Remember the girl breaking up with "poor" boyfriend? She sabotaged the guy's new relationship and there's more...

cekujiw · 2017-11-16T04:39:06+00:00

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TL;DR - My boyfriend kept his wealth a secret from me throughout our entire relationship. I ended the relationship on the pretext that he wasn't money/career motivated, he didn't say anything to the contrary. I [F26] have been dating Will [M27] for most of 2014; I met him on New Years Eve, we exchanged numbers, scheduled a coffee date and have been seeing each other ever since. He's tall and shy, with long thick hair like Eddie Vedder. He lives in an older house by himself and drives a 1997 Toyota. He dresses very casually - I don't think he even owns a collared shirt - and all his clothes are minimum 1-2 years old. For income, he told me he "ran a few websites" and picked up piece-work as a 'session guitarist'. He is also very frugal. He never took me out for fancy dinners or anything. In the beginning it was always coffee dates, walks, hikes, etc. If we go out, he insists on 'pre-drinking' and refuses to buy drinks at a bar. Most nights he was content staying in, watching Netflix and playing his guitar. I never outright asked how much money he made, but given his lifestyle, clothes, furnishings, etc. plus the fact that he rarely worked, I assumed it wasn't much. I would lightly prod him with questions about the future, if he had any career goals - he would say that he "saw me in his future", but also he was "happy the way things were". I have Facebook and am on it every day, usually when work is slow. Lately my newsfeed has been filled with my peers getting married, buying houses, having babies, and other various accolades. I can't help but feel jealous by this; it seems like everyone but me is making significant gains in their lives and relationships. Three weeks ago, after seeing a girl I knew from high school buy her 3rd property with her husband, it felt like my relationship with Will was juvenile and had no future. The next time I was over at Will's (after he served me potato soup for dinner and was torrenting a documentary for us to watch later) I ended the relationship. I was perfectly honest about everything - he was a great guy, I loved him and his personality, but I felt he lacked career/life ambition and we wanted different things for the future. He sat and listened to everything, seemingly unmoved by it. When I finished talking, he said "fine by me" and asked me to leave. I went to hug him on my way out, instead he just guided me out the door and slammed it shut behind him. With prior boyfriends, we'd still talk or text a bit after we'd be broken up. Sometimes we'd even still hook up. I dunno, I've just never had a 'bad break-up' and always try to remain on good terms. I haven't heard a fucking word from Will, even after texting him multiple times and calling him once. I saw two of Wills friends at the gym today. I went over and made small talk, asked how he was, etc. I tried to explain myself, saying he was a great guy but our views on money and the future didn't seem to mesh. To this, one friend chuckled to himself and walked away. I asked the other friend WTF that's about it, and he says "Yeah, we heard. The thing is, Will's loaded. He inherited his grandpas land which is leased to oil and gas companies. I've seen the quarterly checks he gets and they're more than my yearly salary. Good luck getting him to spend it, though. He has a 'if it aint broke, dont fix it' type mentality. Just look at that piece of shit he drives!" This has completely baffled and upset me. I dated him for 10 months when I thought he was penniless, proof I'm not a fucking gold-digger. I am a 26 year old woman who needs to be pragmatic, I can't just indefinitely date someone with the future being so uncertain. He could've said something, ANYTHING during our break up when I was explaining my doubts about our relationship. Instead he said nothing, and now he refuses to talk to me. It makes absolutely no sense. I just feel so low right now. If a man with disposable income meets a woman he likes, doesn't he want to treat her? He said he "saw me in his future", why didn't he care enough to share these things with me? He could have easily kept our relationship alive by being forthcoming. Someone please help me make sense of this situation.

