

Not to mention, my upbringing has ultimately given me the "Nice guy" label. Simply because its in my nature to treat others as I would like to be treated. Its not really something like "Oh, I need to be nice to women. Because women are special."

Most of my life I've lived by my father's philosophy of treating everyone equally. Therefore, nobody has ever gotten an extra special kindness from me because they are a woman, an elder, higher up, whatever.

Because of that, I've learned that I'm a natural flirt. And that I can immediately control how a person (for this case a woman) thinks of me by acting a certain way. I don't really understand fully how I do it, but I know that "negging" has always been a natural thing for me. Playfully teasing and such.

Lately I hate being the nice guy. The Red Pill has pointed out that the "nice guy" label can mean no sex for me from any woman who identifies me that way. Great, well then I'm fucked (Ba-dum-pishhhhh)

I used to be a major Blue Piller. I won over my last girlfriend by basically being her "friend-slave" for 6 months before she finally gave in and wanted to date me. I used to do shit like drop whatever I was doing to hang out with her, sometimes even up and leaving my dorm mates. Most of it was frustrating, and downright stupid, but I felt that there was no other way to win a woman over. Which was to prove myself to her in some way that any other man hasn't already done before.

Since I discovered TRP, I've been really trying to hold on to the idea that a woman should try to impress me. Not the opposite. I mean, how valuable can a woman be if she's no more than a pretty face? Is she really worth any kind of effort? I don't think so. Not when there are millions like her, who have something more to offer.

Like being able to cook!

It's utterly shocking to know that very few women of my age group actually cook. And even fewer that actually want to learn. Coming from a Portugese family, EVERY member of my family knows how to cook. Man or woman.

And I mean, in the words of the great Robert Rodriguez "Not knowing how to cook, is like not knowing how to fuck!"

My last relationship was almost symbiotic. She fucked me, and I cooked her food and took care of her. Thankfully however, I recognized that I wasn't feeling happy and genuinely desired to go back to being single. Since the women in my social circle tend to show their true feelings for me when I'm already in a relationship, that was motivation enough.

But, I digress.

Unfortunately, since I'm finishing school. With no job. And very little money at one time. My only real sexual release is jerking it or a 27 year old chain smoking fuck buddy, and frankly I'd rather jerk it.

Most of the girls that go to my school, are in a relationship or not that attractive. Now, while I'm not opposed to stealing another man's woman (most likely a Blue Piller punk). Some of the girls that I would even have the slightest interest in are all dating people I know more personally. Guys I actually value as a contact (I work in the digital video/film field and networking is really important). So either I keep the contacts I've made, or sacrifice everything I've built in college for some pussy I'll probably regret afterwards.

Not to mention, most of the women I know outside of school have these "cocky" mentalities. You know, that whole "girl power" attitude where they go around and talk shit about how girls are so much better than guys. Blah blah blah. They think their shit doesn't stink, and if you call them out they'll probably call you sexist.

I've probably been rejected more than any of my friends combined, since I've just gone and asked girls out. This has since developed a sort of "anxiety" towards doing so, and I get really worked up. But I've discovered it's because I've put the woman on a pedestal way before she's even proven her worth.

I just want to get laid every so often, thats all. But yet the most miserable creature in the world controls the one thing that I desire as a male human being the most.

I've done a lot for women in my lifetime, to win them over. Only to be painfully and brutally rejected or left in the cold. One even drove me to drink, and I woke up in the hospital the next morning.

The nurse told me that if I didn't come to the hospital. I would've died of alcohol poisoning.

That hit me in such a way that forever changed how I felt about women and relationships since before I found TRP. And if I were to pass it on to other nice guys like me it would be this:

  • No woman is more valuable than yourself. Period.

  • If she doesn't have time for you, you have no time for her.

  • If you're a fisherman, you don't just catch one big fish and then finish your season. You keep fucking fishing. Same applies to dating.

  • Almost everything a woman can say to you is merely to get a reaction. Especially when flirting. Call her out on her shit and put her in her place.

  • Dating sites are a waste of time. You think women are picky now? You have no clue. You're better off standing face to face negging a hot chick, than being one of the 100 men trying to start a convo with her online.

  • You can find out everything you need to know about a specific woman through her social networks. Do some research. (Facebook & Tumblr are by far the most telling)

  • DO NOT tickle a woman's ego by commenting nice things on one of the 50 photos she uploads of herself a day. 90% of her male friends probably already have.

  • If she says the infamous phrase "I'm not like other girls". Turn around and fucking run.

  • MAKE FUN OF HER FOR FUCKS SAKE! (Example: I met my roommates manager whom decided to make herself the center of the conversation by asking in a snarky voice "Are you boys here to visit me?". I sarcastically replied "Yes, we are. How are you today?". She proceeded to tell some quick and boring story about her whole day at work. I immediately interrupted by saying "Well, that sounds really boring. [turned to my roommate] So what movie do you want to see?" I guarantee you, if you don't give her approval before she earns it she will never forget you. I went on to find out she went out of her way to message my roommate about me.

I needed to write something like this. I hope its valuable insight for some of you, or maybe just review material for most. Either way. I feel better.