If your life is happy after MGTOW, lend me a hand

Alocaco · 2017-12-10T17:20:48+00:00

... just described adulthood.

You could have all of that... Or Option 2, all of that AND a leech stripping resources from you.

Choose well.

johntheother · 2017-12-10T20:43:37+00:00

This is may sound trite - but for MGTOW guys - especially newly-MGTOW ( 3 years or less ) - there is a very real danger of falling into depression from which it can take years to recover. This is due to the sudden loss of faith in a whole lot of the mythology of our culture. I wont list all the lost illusions here but it can be very disorienting and debilitating. To deal with this productively, and avoid or escape depression - grow a garden. If you have a house with a yard - dig up 10 X 10 feet of it and grow some vegetables in it. If you're growing and eating some of your own food, you will find yourself forming new connections to the world - new interests, and a new enthusiasm for your life. If you have an apartment, and no yard to work in - the challenge is a little greater - but by no means impossible. Grow stuff in pots. Commandeer an unused piece of city property, get creative. Growing flowers, vegetables, trees, or whatever else you want is wildly curative of depression. The less money you spend of this, and more improvised your methods are - the better. Also - dont expect immediate success. Most of everything you plant will die at first - but that's just nature doing it's thing - some plantings will succeed. And your depression will leave you.

frankmarlowe · 2017-12-10T18:49:52+00:00

Lowered expectations. One negative aspect of the modern world and all it's advances is how much people take for granted. Seriously, learn to live a minimalist lifestyle as much as possible. Don't buy or get attached to things that cannot be easily replaced. Pick up a hobby that you can do solo. Try to find work that pays the bills and doesn't grind your soul to dust. When it comes to relationships and sex, either go monk mode or again "don't buy or get attached to anything that cannot be easily replaced." And I recommend going back to weed. Tho if you want a pick me up that doesn't make you forget things, I can personally recommend psilocybin mushrooms. Just treat them medicinally, not recreationally.

Crossing_theRubicon · 2017-12-10T18:09:05+00:00

Find a job that is not soul-crushing.

Terlancster · 2017-12-10T18:45:01+00:00

Yeah I get where you're coming from, it's probably even more redpilled if you're an atheist and do not believe in life after death.. But I would say main things are hobbies, things you like to do, things that challenge you: gym, meeting up with good friends, playing guitar, video games, manga/ anime, ...

BreathGenie · 2017-12-10T19:39:29+00:00

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2017-12-10T23:32:16+00:00

OP I cannot stress this enough. Keep moving forward. The belief system you have built your entire life on has been derooted and your mind needs time to adjust.

You will.probably find yourself reevaluating your beliefs right down to the fundamentals such as what should I eat and how should I sleep.

Do not fret, allow your mind to undergo this inner revolution and you will come out stronger and more confident of yourself than you have ever been.

Good luck OP. I know things will go well for You.

Freefrombitches123 · 2017-12-10T23:58:08+00:00

I like golf

2017-12-11T07:31:16+00:00

man, you live in a world full of opportunities and you smoke pot and wait to die?

what else you can do? you can be astronomer, archaeologist, physicist, painter, writer, musician, just what ever you choose to be. explore yourself, find what is interesting to you and follow your dreams. you must have dreams even if you maybe are not aware of them right now.

2017-12-10T17:26:26+00:00

U need first ,to free urself from the thinking that need to be family's man that's ur purpose in life, that ur duty to bring kids and take care of them.

when u are free, u gonna start to feel boredom, then ur brain will start to think about interesting things to do or achieve , if u still on the mindset u are shouldn't be alone or u need be provider , ur brain will just keep those thoughts around and wont let u move to next thing.

also try to be complete with ur choice in mgtow way, and not letting others distract u from ur path, or rethink all over ur choice or making u feel, ure wrong or need to justified ur way.

