How have you learned to accept yourself? Looks and inner flaws

Pips_233 · 2019-02-15T21:12:39+00:00

"accepting yourself" is what fat chicks do. Strive for a state of constant improvement, you can always be better.

The_Stumper · 2019-02-15T20:39:44+00:00

Maximize strengths, minimize flaws.

2019-02-15T21:16:14+00:00

I don't think you ever want to just accept yourself until you think you've reached your peak. But to answer you, you have to stop caring about other people's opinions on you and being afraid to be judged for being yourself. People care about who they are in relation to what others will think of them, strip away what others think of you and you're free to be you. But yeah, I wouldn't stop trying to improve.

Edit: Of course if you're following this philosophy, you're not improving yourself for other people, just yourself.

2019-02-15T20:37:06+00:00

You can either commit to a course of action (improvement) or 'forgive' yourself (for being you?)

Personally I would determine where/why/how I have gotten my perceptions from, and then, when I am comfortable with them for mydelf (ie I adopt them) I work on the above.

mgtow-zen · 2019-02-15T21:24:33+00:00

The I that "learns" is the "self" the world made. Once I realized the self everyone judges has nothing to do with me, because it is a self that lives in their mind and fails their expectations, it becomes apparent there is no point in learning to accept the product of everyone else's imagination. I just remember it isn't actually me.

These "inner flaws" and looks are everyone else's idea, not mine. Why do I need to accept someone else's definition of me?

selfism_mike · 2019-02-15T21:36:44+00:00

There is no need of "self acceptance" since that word does not even make sense: you can only accept that for which there is some logical potential to avoid it in the first place, and it is impossible for you to avoid yourself.

You can however sabotage yourself by self-deprecating thoughts, followed by debilitating emotions. What you need to do is to forbid yourself to have those thoughts under any circumstances. You get this accomplished by generating anger against those thoughts whenever they come up. Learn to be willfully ignorant towards those thoughts and don't even allow them to start to generate emotions of self-loathing. The will to power is first and foremost the will against your own weakness.

Positive thinking and self-love is for idiots and pussies, and won't work anyway once the rubber hits the road. In order to function well (and that is the whole point) you don't need to feel good, just make sure you don't make yourself feel miserable.

guytronics · 2019-02-15T23:18:59+00:00

Anything I can control, I seek to improve.

Anything I can't control I seek to minimise the effect it has.

Overall, I simply try not to GAF.

StupidDebate · 2019-02-16T04:54:17+00:00

Buy a mountain bike. Even if you suck at mountain biking it is still fast enough to escape all your problems

lonewolfsigmamgtow · 2019-02-16T09:59:34+00:00

Well i am overweight, so i joined a gym recently. It is HELL for me as an overweight guy, the thing is earlier i wanted to be a sexy handbag of a woman. Now as a 29 year old VIRGIN, i want to do it for myself.

padpump · 2019-02-16T16:26:13+00:00

Surrendering to True Source

KountDoku · 2019-03-16T20:00:11+00:00

I'm still on the path of improving myself. I still hate myself for letting my body become unhealthy. That's why I'm working on my body so I can live longer.

I've been accept my flaws, now I just have to destroy them.

Title	How have you learned to accept yourself? Looks and inner flaws
Author	barwhochooses
Upvotes	6
Comments	14
Date	February 15, 2019 8:34 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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