I know I'm on r/MGTOW and not r/relationship_advice , I think pursuing a relationship with this girl would be a mistake, but I feel I do not have a complete vision of how bad it could be, this is why I'm posting here, to get the perspective and insight I may lack.

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I'm 28, IT engineer. I'm average looking. She is 33, cute, average looking. She's not a college graduate, she has an administrative government job. Along the conversations I had with her, she says I'm "very cute" and "adorable". We went 1st base at her place, she didn't want to go further, she wants to take it slowly, she clearly wants a relationship.

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She recently told me that being friends with benefits is a mistake, that feelings always get involved, that she did that for the past 2.5 years with a guy that ended the relationship, that the sex was "great" but that it was a mistake. She let it slip she did drugs in her past and regrets it, has a few tattoos she regrets and wants to settle now.

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Now, what interests me. She is submissive and likes to do dirty things in bed I'd like to do to her. I'm not really for committing to her, but I have NO interest at all in hurting her or lying to her and then dumping her. None. If she does not put out with me being clear on not wanting to have a relationship with her, then we are going to be "just friends" as she suggested.

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My diagnosis: she's past her prime, been there done that when it comes to crazy recreational sex, and now, wants to settle with a beta bucks provider/husband. (She asked twice what I did for a living, asked about my day at work closely watching my facial expression as I talked about it). She said 1st date how her parents would be very happy when she gets married, how she realizes she's "late" watching her friends settling and her going home to her cats. (empty house).

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But, she's very nice, cute and all, and really sexy. So, my judgement may be clouded by that.

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Is my diagnosis accurate? What else did I miss? What would you do ? (stupid question, I know what you'd do, been here long enough to know how you'd just go your own way I guess? :) )

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So, better question yet, is there any chance she's really changed, that she's really looking to be a nice girl etc etc, or what odds do you see this working ?

By the way, we're both Canadian.