1st episode

In 2014 I went through a pretty bad break-up. I met Will at a NYE party hosted by a friend-of-a-friend and we dated for 10ish months. I loved him - it was probably the best relationship I'd had on a 'personal connection' level - but he had been dishonest about some things (not infidelity - 'life' things) and it led to us breaking up. I couldn't come to terms with his lying by omission - it seemed like he threw away our relationship over nothing. I was pretty unhappy for a while, not gonna lie. Went on a few dates, had a few Tinder flings, but nothing serious. Around summer 2015 is when things started to turn around and I felt I was in a good place. Happy with my job, happy with my body, happy with my social circle - just all-around happy and patiently waiting for Mr. Right to come along. My friends and I were invited to the same NYE party this year, hosted by the same person. I knew there was a chance my ex would be there, but I didn't care - I was over him. Seeing him and being cordial shouldn't have been a problem. He was pretty icy when the relationship ended, so even if he was there, I didn't expect him to say all that much to me. So my girls and I are there early, having a few cocktails and everything is going great... then Will walks through the door. He saw me, smiled, walked directly over and gave me a big hug. With his arms wrapped around me, smelling his cologne... I just melted. In that moment, whatever bad feelings I had about our relationship were completely gone. I just genuinely missed him. I got through 15 minutes of small talk with him, my heart racing the entire time. He remembered all these little details about me, my friends and my family - I couldn't believe it. When I told him about my job, my new apartment, etc. he seemed happy for me. When the conversation ended, he gave me another quick hug and then left toward the kitchen. My friends could tell that seeing him had affected me. They took me to a more private area of the house to talk it out; they reminded me to not get ahead of myself, he's still the same guy who lied to you, etc. When we went to rejoin the party, he was on his phone giving directions to someone. After a minute of eavesdropping it became clear that he was talking to his girlfriend. Fuck. I should've left then and there, but I didn't want it to seem like him having a new girlfriend affected me. Like I hadn't gotten on with my fucking life after 14 months apart. And so I stayed. She arrived about 10 minutes later and Will introduced her to everyone. She seemed nice enough, but seeing them together made me sick to my stomach. I swear she was being all touchy-feely with him just to spite me. I did my best to avoid them throughout the night. I found out through a friend that they'd been dating for 2 or 3 months. The party ended, I got into a car with my friends and just started sobbing uncontrollably. They tried to comfort me but I was too far gone. They dropped me off and I cried for while longer alone in my apartment. This was supposed to be a fun weekend with my girls, we had all sorts of stuff planned, but I ended up staying home by myself last night. No one questioned it, they all knew. I must've wrote 100 different texts to Will last night but didn't end up sending a single one. I'm going to stay in tonight as well. I want him back so bad, I just don't know what to do :(

2st episode

[Remorse] One night last year I consumed waaay too much alchohol with my crazy friend and we came up with this half baked idea to mess with my ex. We made an account on a dating website using my ex's new girlfriends pictures. We then made a fake guy account and had them message back and forth saying flirty/sexual things. Then we screenshotted the conversation and sent it to my ex, posing as the guy. Essentially saying "sorry bro, didn't know she had a bf". When I woke up the next morning, I immediately regretted everything. I couldn't believe we'd done all of this crazy nonsense. I deleted all the accounts and hoped my ex hadn't seen the message. I never heard anything back so I assumed everything was fine. I talked to a friend yesterday who knows my ex, and I asked if he was still dating his girlfriend. And the friend goes "no, they broke up in [month] of last year." Which would've been right around the time we sent that message. I really hope that it's just a coincidence, but I don't think it is -- my ex ended our relationship very abruptly and I could see him doing the same to her if he suspected infidelity. Yep, I feel pretty horrible right now.

3rd episode

In 2014 I dated a guy for about 10 months. The reason we broke up seemed so silly in hindsight; it was something we could've easily worked through it together. He was such a good guy, we really clicked on a personal level and I always regretted the relationship ending. A month or two ago, I found out through a friend that he was single. Today I worked up the courage to text him out of the blue and ask him to go for a coffee date - and he said YES! I don't want to get too far head of myself, but I'm just so happy that I get to see him again and catch up. We're meeting up on Sunday - wish me luck! :)

4th episode

Jarwanator · 2017-11-16T04:23:22+00:00

Wow she got negged into oblivion on her home turf

battle_opponent · 2017-11-16T05:39:17+00:00

How are we suppose to help him? For all the Internets power, here we are, helpless to help. Damn.

rebuildingMyself · 2017-11-16T05:04:00+00:00

This is quite the saga. I want to know what happens next haha.

2QuietDude · 2017-11-16T05:30:54+00:00

Truly unbelievable

TigPlaze · 2017-11-16T04:49:19+00:00

I'm not saying to take out an AK-47 and shoot her dead, but if that happened to her, I wouldn't be one bit surprised. She's a disgusting and evil human being.

