Long time lurker and what not. Gentlemen, I only have one thing to say to you. And you can go ahead and call bullshit and say that I must be an emo idiot trying to bandage a broken heart. I don't care because none of those accusations are true.

This is what I want to say, LOVE DOES NOT EXIST

YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE , you are only in love with the image of the person you think you're in love with.

Let me elaborate what I just said. When you have a "crush" on someone, you automatically have a lot of presumptions of who that person is. You just see them and think they are funny, nice, cool, kind, respectful. You create an image of them in your head. And then when you go into a relationship with them, you still have that image inside your mind, but now it's getting buffetted with more and more qualities, the person is now-in your head-quirky, doesn't take shit from anyone, badass, loving, caring.

But then you get to know them more and more. And at first it doesn't feel like anything, you've wasted too many hours fantasizing and day-dreaming your life with them to actually SEE their flaws. You ignore them and only focus on what you want to focus, and you focus on things that aren't there. You focus only on the image in your head.

And then time passes, in the end you see there is nothing there. That you don't even recognize the person you are in love with. They have changed. Changed so much that they look nowhere near as good as the image in your head.

That person you thought they were is now gone, buried beneath the great layers of time.

And then you are trapped, crawlspaced and shackled to a wall with an inch long chain.

There are several scientific facts I can bring in here that say the same thing, LOVE IS NOT REAL. But I'm not going to that because I'm sure there has been several posts and articles about that already.

And I'm not even mentioning what happens to you as a male, how you change yourself and throw away your identity for that person, how you become their slave, how you become dependent on that person's approval. Again, because there are already a lot more posts on that.

So this is my final say, YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE