No not so much in bed, but in life skills. I’ve been with her for almost 2 years and I can’t help but notice she just doesn’t seem to be fully engaged in life or lacks fundamental skills to carry forward with tasks.

For several examples: she sometimes egregiously undercooks meat when she makes us dinner, she apparently ’hates’ doing dishes and seems to be in anguish when doing them, her general cleaning habits are very low caliber for a girl, her room is always a mess with clothes, constantly forgets things on grocery list, hates grocery shopping, she sleeps in as much as she can when she can, always needs to ’relax’ after work (immediately changes into PJs and watches TV for rest of night), she gets fatigued easily, etc.

With all that said, she seems to go above and beyond for me, but struggles when it is just for herself. Is this normal for a modern American girl? She just seems to lack some basic drive or something - and I don’t just mean for a girl but for a person in their 20s. Anyone else experience this kind of thing?