AsianJewLawyer · 2017-11-16T05:24:36+00:00

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Jarwanator · 2017-11-16T09:41:56+00:00

I always said Alcohol is a truth serum. When you get drunk the logic brain gets kicked out and the illogic takes over. The stupid stuff you wanted to say and things you wanted to do whilst sober are held back by the logical brain.

When alcohol takes over, the illogic brain says "Open season! Free for all! Do it! Do it!". So the truth is, she got drunk and destroyed another girl who was in a happy relationship. She always wanted to do that. From the time she found out Will was Richie rich, she had her eyesight on him and everything that stands in the way gets shot down.

What a disgusting gender.

Teflon0819 · 2017-11-16T14:54:16+00:00

Episode 5 will go something like this:

"We're back together but he's still being really frugal with his money and won't spend any of it on me. How do I get him to buy me expensive stuff? I'm feeling like, super neglected here."

Episode 6: "I demanded that he ask me to marry him and he finally did so! But he wants a prenup and that's like, totally uncool so how do I shame him into dropping that idea?"

2017-11-16T15:06:01+00:00

i cant believe how disgusting and obvious this mentally challenged woman is

Xlasingx · 2017-11-16T04:46:11+00:00

danger will!! DANGER!!!

Yashugan00 · 2017-11-16T09:17:57+00:00

The longer this story continues the more convinced I am the last part will be a "and I've been trolling thus different since part 1"

throwaway152038 · 2017-11-16T11:12:15+00:00

If she does it again, I suggest we start to shame her with her pics posted around, like they do it with allegeded sexual harassers. We at least have proof.

2017-11-16T14:21:13+00:00

The hamstering of this woman is insane.

Wolfsrainy · 2017-11-16T15:09:04+00:00

change.org - Save Will!!

UPVOTEifyoulikeboobs · 2017-11-16T17:14:25+00:00

Holy fuck guys, we need to save Will.

2017-11-16T11:58:45+00:00

no will noooooooo

WanderlustYouth · 2017-11-16T12:20:20+00:00

ohhh sheeeit, I really hope Will just pumps and dump her, please for the love of all things good, let this cunt get whats coming to her..

2017-11-16T14:11:19+00:00

Modern women view themselves as independent equals to men, and have a fundamentally feminist outlook even if they don't identify as feminists. Yet, they still appraise men as though they were cavewomen who needed a strong breadwinner to bribe into taking care of them with their pussies.

I believe that if a woman has any interest whatsoever in her partners wealth or livelihood, then she should put a skirt on, shut her mouth, and stay in his kitchen.

lolland1234 · 2017-11-16T15:56:04+00:00

Read all of it and look at how it's worded, this is a prime example of a high-power hamster doing its thing.

ihuntewoks · 2017-11-16T08:06:21+00:00

Bravo!

ShrunkenHed · 2017-11-16T13:00:51+00:00

Well, if she's helping Will stay single, I think she's doing him a solid.

Dertotenkraut · 2017-11-16T13:32:24+00:00

Is there a way to install a recessed Centurion C-ram or a Phalanx turret on your lawn for these types of chicks? Im sure a few warning BBBRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRTTTTTTTTTSSSSSSSSS of 20mm or 30mm cannon rounds will give the appropriate message of kindly leaving the immediate area or face the consequences.

TheRabid · 2017-11-16T13:56:30+00:00

Someone find Will stat and warn him!

2017-11-16T20:30:22+00:00

This is fkin disgusting. It makes me aggressive srsly... She thinks she deserves his money. Why? What the fuck has she done to deserve anything?

Srsly I need to stop reading these kind of posts!

Nezborn02 · 2017-11-16T20:32:32+00:00

Lol I love following this story, but Im pretty sure she's just trolling

eltonl · 2017-11-16T21:24:57+00:00

Haha, she cant give up on money! She will chase Will ad eternum. Thats ridiculous.

Title	Remember the girl breaking up with "poor" boyfriend? She sabotaged the guy's new relationship and there's more...
Author	cekujiw
Upvotes	124
Comments	48
Date	November 16, 2017 4:11 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/7d9w9t/remember_the_girl_breaking_up_with_poor_boyfriend/
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