I remember losing my religion, i had many conversions with religion people making feel bad leaving it, now i dont have any drive to talk about it at all or anything they say wont effect me, i made my choice and understand all the their arguments , and already answered it to myself , they might seems happy with their religion or in the matrix for sometime, but they are not free

Find another place where u can hang out, more fitting to life style if there consisting interfering with ur life style

edit: i have also problem with memory try: alcar, huperzine a, piracetam, removing root canals, heavy metal detox (lipoic acid - ala , acz nano )

Figg1778 · 2017-12-10T19:26:00+00:00

I used to be in your shoes. At my lowest, I forced myself to take a step back and look at how I could be better. I looked at what I like to do and how I could expand my interests and started to rebuild myself from the ground up.

Learn to enjoy your own company and do things by yourself, learn to develop a thicker skin, try to push yourself out of your comfort zone and you might be surprised at how much growth you can achieve.

2017-12-11T01:09:09+00:00

Just got to find peace within. A poor man with big dreams may sleep easy at night, while a rich man who has everything struggles to wake up in the morning. Find your talent, get some goals in life. Experience everything you can. Go skydiving, mountain-climbing...something to break the cycle of your life. Then reinvent the mundane life that you know. Easier said than done, but it all starts within you. This is the shit hand we've been dealt..this crazy vicious world. Might as well make the best of it because this is all we have.

Fyodor007 · 2017-12-11T02:04:54+00:00

I like helping people (that deserve it).

I like playing video games, instruments and some different shows.

I love my dog. She's awesome. We went for a walk today, somewhere we have never gone before and it was pretty fun. She is always happy to see me, always my little snuggle buddy.

I like travelling. Motorcycles. Working out.

The key to being happy is feeling gratitude for what you have. Extreme gratitude. Be GLAD you're not the asshole in the Prius who doesn't know how to drive. Use shit like that to be grateful for what you do have. Make this a habit and you'll be a happy dude.

The opposite is "wanting"... wanting begets wanting and creates a void of feeling like you don't have enough. You only get little highs from getting before wanting another.

mechdemon · 2017-12-11T03:44:37+00:00

The purpose of existence is existence itself; its a snake eating its own tail. If you seek meaning, you will have to make it yourself or find it within - do what pleases YOU, not what pleases society.

This is part of the heart of MGTOW, possibly the hardest part of walking this path. No one can tell you the answer, you have to find it for yourself.

Its very similar to the concept of enlightenment, really.

BreathGenie · 2017-12-11T03:47:18+00:00

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TB409 · 2017-12-11T13:10:19+00:00

You're experience a "blank canvas" if you will. After accepting that the universe is ultimately pointless you're left with "now what?". Yes life is meaningless I'm going to be straight forward no bullshit with you. It doesn't matter what path you take in life we all end up at the same exit. However, just because life is meaningless this does not mean you still can't have a meaningful life. It's just up to you now to find out what life means to you and start painting a life for you to enjoy.

BreathGenie · 2017-12-11T15:30:03+00:00

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selfism_mike · 2017-12-12T00:12:01+00:00

A measure for how deeply one understands life is the amount of happiness one can derive from the absence of pain.

BreathGenie · 2017-12-10T17:44:07+00:00

(I’ve decided to respond to myself as a stranger). Hey man, it sounds like you’re just depressed from the way you over simplify everything. If you don’t have a soul crushing job already, well, that’s great, be grateful. I think you give to much credit to you BP friends wives, nobody with an IQ above 80 takes a woman’s comments at face value. As far as volunteering goes, you may enjoy it and find enormous reward in doing it. Btw, you sound like an awesome person.

calibanister · 2017-12-11T02:11:28+00:00

I'm in the same boat. But it's been that way before I even knew what MGTOW was.

RedCentreRat · 2017-12-11T11:19:51+00:00

Start up boxing, it gave me something to focus on and drains all the rage.

Title	If your life is happy after MGTOW, lend me a hand
Author	BreathGenie
Upvotes	43
Comments	45
Date	December 10, 2017 5:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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